As many of you know, on 9/13/07, Phil Frank, the cartoonist who drew these Thought~Byte pictures, passed on. He will be missed by all who knew him and enjoyed his 30 plus years of cartoon strips such as Farley and The Elderberries.
For those who haven't read these: An article I wrote saying Goodbye to Phil A Life I'd Jump at
Or "I love owning you" or "I love you the way I love my car or my house" or "I love having you serve me." It's only real love when the object of love is as important to the lover as the lover is to himself.
I believe a marriage can survive when based by both parties on need. But it has to be an empty, fractious, , and uncaring relationship dedicated to self. I can just "see" both parties mad because they are not getting what they need because they struggle to get their own needs met. All this to say great message.
Hmmmm, dependency comes to mind. Not a good thing. Maybe that's why I chose to stay single all these years. The men I dated clung to me like celophane leaving me with no room to breathe. I suppose I was sending the wrong message or the message I sent was misunderstood. I enjoy affection but hate being smothered.
Hey John in my life it's the other way around... I'm clingy but honest! I was hoping for a funny this morning and got introspection the universe must be trying to tell me something...
Kristina, while all of the Thought~Bytes are serious, some are more amusing than others. Usually because you look at it and say, "Whew, that's not me." You want funny, try out Humor Monday Update
Loving and needing are two totally different things.
How in the world might anyone confuse the two?
I NEED to eat, sleep, and consume a certain amount of water each day.
Mike and Mark -- the 2 loves of my life -- I didn't NEED them every single day.
No, it isn't the same thing, this "I love you means I need you." We've gone on with our lives, although we still love each other, it doesn't necessitate a particular "need", more so mutual admiration, and respect.
Yes, I have often tried to have deep, psychological discussions with my husband on the difference between wanting and needing utilizing the Freudian method...then we get out the creme pies and play target practice with each other in the kitchen--gets messy, but fun.
John, I think I'll start each day seeing what you've written lately. This cartoon touches home with me, and although I'm not familiar with the cartoonist, I appreciate the message here. Thank you so much for sharing these thought bytes.
Oh, John, lol--Virginmobile? By the makers of the Popemobile, I suppose.
It might depend on the weight of the needy one (it's nice to be needed sometimes, but a little goes a long way), and also how tight he is squeezing....
I publish a couple of Humor Articles every Monday on Gather Essentials: Writing for Humor Monday for which I am the member editor.
There are two new Thought~Bytes every Wednesday. But, there are a total of 89 so far. That should keep you busy for a while. (Up through #71, they were published as images, so search "Images" for "thoughtbytes" or the images on my namespace and they should all pop up.)
I know the power of love and the power of need is a self-consuming one. Love is positive energy and need is more negative as in symbiotic. I love my husband but I need the things that come with that statement that are dependent upon me. I need to be strong, giving, open, truthful, honest, real and true because of my make-up - he does not require any of that but I do and it affects him in that he has to go through the growing process with me but I need him to give me the time and support to be those things. because he loves me, he feels the need to respond to me in much the same way but these needs are unspoken between us. he was married twice before to women who were sometimes on different planes from him and left him out of their growwth and change. I need to have him go through it with me so we are on the same plane without losing touch with each other. I love him but I need his love to complete myself and ourself as a couple as I hope he does. Less negative and easily offset with love and trust.
I believe we're using a different definition of need. It is a confusing word but sometimes the process of sorting out that confusion leads to a better understanding than if you just had a better term.
(At least that's my story and I'm sticking to it).
Interesting how this coincides with my reading of Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth"......he talks about love and how we can't really be present in a relationship whe we "need" our lover, because need is a response to an emptiness that we need to fill..interesting stuff!
Yer makin' me go all introspective here, John! I do wonder for myself, how often I mean "I need you" when I say "I love you" to my hubby or anyone else, for that matter. One has to refer to I Corinthians 13:4-8 to know what Godly love really is, and how we are to truly love one another. Can't do it without God, that's for sure, which is the whole point!
Why does this one remind me of a certain Rolling Stones cover featuring John Lennon and Yoko Ono, only in that one John seemed to have no clothing on? :) I must be showing my nostalgic factor....and age.
P.S. I tried to send you Gather mail. Hope you got it.
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For those who haven't read these:
An article I wrote saying Goodbye to Phil
A Life I'd Jump at
And the final The San Francisco Chronicle article (Tuesday 1/1/08) about their long time cartoonist.
Bidding final farewell to cartoonist Phil Frank
Take car.
Then it's "No growth for you, young man/woman."
"Can I go on the Redwood Run with my two buddies for the weekend?"
Pets and children, often pretty unconditional in their love.
Runaway! Run! Run for your lives!
You want funny, try out Humor Monday Update
Ah, maybe I can phone in my relationship. Cool if that works except I think the "virginmobile" pretty much tells us that it doesn't.
Thanks.
(Hmm, two "cutes" so far)
Why does your daughter have an extra imaginary child?
Always tough to let someone go, even it it's yourself.
Gosh, I don't know what to say on this one.
Loving and needing are two totally different things.
How in the world might anyone confuse the two?
I NEED to eat, sleep, and consume a certain amount of water each day.
Mike and Mark -- the 2 loves of my life -- I didn't NEED them every single day.
No, it isn't the same thing, this "I love you means I need you." We've gone on with our lives, although we still love each other, it doesn't necessitate a particular "need", more so mutual admiration, and respect.
Holler out one more time to Phil Frank!
Yaaay to you, Phil. You'll be missed.
Your thought byte is true on more than one level as others have attested. Thank you for another provocative cartoon.
I am sorry for your loss.
As for the laughing, I think it's both.
It might depend on the weight of the needy one (it's nice to be needed sometimes, but a little goes a long way), and also how tight he is squeezing....
I publish a couple of Humor Articles every Monday on Gather Essentials: Writing for Humor Monday for which I am the member editor.
There are two new Thought~Bytes every Wednesday. But, there are a total of 89 so far. That should keep you busy for a while. (Up through #71, they were published as images, so search "Images" for "thoughtbytes" or the images on my namespace and they should all pop up.)
The virginmobile is the third spammer I've run across today. Must be the moon.
Wait, wouldn't "Spammer Moon" be a good title for something?
(At least that's my story and I'm sticking to it).
:)
I must be showing my nostalgic factor....and age.
P.S. I tried to send you Gather mail. Hope you got it.
I'm sure the mail arrived. Haven't checked in a while.