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by Renee (Pres of Baby James Foundation) ~.
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November 12, 2007

Why did you say that? - A remark that really bothered me

April 12, 2008 04:52 PM EDT
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I have been debating a few days on writing this article as well as how I was going to go about it.  I had an individual as one of my connections; same one many of you have I may add.  Please don't ask me who I don't want to start a huge war over this. 

Few days ago I received a gather mail asking me to please remove from their list.  First that didn't bother me because to be quite frank I have received others over my mass emails.  So I will first start out with this.  Why I send mass emails?  I am here for a cause , it is a prooven fact that I get more hits off people when I mass email then when I don't.  As well as being here for a cause sometimes I feel the information is really good for all of you to know rather it be a contest, event, etc.  I as well don't mind mass emails in return if I don't want to read them according to the subject I just will delete and be polite about it. 

Now the email went on and this part really bothered me.  The message was sent out in regards to Tiffany's baby shower.  Now I know some of you may not be interested in this event but what if I forgot to invite one of you that really cared for Tiffany?  Wouldn't you of been upset?  I had messages asking for reminders that as well would of upset some if I didn't remind. 

Now this person informed me that my emails was insane and he didn't care about Baby James or Tiffany's baby shower.  First where is it insane?  Because I sent the emails and where has it been daily?  Excuse me I have been in hospital part of the time now explain that one to me.  Second, To say you don't care about Baby James?  OK now this really to be frank pissed me off!!!  How can anyone say they don't care about a baby?  He identified him as Baby James so it meant he knew he was a baby.  I thought well this man is an older gentlemen I know others from that generation don't look at abuse as some of us do so I thought ok maybe thats it.  Then I thought maybe this person has never been abused maybe he don't understand.  OK if thats the case more of a reason for me to mass email as well as keep posting my articles.  Now as far as Tiffany's Baby Shower if you are not interested ok fine just delete the email.

 Lets go just a little farther here I would like to tell this person and anyone else who feels like him and I am sorry if I offend anyone here.  NO child deserves to be abused in any form what so ever.  My son, baby James did not deserve for one moment to be abandoned, slapped at 2 weeks old, pinched, held under water, neglected, do I need to go on?  For you to say you do not care about Baby James tells me you have a serious problem yourself.  Really bothers me that I am sure at your age you are a father as well as a grandfather.  Do you not care about your children or grandchildren?  What would you say to that if someone said it to your child or grandchild?  Would it be okay if Baby James had a serious illness instead of a survivor of abuse? I was told so many as a child that they didn't care I am here to tell you that hurts!  How can you tell a baby yours or someone elses that you don't care?  No it may not of been directly but directly or indirectly is so wrong.

I completed by deleting this person and if anyone else has problems with it feel free to delete me as well I am sorry I don't have the time and I don't need right now to get upset over comments from individuals who are ignorant.  No I did not respond to this person and no I won't I don't come to gather for that reason.  I come to educate and that I will continue to do.  Would this of bothered me if it was said about any other baby?  Yes it would a baby is a baby and you should never say you don't care about a baby. 

I am so sorry for venting but is something I had to do nothing on gather has upset me in such a way as this.

Now I ask in conclusion why would anyone say something like this?

 

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Comments: 152

☃ Aunt Shanny Apr 12, 2008, 4:55pm EDT
He sounds like an a** whoever he was.
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Bebe S. Apr 12, 2008, 5:01pm EDT
Sorry somebody was so rude to you.
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Dee - Nature Babe! Apr 12, 2008, 5:01pm EDT
I see life, innocence and love, in a baby's eyes.
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Vivian P. Apr 12, 2008, 5:01pm EDT
well I don't mind your e-mails. HUGS
I am and always well be concerned about the welfare of our children !!
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Marilyn M. Apr 12, 2008, 5:01pm EDT
Michelle is right. Lots of us do care. Don't bother yourself with those who don't.
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Sharon C. Apr 12, 2008, 5:07pm EDT
There are some real jerks in this world and on Gather. Just delete him and anyone else who is unfeeling and pathetic enough to complain about something like that. You arecared about and you need to take care of yourself and that sweet baby. Don't worry about a**holes like that.
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Donald M. Apr 12, 2008, 5:07pm EDT
Some people feel that bad attention is better than no attention at all. They probably are not getting the attention they feel they need.
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Karen W. Apr 12, 2008, 5:08pm EDT
Like my Mother always told us. If you do not have anything nice to say keep it to yourself!
How are you feeling? Good I hope!

