I've had all I can stands...and I can't stands no more. The time has come for me to say buh-bye! Parting is such sweet sorrow. I've talked about it and the decision has finally been made. I'm sorry to see you go, but you've left me no choice. 
There, I've done it. I took a couple of hours over the weekend and reflected on the past...then reached out and hit that delete button. No, not me or my posts on Gather. I ain't goin' nowhere. It's those people...the ones who are a royal pain in the patootie and the members who have disappeared and don't seem to come around anymore. I said I was going to do it...and I did. I went through my friends list and got rid of the dead wood and the ones who irritate me and get under my skin.
As I mention in a recent post, I scanned my connections network and found my 'Big Three'. They were the first to get the axe...starting with 'The Taker'! Goodbye and good riddance, Dan, my man. No longer will I have to put up with your begging...begging for points, begging to look at your pictures, begging to come on in and say good morning with a chat, begging for bucks. It's not like I'm losing anything with you. You always took and rarely gave anything in return...unless it was some cut and paste, generic, crapola, spam comment begging for people to come to your group and give you even more points. Nuh-uh...ain't a gonna do it. Hit the road, Jack, and don'tcha come back no more, no more, no more, no more!
How liberating that first 'delete' was. Woo Hoo...Yippee! For twenty one months, I've accepted every friend request I've received on Gather; never turning anyone down, no matter who it was. Not once, have I ever booted a single soul out of my group of friends. My network grew and grew until I was finally pushing 1,300 people. Whoa! Enough is enough. As I wrote before, who are some of these folks? I haven't a clue...and neither do a lot of other people. As I went through my list, I began to notice there were some who signed up for Gather on a certain day...and that was the last day they ever signed in. What's that all about? Why even bother to create an account in the first place if you never plan on returning? Sounds like a few had a little too much time on their hands. There were others who hung around for a whole week...or maybe even a month...then disappeared, never to be heard from again.
At first, I was just going to eliminate those who haven't visited Gather this year...and there were many. Once I got through that group, I decided to keep going and add a few more months onto the requirements. If they haven't been around since I returned home from the hospital earlier this year; they'd have no clue what I was talking about with the majority of the stories I've told since April...so they went, too. I was getting slap happy. This is fun! Delete...delete...delete. Gather may still count you as a member, but you're no long connected to me. Then, I started thinking, some people get busy during the good weather months and have more to do that sit around hanging out on a computer. I'll give them the benefit of a doubt. I decided to go a couple more months into my network. Alright, summer's over in September and if they haven't returned by that point; chances are they're not coming back, either.
I kept punching that button and away went some more. I went one better. If they haven't been around in the past month or so, they gotta go, too.
When the dust finally settled, I had given the old heave ho to 430 people in my network...or who used to be in my network...including over fifty who had considered themselves to be my 'colleagues'. There were even three who signed on as 'family'. I wasn't related to them, but they considered, since they were gay, too, that made them 'family'. Sorry, but you've been disowned. I cleaned out 21 pages of people; from 65 down to 44...a little easier to go through now.
I was at 883...and while I was cleaning house, I got a request from someone new to become a friend. Oh, alright. I'm in a good mood. I'll give them a chance. In the group I have left, I've noticed some of those people have never visited a single one of my posts, nor have I seen them publish anything. I have my notifications activated on every person for articles, pictures and videos. Unless a Gather glitch was running rampant, I would have received an E-mail if they had posted. I'll at least leave them before I go through the list again and let the axe start falling one more time.
In going through my list of some of the throngs of people here, I found it quite amusing as to who I was saying see ya later to. It made me wonder about some of them, too. There were several authors, singers and musicians and business people, including reps from Charles Schwabb and American Express. They came here to promote what they had to offer. Either their projects ended up failing or they have very poor business sense. Many of the doctors associated with Harvard University signed on, but no longer visit the site. I didn't even bother looking for a second opinion. I got rid of a dozen of them, along with 'Dr. Tea', too. Must be he switched over to coffee. I said so long to 'Donny Osmond' and his #1 fan, as well as professional wrestler, John Cena's, top gal. Now, I can have him to myself. There was even a roller derby queen I flipped over the railing and off the track. Rudy Giuliani and a White House staff member departed...no scandal to force their departure. A couple 'Dames' are gone as is Mayberry's sweet old 'Aunt Bea'. I even called it quits with The Almighty...'Evan Almighty'. There was even a 'Ghostwriter', a 'Guru'...of jobs and careers...and a 'Stargate Commander'. The 'Green Moderator' and the 'Entertainment Moderator' were tossed, too. I guess there was no more for them to moderate. Gather's not-so-top dog '(Fake) Tom Gerace' was asked to step down, though the real deal Tom remains as a friend, as do several of the other Gather staff members.
I even eliminated an old friend from back home when I noticed she hadn't logged in during the past year; not that I missed her all that much.
