Now I know I am about to get slammed again by those who only read a few lines like this got the fist time I posted it.
I know this sounds like a "Big Brother" type of question, but when you see some headlines and hear some of the news today, it is actually a moral question. Take today's news I heard, of a woman selling her 7 year-old daughter for porn and what ever the buyer wanted. When the police held a sting operation for the woman, she came with a bag of sexy dresses for the girl, and sex toys with prices that they could be used for.
Thank who ever you believe in the mother no longer has that poor girl. But the issue of this question is not just her, but the parents that have kids and doing all sorts of other things with and to them. I mean how many of you have heard of cases where a drugged out parent has sold their child for sex to get drugs? Or the parent that beats, molests, or even as fat as kills them?
Is there a way to with a high level of surety sort out those that are not fit to be parents? If so should they as part of their marriage tests be tested for this, and if fails have to be fixed so they will not be able to become parents?
Personally, if a parent is a known drug user, just for precaution, I would say they could not have kids and should be fixed so they could not. But that still leaves many others this would not even touch. So how?
Children as we all know are not able to defend themselves so society has to find a way to protect them with laws and guide lines in their defense. Yet there are other issues involved that have to be taken into consideration as well.
First of all, no test is ever going to be 100%, and that fact is well documented from the errors we have done before based on tests governments and learned experts have tried to correct a number of things. I was through one in the UCLA when I was a kid. Being dyslexic and reading books that were so far above my age level, the Schools in California thought there was something wrong with me. So I went to UCLA where they thought they could detect retardation from blood tests. I was stigmatized (as in classified) through my whole time in school because of this, even though I never showed what they thought they would find.
Another thing to remember is that People do not always show the same signs as others with the same problems, which is why it is hard to detect some forms mental illness easily in many people, and thing some have it when in fact they do not. Testing might weed out some, and misdiagnose many more maybe within a safe parameter or way outside it.
When I look at the various cultures I have studied, in books read, and in college as an Anthropology student, I see one thing in the simpler cultures we have long lost. That is any form of social unity. In a culture that is what we would label "Primitive" if someone was to molest or hurt a child, they would either be kicked out of the community to live in the wild with nothing but the close on their backs, or out right killed (both leading to the same thing). In our present culture, we are often afraid to speak out, or get involved because of being sued for defending a child, having the person (the accused) coming after you, or being ignored. I agree there are malicious people out there that would do this just for spite, but I am not talking about them. Our schools very much fail our kids too when they see the signs. They should be the first to speak up, but in most cases they stay quite and don't make waves in the community that pays their checks. This should be a reason Not to pay them!
In ending, I just feel as a citizen of this country, and a friend to people from many countries, that there should be something that would help these kids, either from a social or political avenue. Maybe a combination will be what is needed.
Please feel free to offer your suggestions and views.


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I am not saying she is the expert, but she has a very practical common sense approach that I used all the time with my boys.
Yes it is a tough one, and I wish I knew an answer, as many here will want the same thing...
Nippy, that is the point, and what makes it hard, yet too many kids are put in danger by bad parents that should never have had kids in the first place.
What I am about to say is rather frightening to me but it does hold promise that it will be possible, one day, to detect and stop child abuse very early on. Of course the technology that makes the solution possible may be far worse than the problem it can solve.
Computers and spying technology are improving at a very fast rate. Your computer can already recognize your voice and type what you say. Your phone can take video. Your car can call home for help if you have an accident. Before many more years, like it or not, the computers will be watching and listening to us no matter where we go or what we do.
This technological ability will be used by your boss, your competitor, your neighbor, your government(s), the businesses from which you buy and your spouse. Any and everyone can and will spy on others. You can just imagine what use the government will make of this ability. If you thought Big Brother was bad, you ain't seen nothin' yet.
So, one day the technology will allow the computer to detect and call help for any child being abused. It might even be used for that, sometimes.
Again that day will be here soon (5 years?). If you don't want all those folks watching yor every move and listing to your every word hadn't you better investigate what can be done to prevent it without giving up electricity all together?
See www.nopom.info or read Invisible Hand which shows a society with this pervasive computer system but everyone has all the privacy they want. It actually can be done without laws, without enforcement, without giving up all the good things computers can do for us.
I don't knowif technology could or in all honesty should be used. The problem there, is that there are too many varibles that are too hard for technology to sort out. And judgement even in the right thought, can make mistakes... So what is the right way to deal with this??? Maybe one day we can figure it out....
Rita, did she have a choice, or was it a program he worked under?