Thought~Byte No.69
Concept and words by John Philipp. Drawings by Phil Frank.
(The comments below are where the wisdom is found.)
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Play nicely among yourselves.
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Sometimes the good of the individual is what the couple needs because unless the individual is complete he/she is not "available" to others.
True. Relationships are rarely 50-50. Needs change and the successful couple adjusts to changes and meets the needs.
Thanks.
I agree with this thought, but I'm not sure putting someone first is the same as putting them on a pedestal.
For example, I put my daughter's needs first as a parent, but it does not mean that I ignore my own, or see her as a perfect person.
I was taught that putting someone on a pedestal meant thinking they were beyond reproach.
The "pedestal syndrome" is multi-layered and complex. Admittedly the word "first" is subject to numerous interpretations and misinterpretations.
(In strict English, it would be "different from" rather than "different than", but nobody's that strict anymore.)
(Thanks for the grammar tweak. Always welcome.)
When you do something for someone you love, you are also putting yourself first. Actually you are putting both of you first.
One of the beauties of ByteWorld — and Life. There can be more than one first place. :)
But I better not say that.
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John, I have been seeking (or at least hoping) for my lady-love so long that when she does appear I hope to be able to fulfill the desire of my heart and place her first in everything. The conundrum, however, is that after so many years alone, will I be able to turn off the attention I've placed on me?
So, Obi-John, got wisdom?
Robert, not to worry. Actually, I think what you'll need to pay attention to is to continue to pay enough attention to yourself.
I watched a video of a couple facing a raging elephant. Each tried to distract the animal to save the other; the husband distracted the animal so that it chased him, when the wife saw that, she ran across its path in an attempt to sacrifice herself to save her husband. As a result, neither were seriously injured.
Sounds like he's putting you both first.
Being loved is a basic need, but don't forget loving yourself as an important precursor to accepting love from another.
I love this one. There is nothing more rewarding than to trust in someone's love, but it's impossible -- in my opinion -- to really grasp the significance of this until you have experienced it, lived it, been there and doing that; the love that trusts like that is -- again, in my opinion -- the ultimate love. I thank GOD that I have that relationship in my life now; it's it own form of joy, and ecstasy, and you do not come by it very often in life, if ever, except maybe with the Creator.
And, as with love, you have to trust yourself before you can truly trust another.