by Linda T.
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January 4, 2007

Game of Life Question 31 Ingratitude

January 16, 2009 09:12 PM EST
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     The Game of Life is back.  I thought I would be able to keep the game going over the holidays but this was not the case.  I considered not restarting  the game but found I missed it.  The game provided me with an opportunity to learn more about myself and the people on Gather.   I enjoy discovering new things about myself and hope others do to.

     My parents taught me one thing well and that was to always express your gratitude when someone does something nice for you or gives you something.  I passed this lesson on to my own children and assumed many other parents did as well.  Life has taught me that many people feel the world with all its joys and luxuries should be simply handed to them.

 

              **If you had to name the most extreme example of ingratitude you can think of from your own experiences, what would it be?

 

 

     

  

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Comments: 46

Jody Swaney Jan 16, 2009, 9:17pm EST
I know this sounds trite but I would have to go with taxes. We pay about 30% of our annual income and I feel as if I and most Americans have no say it how it is spent and little to no honest representation in exchange for it.
Linda T. Jan 16, 2009, 9:18pm EST
When my children were young we planned a trip to an amusement park that was located two hours from our home. One daughter had befriended this girl whose family was not very well off. We felt bad that this young girl had never been to an amusement park and invited her to go along with us at our expense. The day had been very tiring and we discovered this girl was not as well mannered as should be. On the drive home my children asked if she had fun and she replied yes. My children all thanked my husband and I for the fun time. This girl did not. The kids whispered to her that she should say thank you. She refused and declared that she did not have to say thank you. This upset my kids greatly and they tried to reason with her. The entire trip home she kept saying she was not going to thank us. Never have I been so tempted to kick a child out of my car.
.* Sandi * Jan 16, 2009, 9:21pm EST
**If you had to name the most extreme example of ingratitude you can think of from your own experiences, what would it be?
I can think of little ones, Im trying to think of one but cant. I try to forget fast lol
Kathryn E. Jan 16, 2009, 9:30pm EST
not sure...maybe my stepmother ignoring me and refusing to talk to me. yeah, that's it.
Kim B. Jan 16, 2009, 9:36pm EST
oh, to many things have happened in my life that could go under that category. I choose to forget instead of drudging up bad memories.
Susan Kelley Jan 16, 2009, 9:41pm EST
My husband and I stopped once on the way home from work to help a kid from our neighborhood who had had a minor car accident. We drove her home and let her use our cell phone to call her parents. She never said thanks, neither did her parents, and about a week later, our dog escaped through his invisible fence and chased the birds from their feeder. They called the dog warden!
Donna Besso Jan 16, 2009, 9:42pm EST
I'd have to write a book.
Karen G. Jan 16, 2009, 9:45pm EST
I guess I would prefer to think of the things that I am grateful for.
Claudia (kitty-cat) K. Jan 16, 2009, 9:54pm EST
Ingratitude. Many things come to my mind; things on which I prefer not to dwell. The majority of my family members have shown this trait. Immediate as well as extended. I have forgiven them, but they are tending to do the same things to others that they have done to me, and it not my duty to forgive that. What goes around comes around.
Jennine D. Jan 16, 2009, 9:59pm EST
I think the height of ingratitude are adult children who put their elderly parents in nursing homes and never visit them. They just leave them alone assuming that everything is okay. Parents who raised, loved, cared for them and nourished, supported, encouraged them. The kids grow up and act like their parents are dead.
Nancy Biri Jan 16, 2009, 10:04pm EST
Thanks for sharing
Beth G. Jan 16, 2009, 10:07pm EST
I think ingratitude is when Ive sacrificed myself to the bone for the people I care about and they dont care about my needs in return.
Susan Roberts Jan 16, 2009, 10:40pm EST
A man I worked for had a very bad temper. One day he got mad at his wife and pushed EVERYTHING off the counter at the resturant. Then they went home to make up, leaving me there to take orders, cook, serve and clean up. He got mad becuase I had missed cleaning up some soda from the cabnet door, that he had made the mess with. When I walked out the door that evening, I didn't go back.
Karen F. Jan 16, 2009, 10:46pm EST
My last ex husband...when we married, I helped him get his practice build up and get out of the red...running his office and he in turn had an affair, and divorced me almost a year and a half ago. Now he is struggling again and has to sell his practice to get things straightened out, and still pay me...
William M. Jan 16, 2009, 10:53pm EST
My mind is a blank tonight. I can't think of a big one.
Jan S. Jan 16, 2009, 10:59pm EST
My husband co-signed for his daughter's home mortgage. Very soon after, she cut us out of her life. We see our grandchildren about two or three times a year, when it's time for Christmas or birthday gifts. I won't even go into the financial nightmare.
Georgiana S. Jan 16, 2009, 11:05pm EST
how about a top ten list?!
Laurie R. Jan 16, 2009, 11:08pm EST
I guess I see signs every day from friends to strangers. I choose to just live life the way I feel I need to. I always hope one day their karma will catch up them.
Debby C. Jan 17, 2009, 12:23am EST
wow, well I guess I am going to have to think on this one......
Donna T. Jan 17, 2009, 12:29am EST
My father's reaction to our moving near him at his request.
Ariel Storm Jan 17, 2009, 4:26am EST
Can I just sum it up by saying my ex-husband?
Kimmie X. Jan 17, 2009, 4:29am EST
I really think think that kids age are grateful for angthing, rich or poor.. ikts a teenager..... I think you are all that and a bag off chips...... lol
Christine K. Jan 17, 2009, 9:07am EST
I bought my dil a necklace for Christmas, I took alot of time picking it out. I searched and searched for the right gift. When she opened it she looked at it and then just threw it down! She almost left it when she left our house! It really hurt.
Courtney C. Jan 17, 2009, 10:43am EST
I don't think I really have one...but that's probably a really good thing.
Jennifer Lee Jan 17, 2009, 1:43pm EST
I'm with Beth on this one. I give of myself so freely when I'm in love, sacrifice my own needs and wants. Oftentimes I've only to get slapped in the face.
How about a follow up post on gratitude? That ought to be interesting as well! Thanks, Linda
Kelly Kay Jan 17, 2009, 6:27pm EST
I think raising my step daughter mostly by myself for 11 years. Being the only mother in her life, and having her turn on me and my daughters. She now "doesn't remember" all of the times I took her to parks, picnics, zoos and etc. Not to mention taking her to all of her functions and being the ONLY parent at any parent school activity. When she was sick her mother told the office to call me because she couldn't get off of work. I raised her as my own and took care of every aspect of her life and never got a thank you. However I did get a couple of "f" you!
Angela A. Jan 17, 2009, 7:25pm EST
Personally, I've never seen ingratitude in my life. Everyone in my family has always been rather grateful for what they have.
Kat W. Jan 17, 2009, 8:44pm EST
My daughters friend was invited to go with us on vacation to Florida. Her mother didn't have any cash to give her for spending money so she wrote me a check and I gave the girl $50.00 of my own cash. The girl was a total pain in the butt the entire week, she didn't say thank you, she's 15, her mom didn't say thank you and the check bounced. Nice eh?
Patti M. Jan 17, 2009, 8:57pm EST
My mother taught us the same thing. Unfortunately she herself did not listen to what she preached. Her and my step-dad were coming from KS TO IN for a visit. I cleaned until everything shined. My mom loves coffee and the flavored coffees were in vouge at the time. I knew she loved French Vanilla as a flavor of ice cream or pudding. I found an expensie bled of coffee that was French vanilla flavored. I couldn't wait for her to try it.

