We went to the pediatrician last week and got some bad news from our doctor. She said that our 2 year old son (turns two May 9th) is not saying a big enough vocabulary. He mumbles alot of words and says a few words that we can understand. However he is not progressing along like he should in the amount of words the doctor thinks he should be saying. (So I feel like I have done something wrong.)
I have been going over and over it in my mind. Our daughter speaks well, and is interested in learning her letters and loves for me to read books to her. I have done nothing different with our son. The pediatrician says it might have to do with big sister talking for him all the time. She also mothers him and therefore he doesn't HAVE to say much.
Now they are setting him up with a speech pathologist. We will be getting the information soon as to when his first appointment will be. I am really on edge about all this. He loves to read books and he understands very much when we are talking to him. He just doesn't say many words. Has anyone else had this experience? If so, did they eventually start talking well somewhere in between their 2nd and 3rd birthday. I just don't want him to have a hard time learning.
After we came home from the doctors appt, (big sister was at the appt too) I heard her tell baby brother "they needed to look at books, because he needed to say more words now." So first I stepped out of the room to go and cry..............and then I went back in to snap a couple of photos!
They are really concentrating on the pictures and she is telling him what they are. He seems to focus his attention well. He is just stubborn about saying the words back to us.
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Don't beat yourself up over it. Boys seem to take a little while longer to talk than girls. I really think he will grow out of it. Before to long he will be talking your ear off.
My sister found out her son had to many ear infections and that is what slowed down his speech. He is almost 13 now and one of the smartest people I've ever meet. He has been told he has a very high IQ through some testing he has done.
Give it some time. I know he will come around.
I'll be praying that God loves on you extra special this week and shows you how great a parent you really are.
my youngest chose not to speak much .. in fact, I once got a phone call around Christmas from a teacher - she was so excited because SHE TALKED IN SCHOOL TODAY!!!
she understood everything...and she COULD talk... she just would not
So maybe your son is just not focused on speech right now. Is he an active kid? Mine is like a little daredevil he runs, jumps, and climbs a lot. Does your son seem to be like that?
I think he will get it when the time comes and then all of a sudden he will start talking your ear off. good luck in this situation. I know it is one of the hardest things to go through as a mother.
I hate the so-called experts and their timelines. Every kid is unique and should be allowed to develop at their own pace. My son was reading fluently at age three but refused to potty-train until he was very close to his 5th birthday. My daughter still struggles with reading at 9 years old but is a social butterfly with incredible leadership skills.
As soon as someone hands me a developmental chart or list of what they should do in this grade or at that age, I throw it straight in the garbage.
They are such beautiful children and you are truly blessed. It seems as if the doctor is being proactive, which is good. Probably once he has a few sessions with the speech therapist, you won't be able to make him be quiet:)
Don't stress too much.
Hopefully time will change this. How sweet that his sister is teaching him.
All kids have different timetables for their own development and if he does not fit into their little time line that really doesn't mean a thing yet, it is too soon to say. Don't worry too much, Monica.
I was one of those kids that never spoke and when I started talking it was already in little sentences. My mom took me to the doc who told her I was fine and would speak when I was ready to and that is exactly what happened.
My daughter helped us teach her little sister also. When my 2nd child, Nancy, was 3 she was heard telling our 2 yr old (While watching birds) "Say buud Donna. Say buud." And sure enough, Donna said buud; as did Cindy after them and Jeff after them :):) When Jeff was being enrolled in kindergarten they asked me if he had any speach problems and I said no. Another teacher at the table started laughing and said "Yes he does. He speaks the same lingo as your others; you are so used to it you don't hear it. Hmmm ... maybe I did play a part in it. :) Anyway, they all spoke fine by 10 yrs old.
My son, well they tested his hearing but it was normal, but they didn't test it at the right time. He was hard of hearing alot of time as was his one sister who also had the same allergies and sinus/ear infections.
I think the guys are just busy doing guy things! :)
I'm not a doctor but i say he's fine!
Chandler was talking complete sentences before he turned a year old! Stephy only said a few words until she was almost 4. Her big brother did all the talking for her and she would rather suck her thumb than talk! We had to pull her thumb out of her mouth to get her to answer us!
Have they checked his hearing yet?
I forgot to reply on this article earlier. Aidan is doing well with his speech now. There are no problems with his hearing or speech anymore. He is talking in full sentences and won't shut up. He was just a late bloomer I guess.
My brother had trouble saying his "R's". My aunt tried to get him to say "Rabbit". She repeated it several times and he just wouldn't say it. Finally he got frustrated and blurted out "Bunny!" She left him alone after that and now he is just fine.
So just love him and work with him and have his sister keep on trying to get him to talk. She has a lot of influence at this point, don't worry, I truly belive it will be fine.