by Lainie - Just Lainie
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March 15, 2007

Warning: This is ridiculous

November 01, 2007 09:14 AM EDT
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I realize that what I'm about to write is a tad bit ridiculous.... But, as most of you are coming to realize, I am a tad bit ridiculous - as well as many of my thoughts.

I have not hidden the fact that I want this baby to be a girl. I have told EVERYONE that would listen that I want a girl and even joked that if it's a boy, I'm shipping the kid to my sister-in-law's house to live. But, I've only mentioned part of the reason....

I'm a girl. My sister is a girl (duh). We were raised by my mother (who is also a girl). We have always been the three girls - always. I KNOW girls. I know how to handle girls. I know what girls think and why they act like little bitches as teenagers. I can understand all of that about girls.

I do not understand boy children. They have so much energy and are capable of being so vile. They play with mud and worms and army guys. I don't understand that. I don't understand how to get into that stuff. I hyperventilate when I see worms let alone PLAY WITH THEM!

Girls want to be princesses and pirate wenches. They wear cute clothes and play with dollies.... Not camou pants and bomber jackets. (OBVIOUSLY I'm stereotyping.)

With that reasoning out in the open, here is the ridiculous reason behind my intense desire for a girl child: I want to have a relationship like Lorelai and Rory on Gilmore Girls.

I know. I know. It's not reality. It's a tv show. I know. But... Watching the way they interact and care for each other and love each other and are there for each other.... THAT is what I want. I want to be a best friend to my daughter. I want to be able to sit at a local diner and talk about cute guys that walk past. I want to share everything I know with a little girl. I don't think I can do that with a little boy.

I know I'm ridiculous and that I'm being silly. But, when I watch Gilmore Girls, I just think about how awesome it would be to have that relationship with a daughter..... Now I've come clean.... That is the other part of wanting this baby to be a girl child.

 Not to mention, I did a face recognition thingy and my facial features match Lauren Graham's face 75%!!!!
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Comments: 36

Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 9:20am EDT
Thank you for paying attention to me DB1-er!
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 9:22am EDT
April 10, 2008.
Joseph H. Nov 1, 2007, 9:26am EDT
Is this your first? I noticed that with our first, we had all kind of fanciful ideas of how things would be. With the second one...well, let's just say we are a bit more realistic.
Here's a 10 to help bring up your ratings (hate those dbs). I do not think that the way you feel is ridiculous. I haven't ever watched the gilmore girls, so do not know exactly what the relationship is with them. However, I will tell you that my daughter (I only had one child) and I have always been close. We were and still are best friends. I can talk to her about anything and vice versa. She's now 21 and has her own life, but that does not stop us from picking up the phone or visiting (if anything it has giving us more to discuss, etc).
I wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy and will look forward to reading all your stories when the baby arrives :)
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 9:29am EDT
Joseph, yes, this is MY first, my husband's second.

And, I know wanting a Gilmore Girl relationship is fanciful but it would be so perfect too. : )
Karl Leuba Nov 1, 2007, 9:30am EDT
Lainie, what did you do with your sense of adventure? You might just learn to love worms. You probably know more about little boys, and big ones, than you think. Those TV stereotypes of boys and their mother's are not particularly complimentary to boys who wash dishes, but wives sure appreciate them.
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 9:33am EDT
I have no adventurous side, Karl. : ) Really. And, honest, I do not handle worms (or snakes) very well. I could see a rambunctious little boy child tormenting me with a worm. : (

