Shaina K.'s Comments
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Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:28pm EDT
LOL girls in this day in age will go up to anal and still consider themselves virgins!
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:17pm EDT
Great chat everyone! Thanks for talking! :)
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:16pm EDT
My kids are even younger than that and I'm trying to give them as much information as I can that they can comprehend about their bodies. So far so good. Although with boys, they seem more interested in talking about poop. *giggles* :)
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:14pm EDT
Huh... did they take to using the word 'penis' well? And why the switch to the new terms for 'penis?'

And I don't think it helps that I have a 'vagina' but when I'm delivering I have a 'birth canal.' Honestly, are doctors just as squeemish about the term Vagina? And the definition for Vagina is "it hosts a penis." I mean REALLY it does a whole lot more than THAT!
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:11pm EDT
Kelly K - if you say "babies come from God" your child might get a stork-like approach to babies. I explained to my children, "your father and I share something very special together that you do not see because it is not for your eyes to see... from that special time we spend together, you guys come along." And I describe the fact that my husband and I were joined through God and together we all help make our special little ones. It really puts it into perspective for them.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:09pm EDT
d d. I'm actually a little disappointed in people like my husband who feel that it's okay to just hand the boys condemns and say "don't get yourself in trouble." I'd rather teach them the values of respecting a lady and everything her body is and represents. It's always "what can I get out of her," versus, "what do I mean to her or will mean to her in the future?"
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:07pm EDT
Oh geez! That's the worst. My kids have been wondering (they're all boys btw) why I don't have a weewee (as the term is coined in our house). And I explain that mommy has different parts. My second always thought that babies come out of my tummy - i.e. like surgically in a sense. I also feel that shows like Baby Story really helped me explain mommy's different parts. At 5 though he's not doing the "tee - hee"ing and "Ha Ha" ing yet. So I feel this is the best time to give him a well-informed approach before the jokes and sexual inuendos begin.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 5:01pm EDT
Wow... the belt... that was before my time. Forgive me for saying so but THANKFULLY before my time.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:59pm EDT
d d. It's true! Parents don't want to get bad reps around town so they just make sure they take care of the problem. It makes people like me who had a child and had only been with one guy (yes ONE GUY!) get called awful names everyday.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:55pm EDT
Michelle, I had to call the news in because I had fulfilled all the requirements (I was even graduating with an AA degree) and my principle wasn't going to allow me to walk after having my child at 18. It was ridiculous. She thought twice after that!
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:51pm EDT
LOL, I got my menstrual cycle and knew what is was but still flipped out for the first two months.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:51pm EDT
That's the same with abortions. Except back in the day women were having abortions under the table and the mortality rate was really bad. I had an instructor tell a story about her sister who almost bled to death because she got an abortion before Roe vs. Wade.

I think it opens up the question of what's more important, the mother or the child?
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:49pm EDT
I agree to a point. But I'm talking to my 5 and 7 year olds about where babies are coming from and they talk to their friends. I'd rather they learn in terms they can understand versus 'vagina' and 'penis.' And it's not because I'm tichy about it... it's because I'd rather they not spout out the words and have OTHER kids making fun of what they know.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:47pm EDT
That's really hard. I was fortunate enough to have been dating my husband for 6ish years before we got pregnant (I was 17 when I got pregnant).

Shockingly enough, it wasn't my peers who gave me the hassel though... it was the adults. I thought it'd be the other way around. I'd never had so many teachers tell me I needed to drop out of school.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:45pm EDT
Michelle oh my gosh! I can't even imagine what would go through my mind if I witnessed something like that. I knew a TON of girls in junior high school who at 13 and 14 were getting abortions - but high school some had had as many as 3 and 4 abortions already!
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:40pm EDT
In my opinion, sex in younger generations has become something as basic as sipping from another person's can of soda - make sure you protect yourself from the back wash and you're good right? When there's a whole can of stuff you're really sipping on. Many in my generation just don't realize the depth of what sex is. I want to see that stigma change... BADLY!
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:38pm EDT
Thank you Sally g.
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Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:36pm EDT
I think that children are going to be exposed to sex in some way whether it be media/television/peers/etc. I think parents don't have a choice BUT to address this in some way. I believe that parents don't set the ground rules... they set the example for their children. Children watch their parents and respond how their parents respond. This is key to children being well rounded and having that understanding on how sex should be introduced in their lives and how it will effect them later on.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 4:33pm EDT
I had a friend who was pregnant at 11 (this is no joke) and I knew what sex was when I was 8... I think sex ed is a must honestly... and early! And I feel that parents need to be open enough with their children to open communcation. Sex can be described in terms that are safe and effective for children to understand but without graphic descriptions as well.
Sep 23, 2009 | rating: 10 | comments: 176
Shaina K. Sep 24, 2009, 11:45am EDT
My kids are young but I wanna have a game plan right now. They already know where babies come from though - wasn't as hard as I thought it'd be! But obviously put into terms they can understand. They feel good knowing they're not being kept in the dark and I feel as though it's one less thing I need to worry about later on when things get awkward. :)
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