Karen
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Julie (there will always be a rainbow) G. Apr 12, 2008, 5:08pm EDT
Ditto what Michelle said, Renee. We know where your heart is and I doubt there is any changing the mind of this man, whoever he is. Cut him loose. It is his loss, not yours and not James'.
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Laura Cushing Apr 12, 2008, 5:09pm EDT
I usually don't mind receiving mass mails - as long as they're not trying to sell me anything, push me into doing something, or convert me - it's all good as far as I'm concerned.

I only mass mail on occasion (usually once every couple of weeks for my Soundtracking column), but when someone complains about it I just remind them that they can use the 'block sender' feature to not receive any more mails from me.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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Jerri H. Apr 12, 2008, 5:11pm EDT
I wouldn't say something like that. I am sorry you had to hear that. He probably saw it in your name and just used it in his comment...he probably didn't know anything further than that. You are better off without that person as a connection.
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Joan G. Apr 12, 2008, 5:12pm EDT
Renee, this happened to someone else to who I will not name publicly.
When someone takes the time to be mean and vengeful it is a sign of something else.
If I am too busy to read posts I just delete. If I am in a mood to connect, I respond. It would take EXTRA concern and interest to take the time to be insulting to someone and ask to be removed. So I think that person was going through insanity and wanted to transfer the emotional anguish onto U.

Release, reject and remove the person from your memory. Have a wonderful day and keep doing what U wake up and are directed by God to do...not for your glory but for HIS.
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Danielle P. Apr 12, 2008, 5:12pm EDT
I wouldn't take it personally it's is just his feelings. As Michelle K said there are many of us who do care. Keep up your crusade for the children. Everyone in the world or the gather world is not going to 'care' about everyone's causes no matter what they are. It is what makes us all different. Keep on keeping on and know in your heart there are many more that do care than that don't care.
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Ashley B. Apr 12, 2008, 5:15pm EDT
No need to apoligize for venting. Surround yourself with those of us that care and forget about the rest. I don't mind your emails. I'd miss some great articles and issues if it weren't for peoples articles.
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Priscilla (wishing I was in Costa Rica) ~. Apr 12, 2008, 5:15pm EDT
Yes, we always have the option to delete them as a connection.
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blaine d. Apr 12, 2008, 5:22pm EDT
you GO girl lol!
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Alison Pearce Apr 12, 2008, 5:25pm EDT
I understand your need to vent Renee and I hope it has given you some peace. I don't mind the mass emails, even though I don't always have the time to get over. Chin up!
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~*~Danyale~*~ N. Apr 12, 2008, 5:26pm EDT
i don't understand what his problem is baby's are wonderful reguardless and how anyone doesn't care about a baby is very cold hearted. As far as the mass emails I don't see anything wrong with it, i mean i don't do it very often but i have been told by several people that i should do it to get people to exspress what they think about my posts bein' that there my friends i care more of what they think anyways. And your right if the mass email doesn't interest you just delete it.
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carmel m. Apr 12, 2008, 5:28pm EDT
That person does sound like he has some issues renee. Forget him.
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Jennifer N. Apr 12, 2008, 5:30pm EDT
Laura's right. They could have just blocked you quietly instead of sending that mail.
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Luna Rushdi Apr 12, 2008, 5:32pm EDT
Hi Renee, I don't mind your emails at all. I try and visit the articles if I can as well.

I use the mass mailing feature too, only about every 2 weeks like Laura said in her comments. Just to spread the news of my correspondent article when these are published. However, I always leave a note on my article, so that people can let me know if they don't want to receive these mails and I take them off my list.