I know some good boy children but I know more bad boy children. My nephew is a fricken TERROR. He is THE WORST boy child I have ever seen. And I know that some of it is parenting (most of it) but... Boys have all that energy that they need to expend - which requires a lot of energy from good ole mom....
Joseph H. Nov 1, 2007, 9:35am EDT
I wanted our first to be a girl. No partucular reason. I just always imagined myself having a girl. We had a boy. Our second, I truly didn't have a preference. A girl would be nice since I still wanted a girl, plus it would be nice to have the mix. Two boys, on the other hand...what fun we will have! Unfortunately for my wife, there will be no dress up and she will have to learn all the different types of bulldozers, diggers, dump trucks, etc.
Deborah O. Nov 1, 2007, 9:38am EDT
I think that having a positive role to try to emulate is good, but also being yourself and enjoying what you have. I had two girls first and loved every minute, I grew up with all brothers so this was way different for me. Then I had my son, and that was joyful too! Each child is different, and each need to be appreciated for what they have and what they are. You sound like you will be a good mom, just remember that it takes two to make the world go round. Keep on going on ;-o
David S. Nov 1, 2007, 9:39am EDT
Congratualtions on your upcoming birth. I do know this, there is no greater bond than one between a son and his mother. A lot of it depends on the child itself. I've got a granddaughter that could hold her own with any boy going. Just love them and teach them and everything will be wonderful.
penni d. Nov 1, 2007, 9:41am EDT
ha ha, lainie....i felt the same way, almost 30 years ago.....with 8 freaking brothers,
i had had enough already ,lol,and she WAS a girl!!! good luck, but as a parent, you
should know, girl or boy, you're good to go....
Sheryl O. Nov 1, 2007, 10:03am EDT
Lainie - just a couple of thoughts, although I can't comment on the Gilmore Girls thing - never watched, but my daughter has told me she likes the show:

1. I was convinced that my first was a boy - so much so that after 36 hours of labor without any meds (or so natural and painful) my baby finally came out and the doctor announced, "It's a girl!", to which I replied, "No, you're wrong - it's a boy." Everybody thought that I was a little delirious, but I was convinced that a mistake had been made. Fortunately, I fell in love with HER right away and god help anybody who would have tried to take her from my arms. You'll be fine either way, believe me.

2. I IMPLORE you to rethink the girl vs. boy thing. It's important that you don't channel your daughter or son into stereotypical play. One of my daughter's favorite toys was her big Tonka dump truck. Kids LOVE to explore their environments and it makes them smarter and more well-rounded human beings. It doesn't matter whether they are male or female, kids love to dig, build, craft, discover small living creatures (including the dreaded worm)......just let them do it. Let them get dirty and wet and messy - just give them the opportunity to do what they do naturally - discover the world. Please don't brainwash your daughter with Disney princess stuff only - let it just be a part of her whole experience. And, the same for a son and the GI Joe stuff. Don't even THINK about gender - just let them develop their own interests based on their own personalities. You may have a son that hates to get his hands dirty, or a daughter who can't stand having her hair styled. Go with it - the most important thing is for kids to be happy in discovering the world and themselves.

And, we need a LOT more female engineers in this country - you'd be doing your country a service! : - )
Ron B. Nov 1, 2007, 10:11am EDT
I really wanted a boy but he turned out to be a girl and a wonderful child. Eight years later the boy arrived and they were so much alike in personality, behavior, temperament and interests.
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 10:18am EDT
Joseph, at least it's not 6 boys.... : )

Deborah and David, thank you for the encouragement.

Penni, I know you're right....

Sheryl, I know that either way, I will love the child.... But my fingers are still crossed. : ) As for the stereotypical play, I am not as girly as this article made me appear. I would rather be out playing baseball with all the boys than playing Barbies. I always wanted to play dolls though... I also enjoyed getting dirty, which I do not now... If my son wanted a doll, I would get him a doll. If my daughter wanted Tonka, I would get her Tonka.... No matter what my child is, it WILL wear Osh Kosh B'Gosh overalls - they are so functional for boys or girls. : ) And, I would encourage either sex child to do what makes them happy - even if it is playing with worms (although I would stay in the house and disinfect its hands before letting it come back in the house. : )

