by Holly K.
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August 1, 2008

Who Has Had the Most Impact on Your Life?

August 10, 2008 07:56 PM EDT
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I have been reflecting on my life recently and I started to ask myself who has had the greatest impact on my life thus far.  I believe the answer to be my husband.  From the day we first met, he has supported my every dream and my every whim.  I must say this has been a difficult job, because I tend to have a lot of whims :-)

For a while, I decided I wanted to be a massage therapist.  He went out and surprised me with a massage table before I started school so I would be prepared.  This was a great gesture because it showed he believed in me unconditionally. 

We are now struggling with infertility.  He has been wonderful doing anything I have asked of him to get pregnant.  He's taken a million vitamins, undergone surgery, and had a ton of doctor appointments, all in the hopes of being able to have a child together.  He's never complained and always states he just wants me to be happy.

I have never really experienced unconditional support and love.  My life before my husband was filled with pain and sadness.  He has taken a beaten down woman and made her feel amazing inside.  He has helped me see that I am worthwhile and that I deserve to be happy.  I still struggle with low self-esteem, but with his love and support, I feel better every single day.  I am truly blessed to be married to such an amazing man!

 Your turn.... who has had the most impact on your life and why?

Thanks!

Holly K.

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Comments: 51

Kerrell g. Aug 10, 2008, 9:38pm EDT
My grandfather... he always taught us right from wrong (even though I have a cousin who is now in jail for murder 2 of his ex.)
Wilma D. Aug 10, 2008, 9:46pm EDT
My husband too--for the same reasons.
John S. (arizona) Aug 11, 2008, 9:32am EDT
It would hard not to say my wife and 3 children after 23 years of marriage. On the side of my ways of thinking etc., I would have to say my parents and many figures in history.
Rae M. Aug 11, 2008, 3:20pm EDT
Our parents loved us uncondionally just neither of them knew how to show it. You are and have always been wonderful, beautiful, and deserving.
April H. Aug 12, 2008, 1:56am EDT
My grandmother
Shirley ♡ ☮ M. Aug 12, 2008, 2:05am EDT
My sister, because she showed me with her strength that you can do things if you set your mind to it. She taught me that all things happen for a reason. And this has taught me to look at life different, for the better.
Anne W. Aug 12, 2008, 8:57am EDT
I can only say myself, not beacuse I'm self centered, but all the people I have met are how I perceive them and ultimately it was me making them to be more than just your average human...
Anne W. Aug 12, 2008, 8:58am EDT
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Andrea (Ms. Conservative) L. Aug 13, 2008, 6:46pm EDT
oh man - I don't think I have enough room - the most - my mom, then my granny, then my husband.
Chris K. Aug 13, 2008, 10:58pm EDT
Hmmm, i guess my dad would have to be the one who influenced my life the most, he has always been there when he could, and when he couldn't he made it up. So yeah, my Dad.
Penny M. Aug 15, 2008, 12:18pm EDT
My husband. He has always stood beside me and encourages me to do things I would never try on my own.
Robert M Aug 15, 2008, 12:58pm EDT
I'm glad you found each other.
Deborah O. Aug 15, 2008, 2:16pm EDT
good post, my person that had the most effect on me was my Mother
Angela A. Aug 15, 2008, 2:53pm EDT
My grandmother, definitely. She practically raised me, taught me everything about the Lord, issues about men, and many other wonderful things. I would not be as loving, caring, or kind without her guidance and strength. It's sad that she's no longer with us, but, I carry her in my heart always.
Kitty Lone Hawk Aug 15, 2008, 2:54pm EDT
My story is the TWIN to yours-----and so my answer is the same for me; MY HUSBAND.

We are two VERY LUCKY WOMAN!
Sandre M. Aug 15, 2008, 2:56pm EDT
My dad is the most inspiring person in my life. He taught me that everyone should have a dream, but it takes a lot of hard work to make a dream come true.
Larry M. Aug 15, 2008, 3:01pm EDT
Looks like there are some really good husbands out there. Congratulations to them for having the good sense (which is quite rare, really) to recognize that the key to their own happiness and success is the happiness and success of their wife.