There was 'Steve Y Do I Even Bother'. Damned if I know, so I'm not going to bother with you anymore, either. 'Chaotic Ramblings' rambled on and on and out the door. 'Simple Steps' took one too many and stepped out right behind them. I found 'Project Breakout', so I let it breakout with the rest. 'The Voice' was silenced, too. I had to get rid of 'It's Not Me'. Well, if it's not you; it's sure as heck not me, either. 'Who The Hell Cares' had to go...because I sure the hell didn't care. I'm assuming the 'Stop Child Executions Campaign' came to an end as they haven't been around in forever. Either the child executions have stopped...or there's no more children to execute. I was suprised to see 'Speedy - Support Veterans' hasn't been here in some time, too. I gave a salute and played Taps for him.
I feel so much lighter getting all that dead weight off my shoulders. There's too many good people here I wanted to make more room for. If you received a notification on this piece and are reading it now; you're safe. You survived the cut. If I deleted someone who really wants to be connected with me...sorry. I guess you'll just have to make another request...except 'The Taker'. Don't even try it, because I want nothing to do with you. Go pester others with your pleas. I don't want to hear it. If there's anyone else who wants to be friends; by all means; send a holla my way and join the fun. If there's anyone who wants to deleted me; you won't be the first and you won't be the last. Go ahead and hit that button. It only takes a moment. I know, because I did the dirty deed...and it sure feels good.
There, I've done it. I took a couple of hours over the weekend and reflected on the past...then reached out and hit that delete button. No, not me or my posts on Gather. I ain't goin' nowhere. It's those people...the ones who are a royal pain in the patootie and the members who have disappeared and don't seem to come around anymore. I said I was going to do it...and I did. I went through my friends list and got rid of the dead wood and the ones who irritate me and get under my skin.
As I mention in a recent post, I scanned my connections network and found my 'Big Three'. They were the first to get the axe...starting with 'The Taker'! Goodbye and good riddance, Dan, my man. No longer will I have to put up with your begging...begging for points, begging to look at your pictures, begging to come on in and say good morning with a chat, begging for bucks. It's not like I'm losing anything with you. You always took and rarely gave anything in return...unless it was some cut and paste, generic, crapola, spam comment begging for people to come to your group and give you even more points. Nuh-uh...ain't a gonna do it. Hit the road, Jack, and don'tcha come back no more, no more, no more, no more! How liberating that first 'delete' was. Woo Hoo...Yippee! For twenty one months, I've accepted every friend request I've received on Gather; never turning anyone down, no matter who it was. Not once, have I ever booted a single soul out of my group of friends. My network grew and grew until I was finally pushing 1,300 people. Whoa! Enough is enough. As I wrote before, who are some of these folks? I haven't a clue...and neither do a lot of other people. As I went through my list, I began to notice there were some who signed up for Gather on a certain day...and that was the last day they ever signed in. What's that all about? Why even bother to create an account in the first place if you never plan on returning? Sounds like a few had a little too much time on their hands. There were others who hung around for a whole week...or maybe even a month...then disappeared, never to be heard from again.
At first, I was just going to eliminate those who haven't visited Gather this year...and there were many. Once I got through that group, I decided to keep going and add a few more months onto the requirements. If they haven't been around since I returned home from the hospital earlier this year; they'd have no clue what I was talking about with the majority of the stories I've told since April...so they went, too. I was getting slap happy. This is fun! Delete...delete...delete. Gather may still count you as a member, but you're no long connected to me. Then, I started thinking, some people get busy during the good weather months and have more to do that sit around hanging out on a computer. I'll give them the benefit of a doubt. I decided to go a couple more months into my network. Alright, summer's over in September and if they haven't returned by that point; chances are they're not coming back, either.
I kept punching that button and away went some more. I went one better. If they haven't been around in the past month or so, they gotta go, too. When the dust finally settled, I had given the old heave ho to 430 people in my network...or who used to be in my network...including over fifty who had considered themselves to be my 'colleagues'. There were even three who signed on as 'family'. I wasn't related to them, but they considered, since they were gay, too, that made them 'family'. Sorry, but you've been disowned. I cleaned out 21 pages of people; from 65 down to 44...a little easier to go through now.
I was at 883...and while I was cleaning house, I got a request from someone new to become a friend. Oh, alright. I'm in a good mood. I'll give them a chance. In the group I have left, I've noticed some of those people have never visited a single one of my posts, nor have I seen them publish anything. I have my notifications activated on every person for articles, pictures and videos. Unless a Gather glitch was running rampant, I would have received an E-mail if they had posted. I'll at least leave them before I go through the list again and let the axe start falling one more time. In going through my list of some of the throngs of people here, I found it quite amusing as to who I was saying see ya later to. It made me wonder about some of them, too. There were several authors, singers and musicians and business people, including reps from Charles Schwabb and American Express. They came here to promote what they had to offer. Either their projects ended up failing or they have very poor business sense. Many of the doctors associated with Harvard University signed on, but no longer visit the site. I didn't even bother looking for a second opinion. I got rid of a dozen of them, along with 'Dr. Tea', too. Must be he switched over to coffee. I said so long to 'Donny Osmond' and his #1 fan, as well as professional wrestler, John Cena's, top gal. Now, I can have him to myself. There was even a roller derby queen I flipped over the railing and off the track. Rudy Giuliani and a White House staff member departed...no scandal to force their departure. A couple 'Dames' are gone as is Mayberry's sweet old 'Aunt Bea'. I even called it quits with The Almighty...'Evan Almighty'. There was even a 'Ghostwriter', a 'Guru'...of jobs and careers...and a 'Stargate Commander'. The 'Green Moderator' and the 'Entertainment Moderator' were tossed, too. I guess there was no more for them to moderate. Gather's not-so-top dog '(Fake) Tom Gerace' was asked to step down, though the real deal Tom remains as a friend, as do several of the other Gather staff members.
