Flesh and Blood Question of the Day

Yeah , sometimes I feel like if I could just disapear .. and no one would give a f***
If its not a good love and you are not married run for the hills.

Good gosh then Janet, then I should be running for the hills...

Yup I tell it like it is! Run like hell! lol

Thanks Janet!

Esther
Your welcome!
True love will come...and even that is sometimes a bittersweet .
Thats love for ya.

this moment...I feel so in love. I've felt so in love and loved for sooo long this year.

I am so happy for you Dawn!

I'm in love with my better half all of the time. vise versa

That is what everyone in this world lives for...to find the love of their lives.

agreed. the meaning of life...to live and love and to be loved.

I do, I mean we do but I feel as if there is something missing...

nothing is wrong with someone who's not in love. they just haven't found love.

I love my friend, but I'm not in love...

believing in love is not a fantasy. not in my eyes. love does exist, I have found it. never thought I would but I found it.

I LOVE Dawn but I'm not in love. There is a difference you know??

there is a diff. indeed. I see what you're saying.

Good.

if I don't love someone, I cannot be with them. it takes two hearts to make love work. twice I stayed with someone I didn't love. they didn't love me back. I used to love them. I can't be with someone who doesn't love me, vise versa.

I believe that two can be in a harmonious relationship loving one another and not necessarily be in love. I feel the love but am NOT in love.

Does anyone understand what I am saying?

What exactly do you think is the difference between loving someone, and being IN love with someone?

I understand you.

true love is unconditional.

I know true love is unconditional.

each time I comment, I have another brain fart as they call it. =D

I really appreciate your comments and your brain farts! ;)

I am NOT in love, NOT in a relationship...and am very happy...no emotional days and nights draining my energy...does that make me uncaring or weird? Nope, just happily single,lol

I understand that completely. I have gone the living alone route before and would prefer to be in a relationship as I do get lonelier...

I am in a relationship with someone whom I love but am not in love with. He knows this and I know this yet we continue on. Is this the way life should be? Do others feel this way and make it into the end of their lives? Or am I and he missing something?

No not to be in love and to not be in a relationship does not make you uncaring or weird by any sense of the imagination. Remember I know you.

I am happy that you are happily single. ;)

I've been in love a couple of times, but with so much heartbreak I don't think I want to go there again.
I love my current boyfriend, and intend to stay with him, but honestly can't say that I am in love with him.

You know Marsha, I think I have always loved but doubt that I have ever been in love with anyone. I have been in lust plenty of times in my lifetime but in love ~ bah!

I love Rick too but am not in love with him despite the fact that we are going on our tenth year together soon.

I understand how you feel completely.

There's nothing wrong with someone who is not in love.

Relationship are tough. My husband and I have been together five years. It's been hell at times. I have thought sometimes that we would not make it. But, here we are. I have been married before, and divorced before.
I think that the others failed because I was too young, and because we were not compatible. It's hard to find the right person.
Yes, I'm in love. Loving someone does not require that you like them all of the time.

absolutely all of the time, forever amd ever..........
life is good to me........

Legend and I are not in love, but we love each other very much.
All one really needs to do is treat their partner with respect and care and the the rest seems to take of itself.

My wife is my best friend and I can't imagine not loving her...interesting question though!

I thin if you are not in love, walk. you will never be happy. and you are right there is a difference in loving some, and being in love with some one, You can love a dog, but you are not in love with it.

You are absolutely right. I am thinking that I know that I'm not happy but will I ever find someone who will cause me to fall in love? I have felt for so long better to love and be in a relationship than to not love and not be in a relationship.

I understand about loving my dogs and cats but you're right. I'm not in love with them either. Sad but true.

If someone is mistreating you and you are not happy, why would you not leave. Sometimes you have to close a door for God to open up a new one.

I don't think it is better to love the one your with if you can't be with the one you love.

We have to find happiness, it doesn't seek us out. Like wise few have the experience of someone ringing their doorbell and saying, "Hi, I'm Mr/Miss Right"

It took a lot for me to give up on my late. ex. I so wanted my ex to be the man I thought he was and a father to my children. Key word, "I" so wanted. He didn't want the same things I wanted. His heart was somewhere else. I had to face reality.

Now over time I realize that until I let go of that disaster, I would never have gone on to the love of my life, my husband John. We have had our rocky times, but many people can see the intense love and bond we have with each other. Communication and misunderstands brought us discord, but it was our undying love for each other that has kept us together.

I would never have gone back to my ex in a million years. It was a roller coaster and when I realized I was in love with someone who didn't exist, it was much easier to cope with.

I believe that being in love is something that leads to actually loving that person. and after 32 yrs of marriage I love my guy but there are times I don't like him very much.

We grew apart, I was not in love anymore....I almost never said anything and just lived my passionless life but decided that life was too short. It went beyond the normal gentle feeling changes in a long term relationship. I told him, he committed suicide. All I can say is decide carefully.

I dunno... I haven't had a relationship in so long I forgot what one is....