So far I have only had one person who does not want to be notified and that is fine by me. He was very polite to me when asked to be taken off the list and I was happy to oblige.
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KaraokeMan P. Apr 12, 2008, 5:32pm EDT
I have no clue what you are talking about, but if someone has upset you this much, remove them from your list. That is about all I can say.
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Christy F. Apr 12, 2008, 5:34pm EDT
Sounds like someone was having a bad day! :) I thought it was precious for you to have a gather baby shower! Don't let little people bother you!

Have a great day!
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Marie J. R. Apr 12, 2008, 5:38pm EDT
God Bless you Renee,,,
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Angie O. Apr 12, 2008, 5:43pm EDT
That was very rude, as far as emails, I have to be honest, I rarely have time to check my regular emails, I don't see sending a message telling about articles when you are receiving the article and can read it without being notified. But, my main thing is I really don't have time to check Gather emails. I guess I am saying it makes no difference to me, I am sure your causes are good Rnee, just that lots of times I don't read emails for lack of time.
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Holly G. Apr 12, 2008, 5:43pm EDT
I don't mind mass mailings either...with this new upgrade, I am hoping for my connections to send them now, being I can't find anything! I try not to send them often, andyou are right, a lot more people see your stuff when you do send an email. I think you did the right thing by deleting him...some people have nothing better to do then complain about things. I wouldn't worry anymore about it Renee! Hope you start feeling a little better about it, he's unimportant!
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Katie Scarlett (Site Bouncer Wanna Be) O. Apr 12, 2008, 5:43pm EDT
If I typed what I would say to the person, you'd have to flag your article for adult/crude language. I personally don't care for mass e-mails....when I receive them, I just block the person from sending any more. Most of the time I don't even disconnect from them, I just don't care for the e-mails. There's no reason to be nasty about it though.
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Betsy C. Apr 12, 2008, 5:44pm EDT
I think he was rude... but I also dont understand mass emails myself... I subscribe to folks and then I get emails.. emails dont even give us points but I sure spend alot of time cleaning them up...

I still like your cause.. so please dont delete me...
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Kylee S. Apr 12, 2008, 5:49pm EDT
I totally respect your commitment and dedication to baby James and your work on behalf of children. I don't mind mass e-mails either.
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John Philipp Apr 12, 2008, 6:03pm EDT
Not worth even thinking about it, Renee.

Excommunicating (I mean ex-connecting) the person was the right move.
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Mary M. Apr 12, 2008, 6:03pm EDT
Renee, don't give another thought to the person. If they didn't want to be connected with you, they could have just deleted you as a connection. There was not need to be nasty.

I appreciate your work and don't mind your emails. If I don't want to read them or don't have time to read them, I can always go back later or delete and go back to your page. No big deal.
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Janet H. Apr 12, 2008, 6:06pm EDT
It seems like some people just come to Gather for certain things and don't want to be bothered with anything else that isn't on their agenda. But at least the person could be kind and polite about it.
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Deloris Wright Apr 12, 2008, 6:06pm EDT
Sorry you are so upset Just take care of yourself and Baby James.
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Lori F. Apr 12, 2008, 6:20pm EDT
Renee I know that mass emails are a big issue with many people and I admit that I have blocked a person or two....not you....but I would never delete anyone just because they mass mail.

Honestly this person needs to get over him or herself....just because it doesnt interest them doesnt mean that others arent interested...if that makes sense.

I think some people arent happy unless they are miserable and all others around them are miserable.

Ignore this persons negativity and go on....you are a good person doing a GREAT thing for kids.

