Ok so two years ago I went through a really rough time in my life as some of you know. I think it was a positive thing because a few friends went by the way side. I guess most would say that's good because it weeded out the not so true friends.
I've always had issues in my life with girls that were suppose to be my friends. They either wanted my man or were jealous of me in some way. It has always been about competition of some sort in some underlying manner. Well let's just say I whittled down my inner base to two really really great friends. These friends don't live near me anymore but they are the kind that I can call at anytime and they don't judge me. They know me inside and out and love me warts and all, for who I am. I am lucky to have them.
Women are complicated creatures and friendship never seems as easy for them as it does with men or this has been the case in my life anyway. Interestingly it didn't matter which state I lived, it was always the same.
Well I met two new friends recently that I connected with instantly. I met one at church and we just bonded and the other I met through a friend. I am having lunch with the church lady today and the other came over yesterday to just hang out. It is so nice to have lunch with girlfriends again and to get back out into the social arena.
I think Gather helped me ease back into friendships and allowed me the ability to heal some before I trust my innermost self again.
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Okay, that's an exaggeration, but not by much. You're right. It's hard to be friends with a woman. I've been repeatedly shocked in my life by how cruel people can be to each other, and women seem to have more motivation to cruelty than men, something that has always floored me, when it is contrasted to the nurturing nature required by womanhood...
How do people do that?
Hallmark commercials show friends communicating across the miles and years. Sex and the City? Knowing there is someone you can call at 2am, who will talk you through a bad dream or, a bad relationship... This too, is lacking in my life. I don't know what the secret is... perhaps one has to have a less complicated life to find space in the brain to nuture those types of relationships... I wish I knew the answer.
I have tended to be drawn to the more overbearing personalities... in husbands and friends. I can only take so much, and then I say goodbye, self-perpetuating, separation and loss. I still can't figure out why.
"The loneliest woman in the world is the woman without a close woman friend".
.... Toni Morrison
I always tell my daughter that friendships need tending. She has been getting herself out there more, having lunch with co-workers and such. I want that for her, I want that for you too Danielle...
You are exceptional and beautiful.
If I could I would put the world in an oyster for you (and my daughter too), so you could crack it open, and string it like a pearl on chain. Then you could wear it around your neck, and it would change and grow, with every breath you take, with every beat of your heart.
What a beautiful world that would be....
I talk too much,
Luv ya,
Kristina
Thanks for an unintended laugh!
Most of my friends are guys.