I even eliminated an old friend from back home when I noticed she hadn't logged in during the past year; not that I missed her all that much.There was 'Steve Y Do I Even Bother'. Damned if I know, so I'm not going to bother with you anymore, either. 'Chaotic Ramblings' rambled on and on and out the door. 'Simple Steps' took one too many and stepped out right behind them. I found 'Project Breakout', so I let it breakout with the rest. 'The Voice' was silenced, too. I had to get rid of 'It's Not Me'. Well, if it's not you; it's sure as heck not me, either. 'Who The Hell Cares' had to go...because I sure the hell didn't care. I'm assuming the 'Stop Child Executions Campaign' came to an end as they haven't been around in forever. Either the child executions have stopped...or there's no more children to execute. I was suprised to see 'Speedy - Support Veterans' hasn't been here in some time, too. I gave a salute and played Taps for him.
I feel so much lighter getting all that dead weight off my shoulders. There's too many good people here I wanted to make more room for. If you received a notification on this piece and are reading it now; you're safe. You survived the cut. If I deleted someone who really wants to be connected with me...sorry. I guess you'll just have to make another request...except 'The Taker'. Don't even try it, because I want nothing to do with you. Go pester others with your pleas. I don't want to hear it. If there's anyone else who wants to be friends; by all means; send a holla my way and join the fun. If there's anyone who wants to deleted me; you won't be the first and you won't be the last. Go ahead and hit that button. It only takes a moment. I know, because I did the dirty deed...and it sure feels good.
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So glad that is not the isssue.. Unreal the amount of connections you had! I only have a little under 600.
Have a fantastic day!
You really had your work cut out for you there.
Have a good day Rob
you really really really had me worried at first............you brat you.........
I have thought about doing the same thing, but I have all the patience in the world....and I keep accepting all of those invites too......
I am so glad I made the cut though......I have decided to go and comment on those who have the time to do me.....
all the rest......like that man who begs and begs and begs.......I just delete a whole lot of g-mails every morning when I get on while commenting back to my real friends here......
and you better not leave, you got that ! ! ! ? ? ? ! ! !
Lots of Love from Koko!
was nice to see you at my quasi-erotic bookstore cafe anecdote and giving me the info to flag or not to flag....come visit me more often,too.....your sense of humor meshes well with mine.....i clean out my connections now and again...found out after this last upgrade that Gather cleaned out some for me,too!...LOL...a few noticed,but not all thus far....i like to think of them floating in cyberspace ranting and whining to themselves ;>
too early here....back to snooze a bit longer
cheers,gayle in WA state
Glad I was on the 'keep' list.
Hugs,
J
anyways...glad you kept me around for more harassing hehe...
talk to you later!!!
I do a little friends list pruning every now and them. But with 'The Taker', like Sue said, get ready to have an insane amount of friends requests from him. I had to contact Gather about the little turd to get him to leave me alone.
What kills me is a lot of the ladies on here really believe his story. I call shenanigans because there's no way in hell one can be a med student, and live on Gather 24 hours a day like he does.
I only have about 120 connections, and I know I've refused two for every one I accept. I have so little time to devote here, I don't want to waste it on people I have no interest in.
Besides, I'm a mean old bitch.
Also, Tom makes it sound like I actually care what YOU have to say...and tell him about it.... Men are so full of it !!! LOL
Talk with you later...unless you come up with good reason to delete me too....:)
My friends/connections are still broken into three groups too, and really don't get how to change that; or if it matters? Anyway, good for you.
Take care.
Thanks
They're right about the man, took me a while to figure the reconnect requests weren't sincere, I'm a sucker sometimes, lol, now he hangs in pending for eternity, connection purgatory, Yey!!!!
I tend to think about people before I include them in my list of 'friends' and there have been some that I've deleted along the way. The same with groups.
As for participation, depends upon my time. I do try to read posts or look at pictures. Sometimes if I'm really busy, I'll read--depending upon the subject matter, I may or may not comment. Like you have a problem with Mz. or Mr. gimme points and post TV shows, upcoming movies, recipes, or an album of a cazzillion pictures DAILY.
I for sure don't have time to read articles and look at pictures of 1000 people. Gosh, there is a thing called real life, lolol! If I want to read that much, I'd much prefer reading a book.