HOLLIS (New Hampshire)– Police evacuated several homes and closed Silver Lake Road for several hours Wednesday morning while dealing with a woman who threatened and then committed suicide, police reported.
Police were called to the home at 441 Silver Lake Road, apt. B, shortly after 8 a.m. on a report of a woman who was armed and threatening suicide, Chief Russell Ux reported.
Police tried repeatedly to contact the woman, and got no response. About four hours later, members of the Nashua Police Special Reaction Team entered the home, and found the woman dead, Ux reported
- Andrew Wolfe
I am leaving her name out of this for now as family is notified (all of it) and in respect to her child etc... I'll update or write another article after all investigations etc are over.
I do not know how any of you have been able to deal with such a loss, I never have like this, the pain the anger is more intense then I ever understood.
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Whatever the circumstances, I wish you healing and peace and comfort, in time.
thank for prayers and for your kind words... later they will be a balm... right now they are drowned out by the cacophony of hurts...
I find myself at moments, not able to know what to do... so I just breath in and out, so that I might have the opertunity to breathe in and out again...
do I make any sense?
I am so very sorry for your loss, my friend. I have no words to express how to deal with such a senseless loss, except to remind you that you have friends here, and we will rally around you, to try to, in some miniscule way, fill the void. I know thew anger and pain must be unbearable, but it will ease, but only time can cure it.
Peace to you and yours,
Donna
(c) Jeff Schuck 2002-8
I am alive.
I may have lost my brother, my sister, my parent, my child, my spouse, my friend
But I am a survivor of the long dark night
Of unspeakable loss,
The unbearable pain of my own darkness, And, I am alive.
I am unwilling to stand idly by
And allow shame to defeat love
Or silence to defeat action.
I stand for the enlightenment of a society
That would hide from suicide,
That would avoid, that would pretend,
And I am alive.
I am unwilling for my perseverance
To be in vain,
Unwilling for the passing of my loved one
To be in shame.
I loved them more than I loved myself,
And their life will have meaning
In my action.
I am resolved,
And I am alive.
In a world blinded by the pursuit of pleasure,
I am here to say
That people are in pain.
In a world rushing to get ahead,
I am here to say
That people are being left behind.
In a world obsessed with the value of the market,
I am here to speak
For the value of life,
And I am alive.
This will be no quiet fight,
For I am the voice of audacity
In the face of apathy.
I am the spirit of bravery
In a word of action.
I am a commitment to action
In the face of neutrality.
I am out of the darkness.
I am into the light.
And I ---
I am alive.
This speech was given by Jeff Schuck at the opening and closing ceremonies, at the OUT OF THE DARKNESS, 26 mile, night time walk/ event for Suicide Awareness/Prevention, in Washington, D.C. The weekend of Aug 17& 18th, 2002.
I'm so sorry
Keith
We spend all our life getting ready to loose those we love, our parents, grandparents, the elders, and with knowing this we are never ready but for something like this, out of the blue, it's never something we can prepare for.
Prayers are with you and yours in this painful time and with a very long time, maybe you will heal from this. No parent should ever have to burry their child for any reason.
I'm so very sorry for you and feel your pain.
There aren't the words to cover this. I haven't experienced this, but I came close. The woman I was a caregiver for, confided in me that if her COPD became worse, she had pills stashed that would take her life.
There have been times in my life when circumstances allowed me to consider this. When I was in Vietnam (where I really didn't want to be), I ran across a Russian "advisor" (like our "advisors"), Mikhail Gerasov, in the jungle. We were both armed and at alert. Because I hated being there and what I was doing (protecting CIA drug routes), I dropped my weapon and expected to be shot. He dropped his. We shared lunch (he liked C rations better than his stuff).
I learned that a healthy curiosity about tomorrow is more a part of me than a feeling of giving up.
Losing a child, is unimaginable. I wish I could just sit with you. Thinking of you. HE will give you strength and peace. Ellen B
but it hurts hurts so so much...
thank you all
Our daughter's best friend was like our third daughter. She took her own life a few days before Christmas 2006. The sadness and grieving gave way to shock, anger and questions then sadness and grieving again. She left a wonderful husband of 3 years and a beautiful 2 year old baby boy.
I can't imagine what you are going through. Just know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time.
I have lost two dear friends to suicide and no the pain is tough but God understood their reasons and welcomed them to His peace. Illness presents itself silently many times. Do not beat yourself up. Lots of love to you. Jeanne
May her soul rest in peace.
I can't write more ... I'm really saddened...
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am so glad you called. You and Leslie can call anytime you need me. :)
in the face of death. It is the loving intention beneath the words, running
through them, that forms the net for our falling hearts. Even as we tumble to
the depths of despair, we are caught in the net of compassion."
Julia Cameron, Transitions
Blessings of peace and comfort.
You will be in my prayers, I can only tell you that our suffering here has bigger purpose for all of us, I am sorry for your loss.
My heart goes out to you and Leslie and the rest of your family, as well as Mark's and my prayers. I haven't been on here for a bit and when I started though my gather-mail and read this, I had to come right over. Know that you'll be held within all of your gather friends hearts here and also in their prayers. Know that it's OK to hurt, to grieve, to be angry.
Gentle hugs to you and Leslie, along with many, many prayers,
Marilyn and Mark
If you need someone who understands (as well as anyone can) please know that we may be strangers but we have become family.
My neighbor committed suicide less than 24 hours ago.
Rationally you know you could have done little. Emotionally you wish you could have had one last conversation . Many write about a last scenario from both sides.
Someone sent this to me when my father died and I have kept it to share with others:
Five Stages of Grief
Denial and Isolation
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual contacts.
This stage may last a few moments or longer.
Anger
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she is dead), or at the world, for even letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically,
nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath. This will come and go through the years as memories are triggered.
Acceptance
This is when anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the loss and understands that stages will be felt to very degrees but life continues in new ways.
Grief and Stress --- During grief, it is common to have conflicting feelings: sorrow, anger, loneliness, sadness, shame, anxiety and guilt often accompany serious losses and the death of a loved one. Having so many strong feelings can be stressful. Know these are not so much steps but more like places that one visits and re-visits in no set order.
Yet denying the feelings, and failing to work through the five stages of grief, is harder on the body and mind than going through them. When people suggest "looking on the bright side" or other ways of cutting off difficult feelings, the grieving person may feel pressure to hide or deny these emotions. Then it will take longer for healing to take place.
May you find peace in your own way, and deal with the pain as swiftly as possible. Do not hold it in, but let it come. Talk and expresse your pain and hurt, and your love for her.
May peace find you soon.