Ron.... Strange... Yet encouraging. : )
Sheryl O. Nov 1, 2007, 10:33am EDT
LOL - ok, Lainie, I get the convinced part. But don't make the mistake I did by buying all gender-type clothes before they are born. As a baby, my daughter was dressed mostly in "boy" colors because that's what I bought being convinced she was going to be a boy (even Osh K'osh's). She was pretty much bald her first year of life, so people would come up to me in public and say, "What a cute little boy!". To which I would have to respond that it was a girl. Then they'd either give me a funny look or tell me that she should be in pink, not blue. I even had one lady demand that I TAPE a bow to her bald little head so as not to deceive anyone. : - ) People are so strange.
Ann Weaver Hart Nov 1, 2007, 10:36am EDT
When I wanted a girl, I got a boy. Then I knew my unborn daughters didn't want to be boys. I have had wonderful relationships with all of them, and heartbreaks as well.

If you live in a city, you won't have much problem with the snakes and worm thing, since snakes and worms don't do concrete.

You can have the relationship of your dreams with anyone you want. . . by building that relationship on purpose, day by day. Good luck.
Pax
Joe T. Nov 1, 2007, 10:40am EDT
Good luck with your pregnancy and delivery. Whether you have a boy or girl, I think you'll be just fine. Mothers and their sons often have special relationships that can't be equaled by a girl. You may know girls but it might be an adventure to get to know boys, Lainie.
You Know Lainie, that is not ridiculous...I want that too. I have watched Gilmore Girls for like three years and I said when I have a kid I want to have a girl and have a relationship with her just like that! =] I do. So your not ridiculous...and if you are, then I am too...so your not the only one...but i'm not pregnant, so it will be awhile before I have a kid! =]
Take care, and remember your not ridiculous, or alone...LOL!
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 10:55am EDT
Phew!
Col. George W. Nov 1, 2007, 11:08am EDT
You are only rediculous in your own mind. Your son will grow into a good man mostly because you will love and protect him (but don't protect him too much)

I raised my son from 9 on and we could not be closer. He is my friend and confidant more than my son. I would venture to say he is my ONLY true friend. He so much smarter than I was at his age that it almost scares me. I go to him for advice nowdays more than he does me which is a switch to a father/son relationship.
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 1, 2007, 11:15am EDT
Cute Colonel!

I know that no matter what sex the child is, it will be a good kid. I will love it and protect it (but not too much) and I will teach it to be a good, kind, person. That will be true for boy or girl.

I just want a cute little angelic girl! : )
Nana to Seven Cutiepies Nov 1, 2007, 11:53am EDT
Lainie, I hope your wish come true. I guess it won't be long now before you know for sure! Also, no matter what, a boy or a girl, you will be thrilled despite your feelings now. You'll see that sweet adorable child and fall in love over and over again. I had both and know the pros and cons of each. Best wishes :)
lynn a. Nov 1, 2007, 11:55am EDT
I have to admit I wanted my child to be a girl and that is what happened. My sister had 3 boys. I have found that boy children can be wonderful. They have a sweetness I'd have never known had it not been for my sister's children. Either way, I think they surprise you with sheer joy. But I understand your feelings completely.
Heather W. Nov 1, 2007, 12:36pm EDT
I just prayed for a healthy baby when I was pregnant.
Doyle ( IS SOOO 7 for 7 soon... ) C. Nov 1, 2007, 6:52pm EDT
Not only NOT rediculous . . . even predictable. It doesn't matter, although I personally think having a boy would be best for you . . . either way . . . that'll be one of the luckiest kids on Earth . . . and you'll be a great mother. People without kids Always say "I would never . . . " or ""Ooooh, they're doing it wrong." "My kid would . . . " . . .

Then comes reality. And as the parents learn and grow . . . wonderful things happen. And they WILL happen to you two too. Guaranteed. Unforeseen. Priceless, unforgettable moments . . . the kind that you will remember forever.

You'll be great my Dear friend.

