Forget pirates and pumpkins ... this year, the kids are going slutty.
Can you believe the costumes out there? It's easier than ever to dress your 6-year-old in a skanky costume: almost all of them are revealing and sexy. Halter tops, bare midriffs, miniskirts, and knee socks are what moms are finding when shopping for a costume for their girls. Is this bordering on child pornography or what?
A girl isn't an Army cadet, she's a "Major Flirt" -- and who knew that female firefighters wore fishnet stockings?! One mom we know mentioned that her tall tween can't even fit into these teensy numbers and ended up having to shop in the adult aisle. There she couldn't find a single "covered-up" costume. What is going on here? Are retailers just following pop culture, or are our girls growing up way too fast? Whatever your answer -- don't be surprised if a 6-year-old dominatrix shows up at your door!
Does your kid insist upon wearing something trampy on Halloween? Here are six tips from psychologist and momlogic friend Dr. Lisa Boesky on how to deal with those fashion fights.
1. If your daughter is under 16, do not purchase a costume you do not approve of. She won't be happy, but she'll get over it.
2. If she is over 16, negotiate on how sexy to dress. She may want a micro mini skirt and you want ankle length -- compromise with right above the knee. Allow her one sexy item versus an entire costume.
3. Be aware of your own clothing choices -- your daughter is paying close attention. If you dress much younger than your age, don't be surprised if your teen dresses more provocatively than hers.
4. Ask your daughter how she feels when she dresses in a sexy costume. Why does she display so much skin? Really listen ... even if you don't like what you hear.
5. Ask your daughter to explain how her sexy costume corresponds to her actual behavior. Does it send the message that she is available sexually? Is she even aware this is what boys might assume?
6. Have her father -- or another man she trusts/respects -- talk with her about how boys view girls who dress overtly sexy (slutty, bimbo, airhead, material, etc.). He should emphasize the "sexiness" of subtlety and leaving something to the imagination.
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I personally think that the way people dress their little girls contributes to how they grow up thinking of themselves and why some get pregnant and have children so early even before completing their educations.
Very sad situation.
We kids would start planning and gathering materials (old fabric scraps, old clothes, trimmings, cardboard, etc) in September. We did most of the construction and painting outselves although sometimes my mom or grandmother would help by sewing a hem on the sewing machine.
Some of the ideas we came up with were pretty cool. My sister and I went as a pair of dice, a salt and pepper shaker, skeletons, car hops (roller skates, not recommended for safety reasons!), veteranarians complete with a wagon of 'sick' stuffed animals in various bandages, giant spiders, etc.
It was so much fun to get involved with the plans and come up with something new each year.