Does everything REALLY happen for a reason?

All I know is that what happens will happen, we all have our time on Earth. I am very sorry for the loss of your cousin.

Our small town and several others are putting up Christmas lights early for a 2 year old boy that probably won't get to see another Christmas, life isn't fair. =(

You're right, life isn't fair! :(

I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time, Bridget. They say God's ways are not our ways, and you may not know the reason this side of eternity. I know that's not much comfort, but you are in my thoughts and prayers today.

Thanks Alicia! You're right, it's just hard!

I asked the same thing right after my sister died from breast cancer. It was so unfair then and it still feels like it is sometimes meaningless. The only reason that I always come back to though, is that I learned to love like there is no tomorrow. That is a huge reason.

That's one of the best reasons I can think of!

I'm sorry for your loss Sophie!

I believe everything happens for a reason.....

But, the only problem is....

.....most of the time we don't like the reasons........

Hang in there, Bridget.....

I think you may be onto something there Berf!

I believe there is fate, karma and God's plans, but there is also free will of man and one person's actions can change the fate or karma of many other people. It hurts, its not God's will always for someone so young to go, its just life. Its unexpected and it hurts. The reason? Maybe just for the rest of us to learn to live each moment to the fullest and not forget those we lost.

I think we all ask ourselves that question from time to time. I ask myself that when my Brother in law committed suicide.

'Everything happens for a reason' is just a saying Bridget, like
an old wives tale; no truth in it. When something like this does
happen it's devastating for all concerned Bridget. We all have to
deal with these things the best we can, and in time our sorrow
will pass; but will not be totally forgotten. You're all in my prayers.
Love you all, Barbie

I think there are some things that we will never understand until we meet our maker.

In one of Corrie ten boom's books she writes that life is like a tapestry, we only see the underside with the dark threads and knots, until we are on the other side and can see what God sees.

God brings good out of bad for those who love him. After my children were kidnapped in 1978, my life feel apart, I lost all hope and tried to commit suicide man times. It was a dark time in my life and I fell deep into a pit of depression. I learned not to lose hope, to trust in God and to go on. Looking back 31 years later, I can see where good was brought out of it. I had to learn and go on and often I tell people in in the deepest pit and your darkest hour, God is there. He sent me back to my life and after I have given witnesses about my life God has touched people through me who's loved ones have committed suicide and died. I can't tell them what their loved one was thinking, but I can tell them what I was thinking...which was that there was no hope and my mind was on trying to get out of the pain I was in.

My aunt died when she was two years old and I grew up seeing the effect it had on my grandmother. She so mourned her little girl and often talked about going to be with Phylis in Heaven. As a child I could not understand why she didn't want to stay on this earth with me. Years after she did die in 1980, I got great comfort in what she said as I realized she believed in Heaven.

You know, I hold onto that justification daily. That there must be a reason for living through this hell everyday! Just trying to find the good in every day, hour,minute or second!

I see death a little different. Hence my philosophy if I can no longer find justification of being here, then I will take my own life. So every day, every hour, every second I do what I can to justify being here, even if it is in my own mind. Just the way it has worked for me.
Some people just have not seen yet what they are meant to see. It may take time to learn to see what is meant to be seen. It may take a person there whole life time to "see".
But when that person does "see" what they are meant to "see", what a glorious thing it is! Then everything clicks into place.
Only thing I can possibly imagine why things happen...... Some days, death would be welcomed with open arms.
Keep holding on, finding solace a chance in everything seen, heard,touched,felt on and on. Try hard never to take things for granite. Make good times, good times and bad times humorous or at least bearable somehow. ..... it works for me, or I try !
Wish you well k!!

Everything does happen for a reason, but we may not know the reason ourselves. I believe the Lord does have a plan.

You know, the best one to talk to is Denise...she lost her 5 yr. old nephew a year ago in a tragic accident.

I have no answers to offer you Bridget only comfort

You know those paintings by Seurat with the little dots that end up making a big picture? If you look closely at those paintings, they only look like little dots that seem to have no purpose, but when you step back, you find that those dots all work together to make a beautiful painting.

I feel that God works that way.

You probably have no idea how your cousin may have affected the life of others even in a tiny little way. He's affecting you right now.

He definately is...