For me, I grew up alone quite a lot. Both my parents worked and I was a latch-key kid. My family also moved quite a lot so there was no particular neighbor or whatever. But one key person was my 8th grade science teacher who gave me the idea that I could solve some of the problems that mankind faces. She didn't single me out but for some reason I thought "why not?" and took that surge of confidence with me for the rest of my life. I am still trying and its over 50 years later.
Holly K. Aug 15, 2008, 4:37pm EDT
That's one big reason I would like to become a teacher. I want to inspire children to believe in themselves.
Adina P. Aug 15, 2008, 6:00pm EDT
my parents without a shred of a doubt and also my teachers throughout my school years . after all it takes a village to raise a child ...
Jan S. Aug 15, 2008, 8:03pm EDT
The most? Definitely, my husband.
Beth G. Aug 15, 2008, 10:00pm EDT
Wow that was an amazing story. My father had the most positive impact on my life bar none.
POPS B. Aug 15, 2008, 10:01pm EDT
The next friend I meet, the next smile I see and the next prayer I say. Thank you for making me think!
Susan K. Aug 15, 2008, 10:32pm EDT
My maternal grandmother, my Nannie.
Widowed at 40 ... carried on strongly until 92!
No complaints.
Sharon B. Aug 15, 2008, 10:36pm EDT
My father and mother both
Anna D. Aug 16, 2008, 12:26am EDT
My husband
He has support me from the beginning and give me wins when I want to fly. He encourage me to become a writer and edits everything I write. It makes for a very long day in front of the computer but ,he does it for me. He even let me put long hair and pointed ears on him as I dress him as an Elf to support me in a fantasy fair we sold my (our) book in. He was great and all the young men wanted to talk with him. Now... we are talking about my cowboy husband.

Anna del C.
Author of "The Elf and the Princess"
and "Trouble in the Elf City"
Elsie Duggan Aug 16, 2008, 12:59am EDT
I write about my family all the time, and of course there is my husband of 57 years and he meant the world to me, and my children , but if I must be truthful , I would have to say my mother and my grandmother (my father's mother) who raised me and gave me the tools to work with , the self esteem I needed and the lessons of right and wrong, and the clear need for compassion when others are in need, I think your childhood is important but I can surely see if someone wasn't fortunate to have that as a child and then married, that your husband would be the greatest influence in you life, he is the one I miss the most, and I would never say he didn't have a great influence on me , as we survived some times that we made , because we were as one. Everyone iin my life has a bit to do with who I am and how I love and live.
Donna Hammett-Tooker Aug 16, 2008, 2:19am EDT
For the last eight years, my husband has been the biggest influence in my life and has taken me to more places, introduced me to more different things and enriched my life more than anyone else except my long-time friends and loved ones. But outside of that relationship, teachers were the main influences in my life - good or bad - they either exemplified what I admired and loved most in people or they presented a role model I knew I could never quantify and showed where NOT to excel. They taught me to read, to share with others (I was an only child for many years), to wait my turn, to stand up for myself, to join in, to separate from, to question and to remember.
Linda A. H. Aug 16, 2008, 8:49am EDT
My Mother.
Patti M. Aug 17, 2008, 8:02am EDT
This one is easy. It is my wonderful husband of 38 years. If you have not done so read my post titled A Love Story. You will see why I say this.
M C. Aug 17, 2008, 8:10am EDT
My mother who always displays a positive, generous and friendly nature no matter what's going on in life or the world.
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Kelly M. Aug 18, 2008, 3:32am EDT
A lady I used to babysit for.
PURUSHOTHAMA RAO R. Aug 19, 2008, 1:40am EDT
MY FATHER
he made us to lead a disciplined life in all acts and deeds
especially in financial front.
Roxanne H. Aug 21, 2008, 11:04pm EDT
My Ex-husband who talked me out of my full scholarship for college for nursing, who didn't want to bring children into this world but didn't tell me until after we were married. We talked about having children before we got married and he never once said he didn't want them, he thought I was joking about having children. So I ended up practically being a single mom in our marriage raise the kids while he ran around doing his hobbies. Putting him through night school and then when it was my turn to go to night school he did everything in his power to make it impossible to continue. I could go on but this is enough.
Danni S. Aug 22, 2008, 11:16am EDT
My grandmother who was my mom when my mom wasn't there for me. That was most of my life and still is true to this day. My mom tossed me away while my grandmother was the polar opposite. Her death hit me like no other and I feel lost without her but she was suffering and in a better place now and that gives me the comfort I need!
.* Sandi * Sep 5, 2008, 4:49pm EDT
Wonderful husband,
I guess it would be different people at different periods of my life
Beverly P. Sep 11, 2008, 11:37am EDT
I've had a lot of positive influences in my life. My children would be the most influential, often forcing me to survive when otherwise I would have given up. To them I will be grateful forever. My parents have been awesome and given me a lot to be thankful for. They too have proven a great source of strength. And my grandmother, who was my soul mate. While I miss her so much, I know heaven is enjoying one constant casino night with her there! LOL
Kelly Kay Sep 11, 2008, 11:50am EDT
My maternal & paternal grandparents. Both were farm families with not too much money, but a lot of love & lessons to give. =)
L. H. Sep 11, 2008, 7:42pm EDT
Grandmother and one of her sisters and my Great Grandfather, they never gave up what they believed in and now, of course they never will. My mother was also a very brave woman dec'd. My father, still does.
My husband's mother was also one of my very favorite people, who I thought was and other's one great woman.

