Ok so I rarley talk about my personal life on here,I try to keep it minimul for a reason,and because Im pretty private,but yesterday I was told I need to go to a infertility specialist,and at this moment I may not be able to ever bear children and if I do I have to do it through in-vetro, in which case my insurance does not cover.. I started to ball my eyes,out and it sucked becuase my husband was not here.He is in florida helping his parents move,so I called him and he put his mother on the phone with me because she is a RN and been one for over 25 years,he knew she could talk to me and comfort me and she did a very good job.and explained to me until they have ABSOLUTLY 100% proof that my tubes are blocked and they cannot un-block them that I need not to worry.But its so hard not to ya know.
I stupid enough had some issues as a teen-ager which has now scarred me for life and has caused me to have blockage in my tubes,were hoping that its one tube and not both but until further testing we cannot be assured.My biggest problem of course is money,and so my husband was also upset and said He was gonna try his hardest to start saving up and we would get through this..This just plain sucks because I am healthy all the way around everything else is fine but my damn tubes,I can carry a baby with no problem and there is no reason I cannot concieve just that damn possible blockage..
This really sucks I cried for hours yesterday knowing that my insurance will only pay a certain amount for my infertility but will not pay for any artificial insemination..this I think is gonna cost me an arm and a leg.However my mother-inlaw kinda came out and told me around the bush,that she will help if need be which kinda puts me at ease,I really hope after all my testing that Its not as bad as they seem to think,but I guess untill they can prove it and not assume thats the problem until further testing can be done,Im gonna try and keep my head up.But its so hard
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I'm sure it did sound just horrible when you first heard the news, BUT like your mom-in-law said, do not lose all hope because there are advances in this field of medicine all the time.
If they can get a 50something woman to get pregnant, I am sure there is a chance that one of the experts will have a plan to help you.
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Another couple I know used fertility methods to get pregnant and had triplets, all healthy and strong. They were told their chances of even getting pregnant were very slim even with the treatments. But it worked. Now her triplets are 16 months old and she is several month pregnant with another baby. (No fertility treatments this time!)
It can happen. It can absolutely happen!
Bad news is always hard to take on health issues. It sounds as if you've been through a lot already. But how lucky are you to have a supportive husband and mother in law who is such a help! Relax, take a deep breath and decide on a course of action. Those who love you are there for you.
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Your situation sounds futile in trying to get pregnant from the physicians end of the spectrum, but it is not all over on your end. Of course the doctors will tell you that your body can never produce a child, it is so they can rip you off for in-vitro. Goddess does not mess around with such deep longings coming from her soon-to-be mothers; however, do not rely on being a full woman just because you joined the procreation circus. A woman is still a whole woman if she never gets pregnant nor conceives. If natural is not the true way for you to be a mommy, look to your other options. Other beautiful babies need a warm soul like you so don't cry so much for something that might not be but rejoice in something that could definitely work in your favor !
hugs my dear,
once i started primary testing. i became pregnant.
Do not go into depression, i know that is hard to do. go see another infertility specialist
Like everyone said, don't lose help.
The blockage, if there is one, might be able to taken care of. Especially if it's only in one tube. You still might be able to conceive with one healthy tube.
take care...
As far as adoption, you and your husband know what is best for you and the child in question. You may change your mind or you may not, but it is a decision only you can make.
Medical advances are moving in leaps & bounds. If they can unclog arteries, then I don't know why they can't unblock your tubes. There are ways to raise money for what your ins. doesn't cover should your Dr be right but time will tell. And if family can help with expenses, that's great! We all do what we have to for our families. You have options yet so don't give up yet. Talk with your hubby when he gets home, see another Dr. Best of everything to you.
Hugs & God bless.
I was told that I might not be able to have children because of my ovarian cysts and endometriosis, but I of know several others who have had the same diagnosis and are now moms. It just took them a bit longer (4 or 5 years, I admit, but they DID get pregnant & held the baby to term). I haven't tried yet, but I'm only just married now.
I've also heard that there is an unusually high number of those with cystic disorders who don't ovulate until the day before or the first day of of their menstrual cycle. If you find that you are normally overly aroused the day before your period this may be your situation. In that case, see if your husband would mind making love to you (gently) around that time- even if you need to help him along manually (or in another way) until he is ready to ejaculate and then have him finish the regular way (sorry to be so graphic).
If the issue is not cysts, but scarring, most insurance companies will cover the surgery if the scars cause you pain and/or tearing that bleeds. Maybe you could try to deliberately feel the scars and become sensitive to them. Then they will probably cover removal as it is causing you discomfort.
You have also mentioned artificial insemination. That won't work for someone who cannot hold a baby, but would for a surrogate mom. I personally think it's kind of gross for a mom to be inseminated with her son's sperm (Isn't that like incest? Can't the embryo/fetus suffer DNA damage that leads to retarded growth in that scenario?), but I guess it would be OK if your ovum and his sperm were combined in a test tube and the resulting embryo was carried by his mom.
Best wishes, either way- and DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!
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I was told when I was in my 20's I wouldn't make 40.
I was told when I was 28 if I had a 4th child I might not make it.
When I was 39 I had my 4th child..and lived.
I am now 53 and I don't think I'm dying anytime soon....
Oh and my sister had her first child in May 2002, she turned 50 in August 2002, you just never know. My sister is two years older than me and my grandchildren liked playing with my nephew who was younger than them when they visited Florida.
Nothing is impossible for God.
you mil helping will ease of the money issue,
first of course is to see if the tubes can be unblocked
then there is artificial insemination, where they will plant the sperm directly into your uterus by passing the tubes all together,
there is still hope hon, and you have to hold on to all or any hope.
Please remember that there are many adoptees in the world and on gather itself. Adopted parents love their children just as much as birth parent and the feelings are returned. My husband is an adopted child. His family was no less strong or weak for lacking the link of birth. I was a foster parent to two little girls and I loved each of them. Even though I lost both of them back to their families against my wishes, I wouldn't have traded my love of them against the pain of the loss of them. They enriched my families life.
Also, I take exception to you saying that others having children who don't deserve them or want them or know what it is all about. You probably have someone specific in mind, but don't fall into the trap of thinking that your present trouble is a punishment to you. Please obtain a positive state of mind, take joy in the sight of children, and love the idea of having children in your life.
Please don't worry so much about this until you have all the facts from several experts. All will be well, have faith and keep a good thought.
bless you
I know that this process is stressful, emotionally draining, and challenging in every way imaginable. But, keep in mind that you are one of the lucky ones. You are lucky enough to have insurance that will cover at least PART of the expense (ours covers NOTHING for fertility treatments) so we are left to pay it all on our own. And, you are lucky to have a family behind you who supports whatever decision you make and may even be able to help you financially.
I pray that you will get through this tough time and that you'll get some good news soon. Good luck!
sorry if I offended you in any way
I never said there was anything wrong with adoption,I purley stated why I at this time dont feel it is right for me .. IM SCARED AND I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE SCARED of adopting a child that is not mine and not knowing the unknown.so may it be thats who I am but im not sorry for being me.
One of my daughters had 1 child & couldn't get pregnant so went to fertility clinic. She is badly polycystic. The doctor said it was unbelievable that she had had a child. There was no way she could have another. She did, 16 yrs later. Surprise! :)
I'm excited to see what the clinic has to say to you.
It is an honor that you shared what you are going through with us. Thank you.
Good luck - your adoption comments were not offensive. Not everyone is meant to be an adoptive parent. My husband was adopted and had no desire to adopt.
It's your decision. Good luck.