Prayer Request ~ Sharing Our Loss...

October 15th 2008 Update:

Our son has turned that first vital corner towards a healing path. He finally cracked open, talked and released some of all that he has been holding in silence since the death of his son. Thank you, thank you, thank you one and all for your kind and generous outpouring of support. It is most deeply appreciated, and thank you seems like a bare beginning. This has greatly eased my own stress and sorrow over this terrible tragedy, although I am quite certain that this pain is something I will carry always, I am hopeful that time will ease it somewhat.

Yesterday was our son's 20th birthday, and fortunately for all of us it was a happy event... but I couldn't help looking at him over the course of the evening and think... 20... too young for most of us to have a child, let alone loose one. I can say without doubt that loosing a child in one's family is a truly heart-rending tragedy that no one should have to experience, and watching your own child try to find their way through this particular pain is like loosing that child twice. I am only thankful that the love has always been equal to the pain I've found in this life.

 Wishing You Laughter

September 26 2008 Update: 

I'm putting this back into the spotlight. At this time our son is still struggling to deal with this tragedy. He is convinced that he failed his son by not being there, by not being able to prevent his death. Please, keep our son in your thoughts/prayers/meditations during this difficult time. He needs the support far more than he realizes, or would admit if he did realize.

Original post - August 5th 2008:

I just got a hysterical call from my son's ex... My grandson was hit by a car and killed while on vacation in Arizona. (We're in PA) Please, keep them in your thoughts and prayers, and I will keep you posted. Whatever your spiritual path, he was only 3 and his parents are also quite young... far too young to loose a child; 19 & 20. We are leaving to pick up my son who was visiting friends a couple of hours away when he got the news. He is alright, but he put his head through a window and is getting stitches at the hospital right now. Thank you for sending light and love for these three souls.

It's been confirmed. Zakary is gone. Hit by a car. March 10, 2005- August 5, 2008

A bright light, gone too soon...

 our tears will eventually dry up, but we will love you forever Zak

Death is always hardest on those left behind, perhaps especially so in the case of a child...

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I give you this one thought to keep -
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still -
in each new dawn.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die...

~~ Author Unknown ~~

"It is the will of God and Nature that these mortal bodies be laid aside, when the soul is to enter into real life; 'tis rather an embrio state, a preparation for living; a man is not completely born until he be dead:  Why then should we grieve that a new child is born among the immortals?"  ~Benjamin Franklin, 22 February 1756

"While we try to teach our children all about life, Our children teach us what life is all about."~Angela Schwindt

"Remember that your children are not your own, but are lent to you by the Creator."
~Mohawk proverb

"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."  ~Kahlil Gibran