Rock on!!!
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Shaunee C. Apr 12, 2008, 6:22pm EDT
I say peoplw qho are jerks or who are mean would say something like this. i think it is a great thing that you are doing myself. Don't let one bad apple bring you down.
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Curt L. Apr 12, 2008, 6:25pm EDT
Hang in there, Renee!
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Regina L. Apr 12, 2008, 6:28pm EDT
I say he is just a jerk :) Sorry he upset you Renee. Just pray for him. God will work things out. Hugs to you :)
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Birdee F. Apr 12, 2008, 6:29pm EDT
I don't care about the emails...I used to, but like you I have found it helps to get more hits to the article you care most about. I forgot on my last email to BCC everyone & I HATE when other people do that & I was like "GREAT I just did the same thing I hate" LOL.
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Faith is ready to be creative and enjoy her life! Apr 12, 2008, 6:36pm EDT
I have no idea why he wouldn't care.
I'm sorry he gave you a hard time.
No one deserves what happened to your baby.
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necee t. Apr 12, 2008, 6:38pm EDT
oh Renee... i'm sorry this happened... some people are just plain ignorant... please try not to stress over it... it's a shame, but try to forget...
we all love you and Baby James... one bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch...
be well... love,


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Shirley U Understand Me S. Apr 12, 2008, 6:38pm EDT
i saw your article on my feed.......
there was an individual that told me on an article I wrote that i was 'behaving cruelly', and when i commented the next time on something he wrote and had the nerve to disagree with something he said, he disconnected...i was not rude, but his actiions says what he thought of being disagreed with by me......
we are all in this for the same reasons...to have our articles read, to have our images seen, to hear and be heard, etc.......like was said above, but in my own words. he isn't worth the time it takes to delete if he wants to dismiss a baby's worth...any baby
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Lynn R. Apr 12, 2008, 6:42pm EDT
Renee you have tons of support from your other connections. Don't let one bad experience deter your mission. You are a godsend to James and others in his situation. I may not comment often on your articles but believe me, I see most of them.

Don't lose sleep over this. It's not worth it. You have enough on your plate.
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Sherrie H. Apr 12, 2008, 6:45pm EDT
Forget about him and move on. Relax and don't worry about it. We can't please everyone, and trying to please someone who does not care about babies sounds impossible anyway. You are well-liked and loved and cared about by many people here... concentrate on that and don't give him another thought.
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Lisa (I love loons) C. Apr 12, 2008, 6:46pm EDT
Renee, how rude this person was! Don't you worry another minute about this ignorant person's comments. He obviously was trying to get a rise out of you and you are letting it work. Don't allow him. As someone above said, negative attention is better than no attention for some people. YOU ARE LOVED AND CARED FOR AND SO IS JAMES. So don't you give another minute's thought to this "person". They are just ignorant and rude.
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Jennifer G. Apr 12, 2008, 6:48pm EDT
I care!!
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Fran S. Apr 12, 2008, 6:48pm EDT
so many personality differences in this world.... just cull the "good" and ignore the bad.
Please don't waste another minute even thinking of someone as negative as the person that ranted to you. It's not worth it
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J R B. Apr 12, 2008, 6:52pm EDT
When I got your email, I thought I had done something. Try as I might, I could not remember saying anything wrong to you.
I hardly ever email anyone on Gather. Hopefully, you have deleted this person.
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Janet Somewhere Up On The Mount Apr 12, 2008, 6:53pm EDT
Renee I am so sorry someone said that to you. There are just some rude people here and they get kicks out of hurting others if your not in there group. Don't feel alone. I have had things said about my deceased Mother and even Jesus. They do it for this reaction. They try to bully everyone. Ignore them and just look at all of us that love you and baby James and all you do.
God Bless you
Hang in there. We Love ya.
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Georgiana S. Apr 12, 2008, 6:54pm EDT
Don't let words bother you, you are a brave woman, taking on the abusers with a will to live and carry on.
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Kathryn E. Apr 12, 2008, 7:01pm EDT
Sometimes the people who object to the mass emails are not getting enough attention themselves. Just move on.
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Amanda "middle of nowhere" C. Apr 12, 2008, 7:02pm EDT
Sweeting, just ignore it. I wish you hadn't received it, but it's not important. You have a lot of friends who have been thinking about you, especially this week with your being in the hospital. Remember with your heart, you shouldn't get to stressed out, so just try to ignore it. Most of us admire you for everything you do for Baby James and none of us want to see any child suffer.
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Tanya S. Apr 12, 2008, 7:03pm EDT
Some people are just complete jerks.. I wouldn't worry to much about him, there are lots of us who care.. He isn't worth the energy.. =) HUGS...
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**AngelEyez** a. Apr 12, 2008, 7:18pm EDT
I myself dont like mass emails but its as simple as delete and go on with my life,I actually got this from u in a email and it interested me so I came on over just like I would with any other article that may look interesting to me in a mass email.
Maybe this person was having a bad day and took it out childishly on you and so that is sad,and I am sorry you had to here that,but moving on is the best choice and deleting them its not worth a cyber war really where do you get?

