Ok, here is the thing. The BF and I were sitting on the couch a little while ago, and I noticed that his wallet was on the coffee table. So I picked it up and just said, hmm I wonder how many girl's numbers I am going to find in here.
Ok now, he has gone through my phone, my wallet, he gets mad because he doesn't know much at all about the computer and is constantly saying that I am messing with someone online (oh yeah, gotta love that cyber sex right!!?, NOT). So he is sitting there, and I figured what the heck and glanced in his wallet.
Found a girl's number. He is claiming it is his boss's sister (which I do not like at all) and that he hasn't called it, um then why do you still have it?
I don't argue or anything with him about it and drop the subject. A minute later he goes see I wouldn't have to worry about stuff if people like you didn't go through my wallet.
I know what the majority of females will say on this subject. I want an honest guy's opinion, on these questions:
Why do you get mad if your girl looks through your wallet?
If you are constantly accusing your girl of cheating is it because you are the one doing the cheating?
If you had a girl's number in your wallet and had no intentions of calling it, then why would it still be in there?
Thanks all, I am heading to bed. Will check back in the morning though
recommend this
email
print
link to this page
Comments: 20
He says:
"I don't."
"Most likely."
"Forgot it was there."
He still has stuff from highschool in his wallet, but he's never acted odd about me getting into it.
I believe everyone has a right to privacy, even married people.
"....he gets mad because he doesn't know much at all about the computer and is constantly saying that I am messing with someone online......"
This statement is a huge red flag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sandra O's boyfriend wants to know if she will get mad if her boyfriend looks through her purse???
As for why would anyone keep a number with no intention of calling it; there are intentions, and there are intentions, and there are souvenirs.
I keep names and addresses of people who have been dead for years. I have a business card from a friend whose business closed in the 80s. There are people who can't think of a reason why they haven't thrown out that broken ball-point pen -- and still resist the instruction to do so.
It is the sincerity, not the logic, that matters.
PS: Nancy O says that she has never thought about looking into her husband's wallet in 34 years, but every so often my wife asks if I have any change in my wallet, and every so often I have to answer the cell phone in her purse. There is looking, and there is looking.
Not at all what you're talking about, that's just the only reason I can think of that a guy might have numbers in his wallet that he had no intention of using.
I've told you before that trust is one of the biggest things to keeping a relationship!!!
My wife too has accused me of trying to find a cyber girlfriend, wtf for she knows I need the real thing....and one woman is enough, take my word for that--burnt the candle from all sides before I chose to get married, too much work and hiding things, etc..
In the case of finding another girl's number - there's nothing inherently wrong with it. It's our womanly brains that make up stories and assume the worst. What if we assumed the best instead? The facts would still be the same.
As for guys being accused why they have a number in their wallet acting all suspicious - it could be something, but it could also be that they are thinking "oh god, here we go again." or they are afraid of us always jumping to conclusions and knowing that they can't defend themselves.
It's not good or bad, it's how we respond to stuff like this that defines our relationships.