Regards,
Doyle I <~~~~~
Phyllis R. Nov 1, 2007, 9:41pm EDT
Lainie, this is a great article and you are one honest person to state your true feelings, in that I do admire!! My husband and I have no children, that was not in God's plan but, I have 3 neices and 2 nephews which are my pride and joy. I hope you get what your heart desires BUT, I pray that whichever it will be a healthy and happy baby because I know you will have more love and joy for it then you ever dreamed possible. I wish for you blessings throughout the remainder of your pregancy!!
Suze P. Nov 2, 2007, 5:31pm EDT
I love Gilmore Girls and if I had a daughter ..and I'd be hoping for a girl too cuz I've always wanted a little girl.. I'd want the kind of relationship they have too. ..but if it happens to be a boy, once he's here you'll look at him and wonder how you could have ever wanted him to be anything else than what he is .. there's just this thing between mom's and their little boys.
Sherine W. Nov 3, 2007, 6:51pm EDT
Having a great relationship with a daughter is a wonderful thing. I have two grown daughters, and I cherish both of them, and all the memories we share. You can read an article my daughter wrote at: http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474977124854
We were pretty much a family of girls...my mom had two girls, I had two girls, my sister had two girls...Pretty much all I knew about were girls. And then came the GRANDSONS!!! I must say that getting to learn about little boys has been AMAZING and such a blessing! Whether you have a boy or a girl, when the moment of birth arrives, you will be overjoyed. If you have a hard time figuring out how to deal with a boy, just reach out to those who have been there. May your joy be complete no matter what!
Bundy P Nov 4, 2007, 7:43pm EST
I'm lucky to have a boy and a girl, and I have a great relationship with both.
Sue * Nov 5, 2007, 10:16pm EST
I so understand...I only had a sister, never even did any babysitting. I am a very girly girl...don't like dirt, or trucks, or toads. Of course, we got the boy first...lucky for me he didn't like trucks much, or dirt, or bugs...just sports. Sports, sports and more sports. I've been to more games, events, pro-things, over the years than I would ever imagine...but, at least you could get hotdogs, and popcorn:) Oh, and my daughter and I...yup, the Gilmore girls. Sometimes you do have to be the mom, and not the best friend...but most of the time, that is us!
Lainie: You goooo! You and your husband's decision, of course. Your choice. I know you'll be happy, no matter which, though. I hoping for that girl for you so you can name it "Nalita!" Lainie, forget about the name "Sophia". Let me plead my case to you. I'll bet the name "Nalita" has a far longer history, back past the pyramids. No, it did NOT originate in Russia as many believe. . .

No, seriously Lainie, I am just trying my best to make you laugh.

Whatever you do or think is you and your husband's business. I hope you get the girl, but you are going to be happy, even if the baby is a boy if he is healthy, as I pray the baby shall be!

I do thank you, though, for being so sweet to share this wonderful time in your life with all of us!
I tried To warn you Nov 6, 2007, 3:49pm EST
You get a 10 and most people think my daughter and I are sisters. And of, those who don't, sometimes they mistake HER for the mother. Laugh a lot, play hard, and she will keep you young. If you have a boy, I surmise you'll go gray in weeks. I have had one of each. Are you going to get an ultrasound?
I tried To warn you Nov 6, 2007, 3:51pm EST
Oh, and if you feel it is a girl it prolly is, my daughter was born april 15.
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 12, 2007, 12:52pm EST
Thank you, Michelle!
Doyle ( IS SOOO 7 for 7 soon... ) C. Nov 12, 2007, 1:07pm EST
LMAO ! ! ! Wait a minute . . . If Nalita can plead for Nalita as a child's name . . . might I suggest Doylianna, Doylia or Doylephusania?? LoL!! I'm just sayin'! The name seems to carry stunning good looks, a rapier like sense of wit and timing, an inherent intelligence far above the norm and, of course, all these fantastic traits are honed and downplayed by an incredible humility! ;P

Regards,
Doyle I <~~~~~
Lainie - Just Lainie Nov 12, 2007, 1:10pm EST
I actually do like the name Doyle. But, I fear it may be a little too Irish for my family..... If you'd ever <~~~~~~~~~~~~ back, I might know.... : P

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