I hope things get better for you and that you feel better now its off your chest,it helps all humans to do so... try to have a better day because in the end your the better person!
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Cheryl B. Apr 12, 2008, 7:18pm EDT
I wouldn't worry too much about it Renee. Perhaps they are gather illiterate and don't know any other way of going about it. I wouldn't take it too personal if I were you. I think it's great what you do in the name of our beautiful children who have no voice.
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Elsie Duggan Apr 12, 2008, 7:28pm EDT
Renee, I am sorry you were subjected to this abuse, and it is okay that you rant and get it off your chest, and once you have done, delete him and forget him, there are too many of us who do care about Baby James, Eric and you. Bless you all, and my prayers are with you for your health.
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Michelle K. Apr 12, 2008, 7:39pm EDT
Never cease to be amazed....
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Cyndi B. Apr 12, 2008, 7:45pm EDT
I am sorry that he wasn't kind. I delete messages that I don't care to read, it really isn't that big of a deal. Every baby is special and deserving of respect and love. Thank you for what you do.
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Leigh M. Apr 12, 2008, 7:46pm EDT
I'm sorry you were hurt. I think the guy was a jerk & you don't need him as a 'friend'. No one should ever have to go through abuse, especially a baby/child that can't protect themselves.

I go through my email, if there is a subject that I'm not interested in I just delete it. You can't make everyone happy but being rude is just wrong.
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Sophie S. Apr 12, 2008, 7:52pm EDT
He could've just blocked your emails himself, no need to go insulting others.
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Larry H. Apr 12, 2008, 7:54pm EDT
Don't know what to say.
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Peter Joseph Swanson Apr 12, 2008, 8:00pm EDT
If this person is going to wig out on you like that for something like that then they aren't going to last long on Gather, or the Internet, or the world. There's just too many other things to worry about besides mass emails. We all get lots of them - so what.

We'll just hope he remembers to take his high blood pressure medication.
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~*~Nina~*~ R. Apr 12, 2008, 8:00pm EDT
Don't let it stress you out! You need to be well for Baby James and your family, and the more upset you allow this person to make you, the more power he has over you!
(Now if I could only remember that myself when I'm upset!)
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Larry H. Apr 12, 2008, 8:04pm EDT
What I hate is getting a mass mailing asking me to go read something. When I am in the process of reading them anyway.
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Richard Owl Mirror Apr 12, 2008, 8:08pm EDT
I agree with the sentiments expressed above, don't allow rude, inconsiderate people bother you. In addition, Laura mentioned a good idea you (and everyone) might include in your mass email messages. Inform those on your list if they do not wish to receive mass emails from you to please simply utilize the 'block sender' function provided for by Gather for such circumstances.
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Tiffany G. Apr 12, 2008, 8:11pm EDT
I am sorry this happened to you! When I first read the email I thought it was something I had said.. Scared me for a minute..

Some people need to grow up basically.. whoever this was dont have much of a heart and we dont need him anyways! I sure hope I am not connected to him!