I offered her some after the long drive. Her responce was a curt"I ONLY drink plain coffe not that crap." I was so hurt you can't imagine.
Lee P. Jan 17, 2009, 10:35pm EST
Hmmmm, can't think of anything. I guess they are all so bad that my subconscious hid them from me. LOL
Teresa T. Jan 18, 2009, 2:39am EST
Here are bear hugs with helping hands to pay it forward.
Lin B. Jan 18, 2009, 3:53pm EST
I choose to forget instead of drudging up bad memories, and have a perfect sunday!
Susan K. Jan 18, 2009, 6:55pm EST
I am sure if I could think of something specific it would have to do with a patients' families not appreciating the hard work and limitations (due to the system) of staff. That always amazes me with any occupation when someone is busting their @ss for you/your family and the response is nasty or negative.
Ron (in complete sheeple overload) W. Jan 18, 2009, 7:05pm EST
There is a reason for the saying "no good deed goes unpunished". All I'm sayin' on that.
fancy c. Jan 19, 2009, 9:56pm EST
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Kitty Lone Hawk Jan 20, 2009, 8:12pm EST
I would have to say the way people and our government treat/treated our veterans. My FIL and my Uncle both veterans of WWII and Vietnam, served and served proudly and when they got old and sick we would have to drive them to a VA hospital in another state "because that was where they lived when they originally served" even though we had a new VA just an hour away. We would have appointments and then still have to wait HOURS to be seen, and with a man who is sick and in pain that was uncalled for. Many many times we would be turned away to come back tomorrow, as they had no appointment scheduled and too busy, leaving us to to take home a sick, painful man who felt like crap and depressed for the INGRATITUDE he was being met with. Both my FIL and Uncle died in agony and with enormous guilt over leaving bills not covered because we took them to a "normal" hospital instead of a VA one, in hopes of saving their lives. I pray this new President keeps his word and changes this LACK or poor care/treatment of our servicemen and woman.
Dr. Erica Goodstone Jan 20, 2009, 11:21pm EST
Ingratitude, thinking about it gives us all a chance to vent. Everyone has people in their lives who have not shown gratitude. I have been finding that as I focus more fully on what I am grateful for and give as freely as I can, even to those who are not grateful or not even nice to me, then I feel really good about myself. Also, as I accept support from those who do appreciate me, I can recognize that when someone is ungrateful it is more about them than about me, and I can more easily let it go and move on.
regina k. Jan 21, 2009, 12:24pm EST
i have way to many to think of
David S. Jan 21, 2009, 5:37pm EST
As wonderful as my kids are they are still too young to really grasp the thank you for everything, so almost everything that we do for them goes unappreciated by the words, though not necessarily by the actions.
Gary (aka: William Pinn) J. Jan 22, 2009, 2:42am EST
The ungrateful IRS and Jury commissioner sent me notices!
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Terry M. Jan 23, 2009, 11:59pm EST
I could write a book too.
Andrea (Ms. Conservative) L. Jan 27, 2009, 10:32pm EST
I am going through my backlog of articles created by you, my friends. I am so sorry that I do not have the time to spend on reading each of your articles in detail, but do know that I was here to leave a comment. God Bless and Have a wonderful week!
Roberta Moto Feb 3, 2009, 1:40pm EST
I would have to agree with the person who said the government and the VA. My oldest brother is a Viet Nam vet and he never got any services from them. They are only now trying to contract with Tribal Health Consortiums in rural Alaska to provide services to Vets out here.
Andrea (Ms. Conservative) L. Mar 20, 2009, 2:26pm EDT
Hello
d d. Dec 10, 2009, 8:44am EST
thanks for sharing.

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