by Tamara L~will view, may comment~ S.
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August 30, 2006

Why do I want to be your Friend?

January 15, 2009 09:16 AM EST
views: 52 | comments: 20

I get so tired of people questioning others, asking, "Why do you want to be my friend,  you don't even comment?"

Not to sound like a rude child, but duhhh.  Don't you want people to read your articles?  After all, views count for something.

I personally don't care whether or not you are my friend.  Delete me if I'm not commenting if you want, but I may not read your articles anymore, not because I am mad for being deleted, but because I typically go down my friends list to read the articles.  I invite or accept you as a friend because I want to read what you write, or because I like to look at your photos or videos.  I may or may not make a comment, depending on how much time I have or whether or not I have something to say.  Sometimes my hands get tired from typing.  I at least want to see what you posted.  Is that such a problem?

 

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Comments: 20

♠~Dnbuster~♠ ~. Jan 15, 2009, 9:20am EST
i dont see a problem, you cant comment every one, everyday:)
Qpon Lady Jan 15, 2009, 9:22am EST
Nope, not a problem for me!
Gather has oodles and oodles of content. It is impossible to always post to everyone's material. I am trying my best to post to everyone on my friend's list whenever possible. I always appreciate a comment I receive, no matter who it comes from. I even appreciate the poor ratings, because at least I got a view from it! lol Have a great day!
MrsRoad Runner Jan 15, 2009, 9:28am EST
MMMMM
I am surprised when people want to be my friend, I mean I like myself, just do not ever think it was something others want to copy.......
I am sure plenty have deleted me, why worry about it? Just feelings right? Can not please everyone right?

Sorry if someone hurt your feelings, would be easier if we did not have any.......
Amy just hangin' out M. Jan 15, 2009, 9:35am EST
i tend to go down the list of my friend's content, rather than go to a particular group to read. my view is the more friends i am connected to, the more people's stuff i will have a chance to read. i don't always comment on everything either, but i do what i can do.
kelldogg ! Jan 15, 2009, 9:40am EST
i've seen you comment, i'm not sure where these other folks are though???
J W. Jan 15, 2009, 9:41am EST
I agree with Amy. I do go down my friend's list to comment but I also look at other stuff by people who are not connected with me or not my friend.
Kelly K. Jan 15, 2009, 9:42am EST
Personally, so far I have become friends with people because I joined their group or read a post they wrote and like what they had to say, or because they sent me an invite. I'm open to being friends with anyone, as long as they are open minded. I don't expect people to even read everything I write, forget about commenting!
Laurie R. Jan 15, 2009, 10:05am EST
I go through my friend's stuff first. It's hard to get so much done sometimes and I can't be on the computer all day and night. I only have about 60 friends right now and I have a hard time keeping up somedays. I don't know what the people do with like 600 friends!!! If I finish friends, then I move to my groups. In between, lately, I have been helping out with the Comment Speedway stuff.
Don't sweat it. This isn't high school and we are all adults. Why take it so personally???
Ryan M. Jan 15, 2009, 10:25am EST
Even when I am short on time I try to give a bunch of people on my friends list page views.
Trish A. Jan 15, 2009, 10:30am EST
I've lost track with my Gather friends since many of the changes. I started going through the explore and trying to find them. It sounds like I need to try your technique Tamara. Also, I haven't written much of late. I do miss some of my Gather friends.
Tamara L~will view, may comment~ S. Jan 15, 2009, 10:40am EST
I'm not taking anything personally. I have just noticed other people taking things personally, and I felt it was worth writing about.
DesertDarlene L. Jan 15, 2009, 10:51am EST
I agree. I learned that you really get paid for page views either by viewing or being viewed. I, lately, have only deleted friends that I no longer want to read their content or they've been leaving strange comments.
Stacey *Mamasaid* D. Jan 15, 2009, 11:22am EST
So true Tamara. Good post.
.* Sandi * Jan 15, 2009, 12:19pm EST
good post
Nana to Seven Cutiepies Jan 15, 2009, 2:53pm EST
I think a lot of people forget that it's the page views that get the points. It's nice to try and comment though so others will come to your posts. You can only do so much in one day though.
Desiree T. Jan 15, 2009, 5:46pm EST
so sorry! i like you get around as best i can. hope the rest of your day goes better.
Cheryl W. Jan 15, 2009, 7:04pm EST
It isn't a problem for me...:)
Nora Davenport Jan 15, 2009, 7:16pm EST
I guess just do what you can when you can!!!!
Tamara L~will view, may comment~ S. Jan 15, 2009, 11:18pm EST
Thank you all for your comments and views. I love ya!
Mariana T. Jan 16, 2009, 5:52pm EST
hi Tamara - I go by title rather than if a person is connected to me or not - I rarely send out a friend request but somehow have about 500 friends - I've deleted many but still have a few. Thank you for your comments. Salud

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