HUGS Renee!! Just remember you can easily delete these people whom bother you and just know more love you and support you than them who dont!
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Susan Roberts Apr 12, 2008, 8:15pm EDT
There are people in this world that do not care about anything but themself and what is going on in their life. I am so proud of all you are doing for Baby James and for all the other children. May you know you are loved by many and that we all stand behind you.
((((HUGS)))) GOD BLESS YOU
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Karen M. Apr 12, 2008, 8:19pm EDT
I would not let it bother you...people express themselves in many ways and it certainly shouldn't ruin your day ! :)
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Sandy (back in Ohio...blah!) Apr 12, 2008, 8:36pm EDT
I am sorry someone said something so hurtful. people like that you don't want to associate with anyways. I don't mind mass emails. I am even in a group that sends out mass emails. I just delete if I don't want to read.
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Karolyn Q. Apr 12, 2008, 8:41pm EDT
Sorry to hear that someone sent you an e mail like that.
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Carl Prime Time Lee Apr 12, 2008, 8:46pm EDT
Tell him his gather experience should be what he wants it to be, and then delete him.
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Sandee F. Apr 12, 2008, 8:59pm EDT
Well, I am in total agreement with all the comments. In this case, one bad apple DOES NOT spoil the bunch.
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Ellie !. Apr 12, 2008, 9:02pm EDT
I personally don't care for mass emails...so I have just blocked the ones who send them all the time. I haven't blocked you, so you must not be on overload.

And I would not take his comment to heart. He obviously is bothered by something in HIS life.
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Nancy S. Apr 12, 2008, 9:10pm EDT
I hope I'm not connected to this idiot Renee. Bless you for keeping the children in our thoughts & prayers. Keep the articles coming please.
I couldn't join you in Tiffanys baby shower because my computer has been shutting down on me. Sorry I missed it.
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Roger Kiser Apr 12, 2008, 9:11pm EDT
There is always one in every crowd. Sometimes it is very difficult to just let it roll off but that what you need to do. I have had a few of the same experiences myself. Hang in there.
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Irina L. Apr 12, 2008, 9:12pm EDT
so sorry to hear about this.. glad that there is a delete button ~ take care, all the best :)
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Charli Mills Apr 12, 2008, 9:23pm EDT
You already said it--he is ignorant. You are a loving, compassionate person and you have plenty of people interested in your cause and equally compassionate about all children, especially those who are survivors of abuse. You did well to delete him (why didn't he do that in the first place?). Some people just are cranky and don't really think about how their actions. Move on and keep up the good work!
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Jeanie C. Apr 12, 2008, 9:31pm EDT
Renee,

Don't let this jerk mess you up, it's not worth it. I would guess he's never had kids and that's why he said that, he has no heart and is going to die alone with no one caring for or about him.

Keep on keeping on, people like this love to try to knock people like you down. Don't let it get to you. Rise above him and now that you have vented, let it go, let it bother him not you.
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Sharon B. Apr 12, 2008, 9:45pm EDT
Don't let it bother you.
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Alta B. Apr 12, 2008, 9:49pm EDT
Who knows!
But then again - someone has to keep the pooh stirred.
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Billie H. Apr 12, 2008, 9:53pm EDT
How do you send out too many e-mails? I only seem to get one 1-3 times a week how is that too many?I do not mind the e-mails.
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Renee (Pres of Baby James Foundation) ~. Apr 12, 2008, 10:10pm EDT
Logging on I was so surprised to see so many comments already. Why I really don't know I know so many of you care. Again I am sorry I vented it was something I needed to do.

In regards to AngelEyez I never said anything about a cyber war. People need to get things off their chest and that I did. This guy was deleted and I did not respond to him so how is that a cyber war? As well as I did not and won't mention his name. If he happens to be brave enough, ignornant enough whatever the case be and respond to this article let him. Then he will show everyone what he is like. Sorry if you seen my article as a cyber war I am trying to keep going.
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Joe N. Apr 12, 2008, 10:32pm EDT
well put
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Keisha L. Grant Apr 12, 2008, 10:43pm EDT
I'm sorry to that this happened to you Renee. :(
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vickey w Apr 12, 2008, 11:00pm EDT
It could be just the opposite, he may of loss a baby somewhere in the past amd it might still be very painful for him to come to grip with. We dont know until we walk a mile in someone elses shoes.
It takes all kinds to make the world go round. Be a bigger person and pray for his bitterness, whatever his reason is......
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M. Bradley McCauley McCauley Apr 12, 2008, 11:06pm EDT
Glad you posted this and hope it helped. See all the friends you have. Forget about the rude ones and keep on doing what you do. Blessings.
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JoAnne D. Apr 12, 2008, 11:12pm EDT
I understand your concern, I would have deleted too. You are not here to take abuse either.
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Michelle C. Apr 12, 2008, 11:40pm EDT
You know, what I don't understand is, if they can support other ignorant causes that have no potential, why can't they support Child Abuse awareness? Maybe they were abused, a victim and it hurts them to receive emails to remind them. Who knows? There could be many reasons behind it. We will never know.

