I am currently taking a "bible study" with a group of ladies from town. Were going off the book called "Renewing Love" By: Jo Anderson. It is to help us be a better wife and mother.. Well I have come to realize that there are ALOT of things I have to work on as a mother and wife. My biggest goal through all this is to learn to control my anger and gain patience. I get so worked up in cleaning the house and doing things for myself that I forget my kids need me and they do not deserve to be yelled at because Im busy and they need something. I have done alot of yelling and less real comunicating so my older kids were begining to pick that up as well. When I would get on to them Id yell and be kinda hateful cause it anoyed me since I was doing something.. I am learning to BE PATIENT! And use kind words that do good to those who hear me. The book has alot of very good bible verses and I have taken a notepad that has my name on each piece of paper and I have written these scriptures down and hung them around my house! I have commited to God to change my parenting habits and communicate with my children with no yealling or hurtful words! Its amazing how much I have changed already.. I have always hugged and kissed my kids and told them how much I love them,.. But now I do it more and I give them my full attentiion and I stop what I am doing when they need something and help them. I have learned if I just calmly stop & help them then they will be on their way of playing again.. I do not allow them to talk hateful to one another AT ALL. No yelling at each other for no reason.. We must talk nicely is what I tell them.. But the most important thing is I am doing it with them! Im looking forward to the end results because I dont want my kids to grow up with hatred when they speak to people. I want them to be nice and say good things! I am determined and I am thankful God is helping me so much!
Do you have any problems with the rasie your children and you want to change?
About 3 weeks ago Blake my 3 year old snuck outside while I was doing dishes.. his dad had ran to town and left the front porch light on and door open. When I went to go into Blakes room to see what he was doing I noticed someone outside.. I stepped out their and it was a neighbor holding my son.. She said she was so sorry he was in the road and they did not see him and they almost hit him.. Her and I both cryed and I felt the most numb feeling ever. My life flashed right before my eyes and I took it as a sign from God to change my ways as a mother as he knows I needed to! Blake went outside and took off walking to my father in laws house.. It was picth dark and he was about 20 feet down the road and was on the opposite side of house from where the light was. My neighbor and her husband was going home when they seen my baby and THANK GOD was able to stop and not hit him. 9:45 pm this night is when my life really changed. I could not imagine what could have happened to my baby if This neighbor had not been the one driving down our road. People drive fast especially at night! My neighbor is a preacher at a church here in town.
If something would have happened to my son I would have blamed myself for the rest of my life.. for not teaching him to be a kind gentle boy.. I yell to much and dont give enough affection! I took this event and it has changed my life for the better! I wish God did not have to have such a traggic thing happen for me to realize whats most important but it happened and Im here to tell you change is taking place in my home!
Just dont wait until something so terrible happens to make a change as a parent! I wanted to change so bad before but just could not get myself to pull out of it. Im thankful I am able to do it now but sad it happened the way it did. That poor lady and her husband are having to deal with the fact of knowing they about hit my baby..
Im thankful for my family and Thankful God is with us and helping me be a better mother/person/wife!
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Tiffany I am glad that nothing happened to him! It can be hard to be a parent, especially when you have more than 1 child! God will help you each step of the way...if you let Him!
I realized the other day that I yell too much and it is not effective so a new day has come and now it's patient Mommy and the biggest change I am making is not being a pushover and I'm saying things once and if you don't listen there will be consequences. I AM following thru now.
God Bless you Tiffany, He will and I'm so glad He protected Blake that dark evening. See even in the dark, there was Light, His Light, protecting your baby.
I have gorwn up with my kids and try my best to be the best, it is hard and I think you are awesome for what you have done with the kids one more improvement would not be bad. So glad Blake was not hurt. and the persone found was there, God is there for all the kids your,, mine and the rest of the world. you keep up the great works. it will show when they have kids, I see this now with my little girl and her kids
wow, i am so glad blake did not get hurt. I know i should calm down too. I am working on it a little at time, but as you said it hard when you are trying to get something done
Oh my! I'm glad that nothing happened to him. I'm one that needs to learn a little better patients. I'm getting better but yesterday I had a moment when I was on the phone (poor JoAnn). This summer has been crazy and I'm starting to lose my patience fast and faster these days.
Thanks for the reminder to be more patient.
I'm so glad they didn't hit Blake.
I know I'm incredibly lucky that Elliott only lets the pets out, and doesn't ever actually go out himself.
One thing I'm working on, in regard to parenting, is to actually stop what I'm doing when Elliott needs me, instead of telling him "as soon as I finish unloading the dishwasher I'll help you" or something like that. Unless it's something that legitimately has to be done at that specific time (like cooking once I'm already started), I'm trying to take a few minutes for him right when he asks. Since he's still an only child, it's not too hard most of the time. It's definitely something I want to be doing all the time by the time I have another one, though, since that will make it that much harder anyway.
Tiffany, it sounds like you are making some great changes, all for the good of your kids. Parenting is very difficult. There are times I lose my patience, especially when they are not listening ect. I am working on these very issues myself. The only thing I want my children to remember is love. I want them to remember me reading them books, and teaching them their ABC's, and tickling them on the floor.
Sometimes I get so consumed with all the housechores, I just have to stop myself and remember they are only gonna be little once. A clean house will have to wait for another time.
I am so glad he is okay, sometimes we all need to stop and listen to ourselves. I have found out myself that James does a lot better if I ask him in a low town then yelling at him to do it. It really makes a difference that many don't even realize.
I am glad he is ok. Just remeber you are a great mom and always have been
I'm glad he is okay too. And, honey, you do your best. I'm sure you are a great mom.
Sending (((HUGS))) and God bless you all.
You're a great mom! Don't you EVER forget that!
Thanks you all for your comments! I just realiazed I even posted this and I missed everyones replys..
Life is alot better now too. I have put alot aside to give the kids that attention they want and try to do less housework when they are awake and make them have a rest or nap time to try to get things straightned up. I get most anoyed at night after dinner and then I am wore out but still have to clean up and bathe kids and clean up all the messes and when my hsband dont help I get very mad and crazy! during the day.. I am much better