I gave up on ever finding love, and have found just having friends is much better.

This may be a flesh and blood question, but love comes from God and through us from God.

We are all in a spiritual war whether we believe in God or not. The battleground is the mind. No love on earth compares with the all encompassing love of the Lord. We have free will and decide what we think is best until we yield it up to the Lord. The Lord wants good things for us and as long as we go our own way...we don't get the life he wants to give us...it's there waiting.

My husband is my best friend so our love flucuates from lover, to puppy love, to best friend, etc. We can have great conversation or sit in comfortable silence. When we argue we forgive as friends...it seems easier that way. We do go to marriage counseling because we realized we needed to learn how to be married.

I'm am in love, and have been with my husband of nine years. Don't get me wrong, they are times that I just can't stand him. But, I do love him more than my life. When you live with someone for years there are things that bother you about them. And, things that bother them about you.
In the end, you work things out and always remember to say, "I love you" every day.

I am always in love, and most of the time, in like with Dave and we've been together for over seven years. However I totally understand how you can love someone but not be "in love". I was in a relationship like that before I met Dave. The guy was in love with me but I was not in love with him. I cared about him deeply but the passion and desire to share my entire life with this person was not there.

For me being in love means wanting to share everything with that person and they are your soul mate. They know you inside and out and know what you're thinking without you having to say a word. Being in love with someone makes you feel emotions more strongly than you've ever felt them before. There are people who make me laugh but no one makes me laugh more or makes me happier than Dave does. If I ever fell out of love with him I'm not sure I could stay with him and, God forbid, if he ever fell out of love with me I would not want him to stay with me.

At least once a day I feel I'm not "in love"...but such is life.

I love my husband and I am in Love with him at the same time. Like so many others have posted there are times I don't like him very much but that doesn't mean any thing. He is kind caring and supporting. That is want means the most to me.

oh look the queen of typos strikes again!
That is want means the most to me. was supposed to be that is what means the most to me.

I would trade your typos for my inability to spell.

I don't think you can exist in that toe tingling pulse raising state of love forever. It is to exhausting. Love changes, matures. But if it existed at one point you can reclaim it for short periods of time. I do understand loving and being in love and lusting. I have been in a perpetual state of lust for years now, loved for 5 years and was head over heals in love for 2 weeks.

Its like a rowboat with one oar, paddling in circles. However, I'm willing to fly to Texas for the second oar that is needed.

I guess at one time or other we have all felt that way. There are times I wished I would have stayed in the Navy.

Being inlove is a great emotional feeling, but once that person hurts you.. you can still love them, but not be in love with them anymore. For me, when I first meet someone, the fantasy of them and the newness of the relationship is great, I will put my all into the person and making things good. But after I get to know the real person, who they really are, I get discusted, that I spent so much time on such a wack job. I respect a person for who they are and thier beliefs, and I am honest to let them know how I feel about them. Like your a nice person, but your not someone I would want to be in a relationship other then friends and all hell brakes out. So for now I am not dating.. I cant find any sane person lol : )

I never stayed with someone after the love was gone, meaning, two weeks......lol.......I concur with Harper though, love matures, and for me, as long as I feel safe with someone, and love them, and it's a plus if I'm still looking at them for that long and feel that the whole world is fine, I'll stay.

I have not been in love for sooo long, to me, love is a long lost dream.

I think we love everybody different. I have not fallen in love in quite some time, but I think after the "newness" wears off you are not in lust as much so the love is there, but acting on it physically gets a little tedious for some people. I am not really like that, but I watch others around me. Especially after years and years, you get comfortable and complaisant with each other.

Being "in love" and loving someone are not the same thing but can happen at the same time. That "in love" feeling is wonderful but it is not reality. I have been married for 20 years and I do love my husband. If I did not he would have been long gone. To me "in love" is that special romantic feeling that comes over us when we are first in a relationship. That feeling ebbs and flows through out a relationship and I don't believe anyone can say they have been "in love" with their partner for the entire duration. There are some days when I do feel that "in love" emotion and then there are days when "in hate" would fit the situation better. You can also love someone and yet not like them.

Wow Linda. You have just explained to me what I have always wanted to know about love and relationships.

I thought one had to always feel in love in order to continue on in a relationship and felt empty because I didn't feel that all emcompassing feeling of being in love per se.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your explanation as it is what I have been looking for for so many years and always felt as if something was missing when I didn't feel the in love feeling always and forever.

I am glad my explanation helped.

have you ever felt in love with anyone? If so.... how important is it to you to always feel that way?

I guess I have felt in love with one or two but more in lust than in love ever.

I always feel it, but we've only been together for a few months. I've stayed in relationships long term even though I didn't feel in love all of the time.

I'm in love with a great person who is trustworthy, considerate, a good lover, good looking, and smart. Oh wait, I'm looking in the mirror again. I've got to stop doing that.

I don't believe there's ever been a day when I wasn't in love with my hubby, even when we were angry with each other.