Sorry that this person has offended you. People are ignorant in the world we live in today. Its sad.

((((Hugs))))

Keep up the great work. I may disagree at times with some things, but it doesn't mean I won't support your awareness of child abuse.

Michelle
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Michelle C. Apr 12, 2008, 11:44pm EDT
I just had a teacher pass away and one of the life lessons she taught us all,

If you want to do something, believe in yourself. Don't let others influence or change you as a person."

You will always run into a person disagreeing or (worse), not wanting to support such a good cause and awareness for, but don't let that stop you in what you do with yourself and believe it or not, you impact many other lives. Think about it this way, people are influenced, I'm sure you've opened up many conversations for abused victims (where they know, they can trust you to listen) and be a good friend.

Again, don't let others influence who you and what you will do in life. I know its hard, but do your best in everything.

Sincerely,

Michelle
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Rosie M. Apr 12, 2008, 11:52pm EDT
First of all I question why he joined the group in the first place! Second, I personally do not read each and every Gather email sent as a group email. I do appreciate getting them though and if I am not interested in a particular topic all it takes is a second to delete the message.

Sorry to hear that he is not mature enough to figure this out for himself.

Remember the saying "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" Hang in there and don't let this guy get you down.
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Steph-in-NE ..... Apr 12, 2008, 11:58pm EDT
I feel mass email,, no one see our stuff unless we ask,,,so ask and if someone has a problem oh well f them.,.. I be the first to admit,, I dont comment all email,, that is my dealing, and I comment on some I want to again my dealing,,,
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debra g. Apr 13, 2008, 12:05am EDT
Some people are just that way.If he was abused at a young age he's blocked it out and the talk about it may be bring it to the surface.Then again he may be an abuser,you can't tell.Don't let this rude person bother you.
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Angella *ThePilatesLounge.com* H. Apr 13, 2008, 12:12am EDT
Don't give it another thought- although I have to admit, I might be a little hurt over a rude comment like that too!
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Angel W. Apr 13, 2008, 12:23am EDT
My Dear Renee.... venting is good for the soul... so is forgiving... it makes your heart feel stronger and free.... When someone behaves so badly, I try to think of how terribly miserable they must be to act with so much bitterness... sometimes it helps me to forgive them... somehow forgiving others is so much harder than asking forgiveness for ourselves.... So

Delete him..... forgive him.... say a prayer for him... and forget him....

Have a wonderful weekend....

Angel
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Abby N. Apr 13, 2008, 12:40am EDT
Aw Renee, I'm so sorry that happened to you. Sending comforting hugs your way. I can understand your need to get your feelings out.
Try to not let him live in your head rent free (some advice my one aunt used to give me)
God bless you and Baby James.
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Shirl T. Apr 13, 2008, 1:00am EDT
I DONT UNDERSTAND SOME PEOPLE I DONT MIND THE MAIL IT MAY TAKE ME AWHILE TO GET TO IT BUT I TRY TO GET TO SOONER OR LATER HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER
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Emma L. Apr 13, 2008, 2:50am EDT
I'm sorry you had to put up with insulting, thoughtless comments...good thing that you removed him!
...And vent away :)
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Suze P. Apr 13, 2008, 3:42am EDT
That's terrible someone would say something like that to you.. mean people suck! just because somone tinkles in their cornflakes they gotta go tinkle in everyone else's .. don't let em get ya down :O)
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Suzi F. Apr 13, 2008, 3:51am EDT
I love the work you do and admire you for doing it. I was abused badly as a child, by adoptive parents and I am now 47 and STILL working through insecurities the abuse left me with, so I am happy for you fighting the cause.

I am sorry that being was rude to you, I like getting the e-mails and if I don't want to read all of one there is always the delete. Ev