MY RELATIVES, and some of my husband's, he works hard and God Bless him.
Darin Waugh Sep 19, 2008, 7:21am EDT
Yea, Paul's a good man, and a great brother-in-law, I'm glad he's in our lives!
Tom Wa Sep 28, 2008, 3:01pm EDT
My mother, my mother was a strong independent woman.
T Cheri P. Oct 2, 2008, 6:59pm EDT
I would have to say My husband.
He has really helped me grow and find myself in life.

For that I LOVE him:)

....sappy I know:)
Mallory Ladd Oct 6, 2008, 3:48pm EDT
I would say that all of my family friends and other loved ones have impacted my life equally...They all play a very vital role in helping me develop who I am...
Robert S. Oct 7, 2008, 5:14pm EDT
My parents who raised their children with a mixture of love, discipline and a sense of humor. Not too much or too little of any of the three.
Patti M. Oct 8, 2008, 12:57pm EDT
Holly, I'm glad you got a chance to read my article A Love Story. Thank you for the lovely comment.
Kelly Kay Oct 8, 2008, 2:19pm EDT
As a child, it was my grandparents. Now that they are gone and I am grown, I would say my children. If I was not a Mom my life would have been so different & I am so lucky to have my kids.
Stephannie H. Oct 8, 2008, 2:40pm EDT
My dad. He died when I was 12.
Mike Robinson Oct 25, 2008, 11:02pm EDT
Three divorce lawyers. I don't remember their names, but I recall the costs vividly.
Heather A. Oct 26, 2008, 11:12pm EDT
That is too sweet Holly.!!
My biggest influence is my sister. She got pregnant at a young age, and basically raised her twin girls on her own. The girls' father wen to jail when they were 4 months old and didn't get out til they were over a year. She got married and tried to make it work, but he couldn't grow up and landed in prison, she has raised her girls wonderfully, and she is a strong, beautiful person.
Holly K. Nov 3, 2008, 4:16pm EST
Thanks for all of the great comments!
Connie C. Nov 5, 2008, 1:16am EST
My husband. He makes me want to be a better person. He accepts me the way I am and is always there when I need him. I have never had anyone to be there for me before.

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