where have all the good boys gone?

If you find them, just send me the directions.

haha.. will do ! i hope there is more than one !

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Going through my 2nd divorce. I've decided there are no good ones. I'm a little cynical right now though. :-)

We hide under rocks and stuff.

the rocks & stuff are really working for the good guys.. you all hide so well i'm beginning to think they don't exist !

Boy's act like boys! Most men do too though huh? Good luck trying to understand us!

haha.. thanks Scott.. i guess i need all the luck i can get !

Hello Meg !

thanks Rick.. that has been the case for me before.. not expecting anything.. but i can never find a good guy.. they always turn out to be jerks.. & seeing romantic movies with perfect guys who don't exist doesn't help.. haha

hey Paul !

Idealism is great and always works in the beginning....but realism gets in the way, as in marriage.

Timeless questions with few real answers.

Magazines always address these questions and offer pretty useless answers, such as: Go for the nice guy, the one who is not that cute or ....

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i found mine :) that paragraph describes my husband when it comes to me :) he's still a "bad" boy in his way, though.... aren't we all, though? ;)

wait for the boy who will put you at the center of his universe.
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If both girl & boy do that, then you have found your love...
My Daughter has had girlfriend's as well as boyfriend's..She has been hurt, and she is just now understanding the importance of this. One can never be more important then the other. Share the spotlight, the sad time's, and the joy! =)

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I didn't think they existed either, Meg, but I finally found my hubby! Best thing you can do is be involved in LIFE, doing those things that you excel at and really enjoy. If you are actively looking, they seem to melt away into the walls. When you're really involved in your life (and others), then they start to really notice you and appreciate who you are (inside), because you're busy being all that you can be!

Well, there are men, there are boys, and there are males. Take your pick. Some come a dime a dozen, some are sicker than all get out, some have more hangups than one even wants to deal with, and then there are the ones who are almost perfect, until somebody comes and meddles in your life, and breaks you up by changing their mind, when you thought things were good.

Nothing's perfect this side of Heaven.

nice poem Meg..........
but maybe you should be looking for a "man"...some of the qualities you wish for aren't yet matured in "boys".........LOL

i'm pretty sure there must be some of them left on the planet, you just have to look in the right places

We good boys are still out there. We just turned gay, though.

Lol at Rob!
He will come your way - soon I hope!

haha.. Rob.. i knew that's what it was.. just my luck !

Oh, they are still out there. I am confident that you will find one. It just takes time.

Although I'm normally an optimist I may be the bearer of bad news here. Bubble Bursting is not my forte`. Never-the-less, no man or woman is perfect. Some men are more romantic than others. Some men do not have a clue about what romance is and if they do they don't want to go near it because it makes them feel weak and a man who sees himself as strong and macho fears appearing weak.

Some men are not concerned with how they appear - they just plain and simply don't want to put for the effort or the time to be romantic. Of course, some women have the same issues.

You just have to find someone who is well-balanced and blends well with you.

I really doubt you will find him in a bar, or the usual "dating" places. If you're always searching and on the lookout for Mr. Right you may miss him. Mr. Right could be a friend you've known for a long time and haven't given the time or effort to nurture your relationship and see where it leads. That's a possiblity too. I'm rambling aren't I?

I guess what I'm trying to say is no man or woman is perfect. No relationship is perfect. There are no fairy-tale lives where everyone lives happily ever after with no conflicts at all. The only way to live that kind of perfect life is for both of you to be unemotional robots. Not thinking for yourselves. Just doing what you're programmed to do.

I could talk forever about this stuff, but I'll not bore you.

Good luck and don't try too hard to find him. He may be trying to find you, but you won't be still long enough for him to catch you. :-)

there are good guys out there. you are more likely to find one when you aren't looking! plus, you can find someone who meets your criteria, but don't expect it all the time. we are just human! my experience has been that the good guys are usually the "just friends" people.

I am looking for a good one.

they exist, they're usually married but they exist LOL....but seriously, they are out there...alot of them just don't try though since they see their buddies act like jerks and get all the women...but not all of us want jerks fellas!

They do exist. But it is not easy to find him. My children are both still looking. My husband and I have been married for 37 years and I wouldn't trade any of it, not even the bad times because we learned from them and are better people and a better couple because of them. Good luck to all who are hoping to find their perfect partner. And I know this sounds crazy but my husband has always smelled good to me, somehow it is just right.

Any man who "drop(s) everything to be with you at any time no matter what the circumstances" and "who will put you at the center of his universe" is instantly labeled as a doormat and scratched off the list of potential mates.

Hey I'm here! lol Seriously... That good guy is out there but looking will not help.. A guy with strong family ties, hard working & sincere is a start. Being a pretty lady, you also have to be extra cautious in warding off the b. s. artists who promise the world only to want ...... They are out there in droves.. Beware!

I think that I have found mine Meg. I will see if he has a brother.

glad I found the man for me, my best friend. I wish the same for you...don't worry, he is out there.

will give directions to my house,,,,just send one my way

I often heard that all of the good men were either taken or gay. Well I don't think that's true. There are a lot of good men out there but as someone mentioned above you will not find him in a bar.

