I looked at my teenager this morning and wondered when did you become a young adult. For a split second when I looked at him sitting at the table I saw the little baby boy I brought home from the hospital almost 14 years ago. I still remember rocking him to sleep for hours and playing peek a boo with him at 1 a.m. to make him giggle His infectious laughter as a child would echo thoughout the house. Now he may chuckle every now and then but for the most part he is very serious and stand offish. It is so hard to find a common ground with a teenager these days. They are no longer children but yet they are not adults. They want respect but yet do not know how or refuse to give it back. They also think they are ready for responsibility until they understand that they will be held accountable for their action when givin it. It is such a tough age. You would love to be their friend but you need to be a parent. I wish he would understand that.
I try every day to remember what it was like to be his age but I have to admit he does make it hard at times to do so. My patience are tested on a daily.. wait an hourly basis. : ).
I am sure it is harder to be a teenager in this day and age with all the different pressures however they still need to learn respect and responsibility. I always thought how hard could it be???? Yes I thought that when my kids were still sleeping in cribs and when they were hurt a kiss from Mom would make all the pain go away. I miss those days. Well I still have a little longer left with Justin my 6 year old. : )
I hope the stranger in my house sends back my smiling, happy go lucky son soon.. I can honestly say this is one house guest that has over stayed his welcome.
Teengers!! As parents do we do anything right in their eyes? Or are we just the people who have kept them safe and secure for their entire lives??? Oh wait we are the ones who have ruined their lives by not letting them do whatever they want anytime they want. How dare we!!! : )
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My children are grown now. They all lived ... that was the #1 goal. They can take care of themselves ... that was #2. They are nice people ... that was #3.
The hint that I was doing okay was when we'd see a kid doing something and my child would huff and say, "Look at that! You'd NEVER let us do something like that!" or "You would have KILLED me if I'd done that!" LOL! Better yet was, "I can't believe she doesn't know how to wash her own clothes!" That made all the yelling, crying, stomping, throwing of things, tantrums, and mood swings seem worth it.
Hang in there, tell them you love them even when they ARE being little s#%@s, and explain you're just trying to do your best to raise them so they have a good life.
A trip to the psych ward. LOL Good luck!
You are so right.. Time does go by too fast.
I think they smile when they are out with there friends saying what %*^($( there parents are.. lol
I am sure they all compare.. : )
I do want my pal back.. This cranky little critter (well big critter) is getting on my nerves.. lol
He has to take it out on someone. I know he still loves you the same as he always did, he will get over it eventually and your relationship will be that much greater for sticking by his side through it all........just remember, the shed is ALWAYS open!
I think Ian may be using the shed soon.. LOL