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You are so right. And it is so sad people are looking for love-all kinds of love-of friends, family-a boss-a boyfriend or girlfriend-how lonely it must be to feel unloved. And Wants and needs are so far apart. And I know how knowing the difference can bring peace to my life.
The true difficulty, I think, lies in determining - which is not easy - what is a want and what is a need. We all need love, for example - but love means lots of different things to different people, and sometimes our expectations of what we're entitled to in that respect are colored by our unrealistic wants.
Waiting for perfection, too, is a recipe for never getting anything - not that you have to "settle" for less than the best life you can have, but you can't have it without working at it.
Yes, Doyle, and ... it got you thinking. One reason to not over define terms. When you do, you eliminate some of the valuable connections people might make for themselves.
I think Monica is on to something in her first comment. If one's "spiritual" life, (for lack of a better term), is healthy, needs become less neurotic and desperate.
I remember back when I was a practicing alcoholic and addict (sobered up 5 years ago)and the alcohol/drug WAS a need that was neurotic and desperate.
This article also helped me to see how different people have different definitions of one small word. Thanks for getting the brain cells a going this morning.
I'm not buying this one, John. Recall your first semester of Psyc #1? Maslov's heirarchy of needs?? We all strive to meet our needs from basic survival to esteric rewards? We can only satisfy our wants after we have met our needs. I feel safe with that statement because it is logical reasoning as in byte #82 and, of course, it is unassailable.
Interesting exchange here. My first instinct was to disagree (also thinking of Maslov). But I can see now that you were using a different perspective as well as different definitions. We can all find some truth here. And it certainly got us thinking.
we were all created with needs..we just need..ha!..we must find out how to fill them ourselves and not wait for delivery by the way..in the email..the number written is '33' and takes one to a 'links' page and not here
John, it's a sign, it's a sign! You've hit on the theme and the payoff lines of the idea I've been floating for Script Frenzy. Needs vs. wants. Cool. Very cool.
Hmmmm. Good for thought. And on my second cup of coffee now. This is the kind of thinking that could fill up an entire day pondering the great mysteries of life. I think I'm going to like your bytes. Will read more.
Food for thought, John. By the mass media telling us what we "want" and "need," a larger hole is created in us, a vacuum if you will. We should isolate ourselves as much as possible from the mass media to be truly fulfilled. I know it's not the Little House on the Prairie days, but can still find refuge. Cheers.
Reminded me of a song by oasis..Acquiesce -- "Because we need each other We believe in one another And I know we're going to uncover What's sleepin' in our soul Because we need each other We believe in one another And I know we're going to uncover What's sleepin' in our soul What's sleepin' in our soul "
I suppose it's a matter of how you define the words, but to me it's the opposite. Needs can be filled: food, water, clothing, a place to sleep. Wants, the things we think we need but can survive without -- like acceptance, love -- are more difficult to fill.
This is a time appropriate topic for me since I've been trying to teach my kids a few lessons!! ha ha Silly me !! Perhaps it is how each individual classifies needs and wants...the most basic concept of economics. Something we have to have vs something we would like to have. Yet, some categories have both needs and wants. A need is basically something we can't live without. Like water, food, air, shelter, clothes, etc. A want is something we want for societal purposes, pleasure, to impress. For example: I need shoes. Walmart: $15.00 I want Roger Vivier shoes of the Stiletto heel, costing many hundreds of dollars. So I'm left to wonder if it is just the dollar value that separates needs and wants?
You raise an interesting question, Willa and it is in a different context than this Thought~Byte. Here the needs are emotional, and not healthy emotions.
Understood, Pat and not the way we are defining it for the purpose of this Thought~Byte. These needs, by definition, can not be filled, and therein lies this message.
My daughter's first grade teacher did an exercise with the students on classifying wants and needs. What a valuable life lesson for such young children. A friend of mine used to tell her children "Wanting is good. You'll get over it." Not everything we think we need is actually necessary. Maybe we all to list wants vs needs.
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The true difficulty, I think, lies in determining - which is not easy - what is a want and what is a need. We all need love, for example - but love means lots of different things to different people, and sometimes our expectations of what we're entitled to in that respect are colored by our unrealistic wants.
Waiting for perfection, too, is a recipe for never getting anything - not that you have to "settle" for less than the best life you can have, but you can't have it without working at it.
(The second Thought~Byte always needs more thinking — and more coffee)
Have a great day.
I have everything that I need. There's still alot of things that I want in my life, but don't have to have them.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
Regards,
Doyle I <~~~~~
Regards,
Doyle I <~~~~~
(I came here for a smile and got an 800 lb gorilla - Guess better luck next week...)
Have a great day, John!
Or, define it in a way that the statement provides the most value to you.
I think Monica is on to something in her first comment. If one's "spiritual" life, (for lack of a better term), is healthy, needs become less neurotic and desperate.
This article also helped me to see how different people have different definitions of one small word. Thanks for getting the brain cells a going this morning.
Congratulations on your sobriety.
Rest easy
great visual!!
by the way..in the email..the number written is '33' and takes one to a 'links' page and not here
Congratulations on your sobriety.
I agree with your cartoon comment.
Thought~Bytes are best if chewed slowly.
Have a great day.
"Because we need each other
We believe in one another
And I know we're going to uncover
What's sleepin' in our soul
Because we need each other
We believe in one another
And I know we're going to uncover
What's sleepin' in our soul
What's sleepin' in our soul "
Back in a few hours.
Meanwhile, ponder deep and play nicely amongst yourselves.
Perhaps it is how each individual classifies needs and wants...the most basic concept of economics. Something we have to have vs something we would like to have. Yet, some categories have both needs and wants.
A need is basically something we can't live without. Like water, food, air, shelter, clothes, etc.
A want is something we want for societal purposes, pleasure, to impress.
For example: I need shoes. Walmart: $15.00
I want Roger Vivier shoes of the Stiletto heel, costing many hundreds of dollars.
So I'm left to wonder if it is just the dollar value that separates needs and wants?
Here the needs are emotional, and not healthy emotions.
These needs, by definition, can not be filled, and therein lies this message.
A friend of mine used to tell her children "Wanting is good. You'll get over it."
Not everything we think we need is actually necessary. Maybe we all to list wants vs needs.