It took me a while, but I got rid of the old contractor and then spent my time in the DIY part of the store. Now I can let everybody plug my toilet and not worry about it. Yeah . . . .
I probably could have let this one go by John. Love of self can be fleeting especially when one's work and livelihood are taken away. Then again, maybe I needed a reminder that God intended his children to be loved. I don't know.
I take this as approval seeking behavior, which I find sad. if you can't be comfortable with "thine own true self" then you have a hard road ahead in life. I feel one must be able to love themselves before being able to truly love someone else.
Dogs are great for providing unconditional love to anyone who feels alone or is without a special someone. They are always happy to see you- unless you're taking them to the vet. :)
Both I do however believe in what Lucy Ball said "You have to love yourself first after that the rest is easy" that may not be the exact but thats the general idea.
This really is a great post. I have no trouble saying all should love themselves and not need to feel loved because of otrhers. In truth I do not love myself and want others to do it. Bummer but I am working on it. It takes time to erase following the example of my father.
I have to say that it depends. You can love yourself, by having others love you first. I truly could not say before I met the man that would be my husband, that I loved myself. But, after being with him for years, having his love and support, finally gave me that push I needed. And, I finally love and accept myself for who I am. Because I had great support from a very loving man.. And, now my children.
"You can love yourself, by having others love you first." Excellent point, Angela.
I'd say the love of another can often provide a safe place to learn how to love yourself, which is often a scary process as it means giving up some old attitudes and feelings and venturing onto new ground.
The corollary to this is that a parent's love can provide the same safe environment.
"Dogs are great for providing unconditional love "
And a good example of how unconditional love feels for those who haven't experienced it growing up.
"Gotta have both for true happiness"
Nancy, I'd say both give you a certain type of happiness. If loving yourself is the only option, that will be happiness as well. Both can be equally fulfilling.
"It takes time to erase following the example of my father."
I understand that, Bert and it's a slightly slippery slope.
Thinking it takes time can make it take time that's not required. You always have to be careful that you are not using others as an excuse for not becoming yourself.
John I try not to hate myself. Asking for me to go as far as "love", too much. I try as hard as possible to detour other people from doing it as well. Silly husband just ignored all the sign posts.
If I did not love myself, who would love me! Should I expect some one else love some one I could not love? I love myself enough to be married for 40 years to the same wonderful man. As far as paying some one to love, that's not real!
I assign that task to anyone out there who is willing to take it on. I've found that if I'm willing to do that for others that they will return the favor and I don't have to mess with doing it myself. I've never really thought of a way to love myself, anyway, I think it would make a hell of mess on my mirror.
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And the wisdom is in the comments, huh? Rather like ANOTHER Gather group I could name... But won't, of course... ;^D
Thanks for sharing, John.
Thanks.
Not everything, Tracy, but this especially.
That's the idea, Leah.
You can mention anything you want.
Or the "first love," Linda.
If we don't love ourselves we cannot accept it from others.
Yes, I'll move this up the list John, thank you for the reminder. (Even if I do go blind )
Greg is love a part time business too?
Shadow cemetery ~:
Lance, if that's a metaphor for how to live life, I love it.
If you're referring to "care for," I'd agree, Lydia.
It often does, Karen.
Once in place, the rest will follow.
Oh K, Lynn.
Exactly right, John and a key point in this Byte.
Nothing wrong with both, Lois.
In reality, you can't let someone else take on this responsibility, much as we'd like to sometimes.
If you include yourself on the "all" Atlantis, then that's a great motto.
It's not something you figure out, Larry.
Maybe we could franchise it, Greg.
(For Greg, everything has business potential.)
Good idea, Jenn. There's more here than meets the mind.
Judi, dogs are to remind you what you're missing by not loving yourself with abandon.
Robert, don't confuse love of self with work and livelihood — your dog doesn't.
Wade, that is a key point. Thanks.
Dogs are great for providing unconditional love to anyone who feels alone or is without a special someone. They are always happy to see you- unless you're taking them to the vet. :)
You can love yourself, by having others love you first.
I truly could not say before I met the man that would be my husband, that I loved myself.
But, after being with him for years, having his love and support, finally gave me that push I needed.
And, I finally love and accept myself for who I am.
Because I had great support from a very loving man..
And, now my children.
Excellent point, Angela.
I'd say the love of another can often provide a safe place to learn how to love yourself, which is often a scary process as it means giving up some old attitudes and feelings and venturing onto new ground.
The corollary to this is that a parent's love can provide the same safe environment.
As it should be, Robert. Dogs and cats are the benchmark.
And a good example of how unconditional love feels for those who haven't experienced it growing up.
"Gotta have both for true happiness"
Nancy, I'd say both give you a certain type of happiness. If loving yourself is the only option, that will be happiness as well.
Both can be equally fulfilling.
That is what is key, Vivian. Without that, the other is not an option.
I understand that, Bert and it's a slightly slippery slope.
Thinking it takes time can make it take time that's not required. You always have to be careful that you are not using others as an excuse for not becoming yourself.
LOL, Bob. Guess you're not perfect.
Welcome.
Love your Bytes John,,, few words, good sense,,,
Bless you,,,
You know — love blinds and all that wonderful silliness.
A clever way to look at it, LaRue.
Thanks.
The rest follows naturally.
I wrote that before I saw Blaine's excellent words. Honest.
Rest easy
Thanks.
It's colder'n hell here.
Rest easy
68 and sunny here. Sorry, the Chamber of Commerce made me type that.
However you get there.