Whats your ideas on a kid who fakes being sick....

i think that is an excellent idea... if he is too sick for school, he shouldn't be galavanting around. lol! enforcing it until he would have gotten off school is a great idea, too... maybe he'll think twice next time he fakes it!

although, maybe kids do deserve a mental health day off from school now and again... who knows? good luck, sweetie!

Watch TV? If he is sick... and missed school... he shouldn't be ALLOWED: TV, video games, friends over, the computer, going anywhere outside the house (UNLESS for medicine only)... If he is THAT sick, he should stay home and be in bed... Then, he will learn not to fake being sick. It worked always for my nieces and I'm sticking with this plan with both of my girls.

I don't have advice for you except to say if you feel bad he will know it and use it against you in the future.

If he came home actually sick, then I would allow him tv. If he's faking it, he woul get NOTHING!

elaine is right
but also try to see if there is a reason why he doesnt want to go to school, A test, a bully, etc

I have to say I agree with Michelle....no TV. When he realizes he can do absolutely nothing then he may think twice before the fakes being sick again!!!

oh a rite of passage ! I didn't even let mine watch TV also please do as Sandi suggested you never know

Heck, I've made my kid go to school sick.....he one faked it....I said that's it.....so, he did go to school one time and really was quite sick....oh well! He never did that again!

Elaine is right. He will know you'll give in after awhile. Mine pulled that a time or two. They stayed in bed except for meals and no TV. If they did it more than once I checked to see if there was a problem at school.

I would make him put on pajamas and stay in bed the rest of the day and evening with no TV and some chicken soup for dinner.

Wow I love your suggestions. Makes me feel not so mean(by the way even though I felt mean I didn't let on that I did). I think it is really working too. he is not happy with this set up at all. I will make sure though that he didn't have other reasons for coming home. I'd hate for him to have a bully or something.
Thanks guys!

Why? does he fake sickness to get out of school?
what is going on in school that has caused your child to dream up this action,and a very effective one,to get out of school and return home?
maybe you should start there and find out if he is experiencing something negative at school ..
a bully,or a teacher that he dislikes or dislikes him ?
good luck!

A teacher friend of mine called this malady "school-itis". My mom told me that if I was too sick to go to school, I was too sick to play. I could watch TV or read, but otherwise had to stay in bed. I kept this up with my own daughter.

Some kids do "work the system". My stepkids were told that they had to have a fever or be vomiting before they could stay home, so they'd make themselves throw up in order to stay home.

But it is true that school can be a very uncomfortable experience. One of my daughter's teachers made her life so unbearable at school that I wouldn't have been surprised if she HAD faked illness to stay home. My daughter changed from an eager student to one who had to force herself onto the bus each morning. But she kept going, focusing on the teacher who was a positive influence on her, rather than the bad one.

The only way you can find out if there is an underlying reason for "skipping" is to talk to your kid. Talk to them every day. Talk to their teacher(s). Talk to their friends. And you can always fall back on "I want you to be honest with me. Are you really sick, or do you just want to take a "mental health" day?"

When I was a kid I could get sick and well again at the drop of a hat (nervous stomach troubles).

The only thing I ever did if I was sick was rest up and work ahead on my homework. It was all given to us in advance for the entire year in all of our classes. That said, I agree with Michelle.

I think you're doing fine. I'm also thinking he's about the same age as my daughter, and with her (and her age) in mind, I'd consider no tv a little overboard. If I took that I'd let her read, or draw quietly, something. All those hours with nothing at all to do is too much, imo, and what you're already doing is getting the point across.

I was going to say if it happened again, I'd be looking at what's going on at school he's trying to avoid (bullies, is he allergic to something there that makes him feel sick at school [I was allergic to their floor wax]), but I see I'm not the only one who thought of it. ;)

My mother had told my brother he going to get a needle at the doctor's . He was better pretty quickly

you are fine keep up the front

Letting him out of bed early does not teach him anything. Sorry, but it doesn't. When a kid claims they are sick. They need to be in bed all day period. You will find out real quick if they are sick or not. A sick child can't tolerate staying in one place that long.

I have three kids. Ages 17, 10, and 8 yrs old. All three know if they are sick they are to sick to be anywhere but their beds. It is amzing how quickly they are no longer sick.

Being sick isn't SUPPOSED to be fun. I think you should stick to your original plan. I hope it teaches him a lesson. Good luck!

I wouldn't even let him watch TV.

wow

ive been an adol. psych. nurse for 18 years, you dont say if this is a one time problem or a habit,if this is a habit maybe the child is haveing difficulty understanding the work going on in the classroom, how are his grades? maybe he needs some one on one help.talk to the teacher is their someone picking on him? how about the bus? talk to the bus-driver is someone bothering him there? when he says he is sick, pick up his homework at school and THIS work is the only thing he should be allowed to do, sit with him and help him, see if there is a problem with understanding.if he doesnt wish to do his work(to sick) then he should ONLY be allowed to go to bed, no tv or intertainment of any kind.,and then sometimes kids just miss there mom,in that case he should enjoy the 1 on 1 time with you doing the homework and maybe you can get him to open up about why he doesnt enjoy school..goodluck

you have to ask you child why he is not happy at school.
Little thing for you it can be a big thing for them