2 nights ago I received I call from my mom's friend that she had fallen down the stairs and believed that she broke her foot. Unable to help because I had taken a sleeping pill I told her to stay off of it and get to the Dr.'s as soon as she could. My mom was out of town at the time for a work Christmas party and when she came home she informed me that she was going to get her friend to the Dr's and that my dad would watch the kids (3, 4, and 6). My mom came back dropped the kids off WHILE I AM WRITING MY PAPER FOR SCHOOL and told me to watch them until my dad got home...Ok so this is my DAD's house my mom is his roommate they are divorced and I am 26, so not happy at this point. My dad came home and I tried to get my paper written, which required me to watch a movie. There goes writing at Starbucks. If only he knew what was going to happen...her 3 kids have been here 2 days already along with her kitten. I have 2 cats and 2 dogs. I get the whole they will get used to them but frankly why should they be forced to go through all of the stress a new animal puts on them? My mom keeps saying that when the kitten to leaves everything get back to normal. NO! I cannot even pick my cat up she is so jumpy and scared. Why is she scared? Well it seems they thought it was fun to pick her up and take her to the kitten so they could be friends. THIS IS NOT RIGHT! ARG!!!!!! I wish I could explain all of the frustrations but that would take a life time of explaining the hurt and let downs that are mine and my mother's relationship but at least writing this I feel better.
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I would not be handling the situation as well as you are. I'd be going nucking FUTS! That's why I moved out at 20. No kids, I'm the youngest, but I needed my own space. I'm 26 now, almost 27. I love my apartment.
I would put my foot up to my mom, sibling are nice yet you are not the mom there
You need some down time.
There now don't you feel better?
Isn't it nice that you have this place so you can vent.
When I went to college the first time, I already had my own daughter and worked. The second time I had 2 kids, full time job with call and a home to keep up. My husband was a great help.
Where there's a will there's a way.
Family is soooooo much fun isn't it?
My one sister and I see each other once a year and THAT is almost too much. She is in constant competition with me (she is 6 years younger than me and states I ruined her life by having to follow in my footsteps???? Like who told her she had to do that?).
The first big battle was the year she graduated and she was so proud of her 3.8 GPA, which I was proud for her - then she asked mine, which was no big deal to me - didn't really matter - but was 3.98 - OMG!!!! She went into a hissy like no one can explain and that was the beginning of it all. She went to college and got two masters degrees - of which she never used either - but she has a good job and makes good money. Also married into money.
I was a factory rat for 30 years - made good money - had a family - finally was able to go to college and get my degree in my chosen profession - paid for by my company so I could better do my job - was a Quality Technician. But OMG - was on the Dean's List every quarter and graduated with a 4.0 - while working, supporting my family, etc.
And she still puts me down because I never did anything with my life. Well guess what, I am retired, get a small pension, can do what I want when I want (as long as it doesn't require money, which was never an issue for me), I have my children and grandchildren and a wonderful man in my life, and I am happy as a clam).
But the competition rages on for her.
And now my boyfriend's sister is turning into MY sister - she is doing all the same crap. Holier than thou, better than you, my car is better than your car (mine is paid for though), my clothes are nicer than yours (so I get mine from resale shops and sure don't cost what hers do, and I don't even care anyway) - its just the constant thing being thrown in my face.
And its like they don't even seem to understand - I DON'T CARE ABOUT ANY OF THAT STUFF).
I am happy!!!! Maybe that's what they're jealous of!!!!
Anyway, sorry to steal your rant! But I feel better now too~
Hang in there sister - it only gets worse!!! HA HA!!!
HOWEVER, if YOU were the person who was at home when your mom dropped off the kids and YOU are the one who "accepted" them into the house, then you have only yourself to blame.
If you feel that it's a matter of the original "agreement" between the two of you has been violated (i.e., your mom said "I'm leaving them here for a day or two" and you said "okay" and now they've been there for a week), it's up to YOU to pack all of them into the car, drive them BACK to the person who gave them to you and GIVE THEM BACK.
If the person (I would suppose your mom) objects and says "I can't take care of them right now." You should say "That is not my problem. That is YOUR problem. Good bye."
maybe you should take your dad aside I explain whats happing and ask him to help you with this . some times mom look at us for help but this sound like she useing you to watch the kids just because your there ~ make boundrys and hold mom and dad to them ~ Good luck family politics are worse then the untited nations ~ in other words step softly and carry a big stick !
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