You will have to try more traditional opproaches such as meeting friend's brothers, going to church, doing volunteer work for an organization that you care about, joining clubs or groups with people that have the same interests as you do. You go to college so you should be able to join plenty of groups or clubs there. I'd say try those first.

Good luck Meg! I don't think that you'll have any problems finding just "one." ;)

Sorry, I'm taken. Make sure you're looking where those boys like to be.

good luck on your quest Meg. May you find him, and may you recognize him when you do.

Now you know why most men prefer action movies! We can't envision watching a weekends worth of romance movies only to be let down by reality when they end. Perfection is over-rated. Embrace our imperfections and you'll never be bored.

Here I am STILL not captured as I want a woman who is willing to pamper back....where are they? NO I won't wear make up with sweats to find her, but pretty much anything else!

Good men do exist. They're like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Apparently they enjoy playing hide and seek and they know ALL the best hiding places. Do they WANT to be found??? Sure they do! But they are going through the same BS that women are. Some women are really scary to men. There are women who don't know how to treat a man and those women don't care about mens needs, wants, or what makes them tick. Men, as a rule, need adoration, affection, affirmation, appreciation. They also have a need to fix things because it brings them a feeling of accomplishment. Some men have such a huge ego about fixing "things" that they don't stop there.....they want to fix people too. If you have areas in your life that need fixing you need to fix them yourself - BEFORE you get involved with the man of your dreams or ANY man for that matter. I'm saying this because if you get involved with a man that wants to fix YOU he will not stop trying to fix you and that will lead to emotional problems in your relationship that are quite difficult to "fix".

People treat us the way we ALLOW them to treat us. So..........
A good way to weed out the jerks is to do this.
Make a chart with two columns. Label the top with "What I do want in a man" and "What I don't want."
Whenever you start dating someone new, refer back to the chart and see if that man has more pros than cons. Keep referring back to it as time goes on. It's not a deceitful thing to do. It's a healthy way to remind yourself of what you need to live harmoniously with a man.

Men should do the same thing when searching for Miss Right. I've known people to use this technique and it's a very useful tool.

Like many others have said here -- there are a lot of B.S.ers and it can be a nightmare trying to find your way through the maze to get to your prize. It is possible, though. Don't give up. :-)

Hi Meg! Your knight in shining armor is here! Actually I was born in Philadelphia and lived there for 21 years. So we have that in common. Maybe a lot more. Only time will tell!

Meg there are good boys still out there. Im lucky enough to have everything on that list! Be patient my dear, The right one will come along. and when he does you will know it!! I m a believer that you find love when you arent looking for it. Thats happened to alot of people I know including me.

that "boy" will find you when you are looking in the other direction ~ guaranteed sweet lady ~ and hope he is everything you wanted that you weren't looking for ~ hug~j

Are they a myth?

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Love this post...I'll keep my eye out for you ; )

Ah hemmm....excuse me will I change the title to "good men"
Boys!!!!!!

meg. You have got to stop watching Hugh grant films. Good boys? I couldn't tell you. I'm a tequila swilling flirting scuzz bucket. You're young enough to make me feel protective of you though. Your new profile pic? You are NOT leaving the house wearing that young lady. Now get over here and let me cover you up.

I keep telling you Meg...you don't need a boy you need a man ;o)!

There's plenty of us good guys left- lots of us (especially yours truly) are just sicc and tired of all the games that are played by both men and women. That's where I'm at rite now (I'm single and enjoying it). I'm willing to bet that there's a guy or two who's interested in you (you just may not have been paying any attention). As for me, this question and every other relationship question is complex... Just so many layers to it. My advice to both men and women who are looking to "find the One"is to simply enjoy life. Live it to the fullest, and stop worrying about who likes you, your past (easier said than done), and most of all quit being concerned with what others think of you. People, potential mates/kife partners just don't appear outta nowhere- they do appear when we are engaged in something productive. I've seen it happen in my life. Whenever I'm involved in something that's even remotely newsworthy, people start tryna push up on me. I'm not saying this in any bad way, it's just I see so many guys and gals always posting (more like pouting) over lost love, or their lack of a love life. My advice is simply what I've said above. Meg, other ladies on this site, don't just fade away (guys like me would love to date you), fellas, don't change (the real women are worth the wait)

excuse my typos, folks.... :(

Here I AM! Am I too Late???????

This time I wonder what it feels like
To find the one in this life
The one we all dream of
But dreams just aren't enough
So I'll be waiting for the real thing
I'll know it by the feeling
The moment when we're meeting
Will play out like a scene straight off the silver screen
So I'll be holdin' my breath
Right up 'til the end
Until that moment when
I find the one that I'll spend forever with!

Well, were still out there, i guess there's just too many a-holes out there hitting on girls and trying to steal all the attention lol. Thing is, it seems like a lot of women are attracted to those guys for some reason, so no one seems to notice us :(

Or something like that lol

LOL @ Rob's comment!!!

They're out there I think; you just have to keep looking until you finally stumble upon them, and not let yourself settle for the wrong one. My husband is a lot of those things to me. I'm always amazed when he thinks I can be beautiful when I just got up and I have morning breath and no makeup on. I think he's crazy!