Hali is in 4th grade and doing great! She is a cheerleader for the 3 & 4 grade football teams and the 5th and 6th grade.. there are 12 girls and she loves it! She had her first school dance 2 weeks ago and I allowed her to go and she had a great time! She finally got up the courage to dance so she ended up dancing with about 5 different boys... She is NOT allowed to have a boyfriend.. they are all just friends.. I told her it is okay to have guy friends.. you can hang out with them.. call them.. give them a hug if ya want.. but you can NOT be a girlfriend.. She is totally fine with that.. Her BFF has a boyfriend.. the little girl was asked to the dance by a boy not her Boyfriend.. her mom told her she had to ask the BF if she could go with the other boy.. well he said yes so off she goes.. At the dance the boy she comes with asks her to be his GF.. So she tells her mom and her mom tells her she has to first break up with the BF.. During the dance a few boys asked her to dance.. her mom told her she had to ask the boy she came with.. the boy who was just a friend.. I thought it was SOOO sad that this 9 year old child had to ask permission for one boy to dance with another.. Whatever happend to being friends have having a good time with everyone! I had a long talk with my daughter.. she was a bit sad she cant have a "bf" I asked her what can herr BFF & Bff boyfriend do that she cant... She told me.. "talk to each other" "play together at recess" "Give a hug" you know mom.. well I quickly explained.. She can do every one of them things except be a GF.. I so badly want her to see how much better it is to be the guys friend and not worry about being the "gf".. Also explained what happens when they break up.. 1.. you lost a friend 2. your sad and upset, 3. there friends probably will not like you anymore either.. 4. is it funner to be a friend and not have to worry about a "breakup" or would you rather be a GF and have to deal with losing friends and being sad.. She totally understands and is excited about not having a bf but just being a friend!
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I had more guy friends that I did girl friends, but we were just that... FRIENDS!
I think that 4th graders are WAY too young to have boyfriends/girlfriends. At that age, they don't need to worry about that kind of crap. Be friends with boys and/or girls but NO relationships, what's the point? It's not like thay can do anything anyways!
I had a boyfriend in junior high, we held hands and went to the dances, but other than that... nothing!
There's too much time in life for relationships, at this age they need to focus on being kids!
BTW, your daughter is beautiful!
I had a boyfriend, my first one, when I was 11. I did not want that for my daughter. So far she has not had a boyfriend, some big crushes but no boyfriend yet.
You are right on loosing the boy as a friend when you end up breaking up - very true most of the time.
AND...she is absolutely beautiful and looks like you!
All the photos look like so much fun. Your daughter is turning into a beautiful young lady. I think the whole friends thing is a great thing to talk to your daughter about. There are so many fish in the sea. There's no use in getting tied down to one, until you know for sure you want to keep him forever.
Oh, btw, your daughter is beautiful. :)
She looks cute all dressed up.
I too think they are way to young to have boyfriends at that age, it just complicates things way too much.
I don't think we had dances until middle school, and I know I didn't have "boyfriends" until middle school, and all that mean was the title since we didn't do anything but walk to class together and pass notes in class.
It sounds like you are doing a great job...I'm so glad I have more time to prepare for that phase!
Seems like she had a good time at the dance. Did you stay there with her? You got some good pictures but Hali looks like she is saying Mom really do we have to take another picture.
I'm proud of you. Good work Tiffany.
BTW she is beautiful. I love her hair.
I also done her hair myself ;)
Great job on the hair. I want a girl so I can play with hair. :0(
Maybe one day. Who knows what God will do.
I can't believe how many girls that are that young say they have a boyfriend. They don't need that kind of headache to loose out on a friend when it all goes bad. He starts liking her friend and then he dumps her for the friend. It's just too much hurt and confusion for these girls to go through. For anyone to go through for that matter.
Good advice to give your beautiful girl! I shall have to remember it when my girl gets older.
life is confusing now then it was back then some 32 yrs ago,, heck I so confused now my son had a GF while in basic training, then broke up the nite he came home and now three days later back together again,, well for the next three weeks he is home I guess