Kindergarten Blues

Silly girl, you'll always be mommy. That doesn't change with school or friends or growing up. Think about how you felt and feel about your own mom. Heck, I turn 40 next Sunday and I still want my mommy sometimes.

I don't have any kids yet, so I can't imagine how hard it is to watch them grow up so quickly... but like Marianne said above, little girls always hold a special place in their hearts for their Mommies. No matter how old I get or how far away from "home" I roam, my mom is always there with me in my heart.

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She will have a lot of fun and you will do ok after the first few days. Just don't let her see you crying because then she will be bothered by it.

Good luck!!

You will always be her mommy. In her teenage years she may decide she doesn't need you, but don't believe her. She will always need you. You are her mommy forever and ever.

that's a sweet poem but you will always be her mommy.

I understand your feelings as I did this 6 times. The first & last were the worst. You don't have to worry about not being mommy anymore. They will always need you.

aw that's so sweet ! i can't imagine what it feels like.. cause i don't have any children.. but of course she is always going to need you.. i still need my mommy !

Good that you can put your feelings into words and I think you wrote a great poem. I know the feelings and did it twice and I think it hit me the worst when we dropped our daughter off at college her freshman year. Her Dad and I did fine till we stopped for lunch on the way home. We looked at each other and started bawling. I bet the waitress thought someone had died. Sometimes it's hard letting go but we'll always be a Mommy!

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Oh Vic what can I say what you wrote was so nice.

You and Ron have done a good job of getting her ready for school. She will be fine relax.

Oh, I so sympathize and understand your feelings. I don't care how many times you do it, with each child it is the same feelings.

Don't worry though, she'll still need you just as much as she does now. My daughter is almost 12 years old and in 6th grade... she still needs me and wants me around.

I've got two in school already. This coming school year I will have two more heading to school. We've been homeschooling for Kindergarten and Preschool.

So this upcoming school year I've got my son David starting 1st grade and my son Drake starting Kindergarten... That only leaves me with one baby at home. *sighs*

I'm trying to be positive about it and look at it that now I'll get to spend some extra, one on one, time with my youngest.

Cute article & photo's, you'll always be mommy ;-)

Marianne: Yeah, I guess you're right, but the day will come when she'll quit calling me "Mommy". Somewhere along the way my own mom just became that, "Mom" instead of "Mommy". And the teen years are going to suck. But yeah, she will always need me I guess. There will just be a few years when she'll think she doesn't. Maybe her teen years won't be so bad? Totally different from my own? Sigh. I hope so.

That's so true, Vikki. I guess I've just got to accept that she's going to grow up and there's nothing I can do about that, so I've just got to make sure we have a good relationship. They do grow so fast, so be prepared for that part when you do have kids of your own! It seems like only yesterday that I was on my way to the hospital with contractions.

Thanks for commenting, dark faery.

Thanks, Ang. Yeah, that's going to be the hard part......waiting until I get out to the car to bawl my eyes out the day she starts to school. I know it's going to be tough on my son too, because he's had Haley around his entire life.

Phyllis: Yeah, I've thought about how neat that will be, but I can't help but feeling down that I will no longer be a part of that day. It's all very exciting but so bittersweet too, ya know. Thanks so much for commenting.

Thanks, Sharon. I think those are the years I'm most worried about. The dreaded teen years.

Thanks, Heidi.

I hope she always does, Nancy, and I hope I can always be there for her.

I still need mine too, Meg. : ) When I'm sick or down it's always my mom that I call.

Awww, Joan, I hadn't even thought that far ahead. When that day comes I will be in a terrible state, especially if kindergarten is doing me this way. LOL

Thanks for commenting, Marilyn.

Thanks, Jodie. Yeah, she's going to really thrive on school I know.

Thanks, Julee. It will be rather exciting to see all that.

Melanie: I don't think I've ever told you this, but I just love it when you comment on my pathethic Mommy stuff. You always really understand where I'm coming from and can make me feel better. Thanks for that. I've tried to think positive about this experience too about how I'll get to spend more time with Parker and can start teaching him more things. It still all sorta sucks though. LOL

Thanks, Elaine!

Victoria----you will always be Mommy to Haley. She will just be independent and beautiful. But you will be Mom forever.

Victoria, as children grow they need you even more. You'll always be Mommy and since you are such a wonderful Mother I'm sure you'll grow even closer as she grows. You'll really miss her, but the day will fly by and there she'll be, home again before you know it. She'll have stories to share, and a lot more precious memories will be made. Enjoy this special day along with all the ones to come. Before you know it she'll be off with a family of her own or leaving for college, but even then Victoria, she'll still come to you first in happy times and troubling times. You will be her number one forever. This is just a step in the journey to becoming the beautiful young lady she is sure to be.

Oh, Victoria... you will always be their "mommy" and will always be important to them both! You have developed a wonderful close relationship with your daughter (and son)and that will just deepen as the years go by (really!!). Watching your daughter grow into a beautiful young lady will be such a joy... you wait and see!! :)

I remember going through this. I remember worrying and even thinking maybe I should hold my son back one year due to his young age. In the end I sent him and he fell in love! He fell in love with reading, and science! He made friends and came out of his box. He was no longer the shy little boy. I am sure your daughter will love it and just think of all the stuff you can get done!
I volunteered for a lot of the field trips too those can be fun for moms. They need parents involvement in the classrooms so maybe you can go help when they need it.

It is always sad to see your child growing up so quickly but when you look back you will have such fond memories and be so thrilled at what a beautiful child you have raised. ( I am a mom of a 14 yr old boy and that fact still amazes me it seems like just yesterday that he was born)

Victoria- Sorry, I just got back to your article.

I wanted to comment that not all teenagers go through that rough period where mom isn't cool, mom isn't wanted etc.

My mom and I were absolute best friends when I was growing up, even when I was a teen. I loved, loved, loved hanging out with my mom.

And, yep, we all usually outgrow "mommy" for "mom" but I still have moments when I call my mother "mommy" or "momma" eheh.

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I know you will be so sad when school starts, - my sister was the same this past school year with her daughter. Haley will always need you, - I see how much you love and need your mother from reading things here on gather, --- it will be the same will Haley. You, Parker and myself will have to do something together that day to keep your mind 'busy'!!! (This is not a "crappy poem" either)!

BTW, - what does this statement mean???? "One day, if we still live here then, it will be Parker's school too." Just tell me, --where do you think you are going?!?!?!??!?

This was such a sweet poem Victoria. I will probably be putting Michael in for Pre K for the Fall. I will probably feel the same way too.

awww don't be sad -- i like your poem. rylee was excited about school too, but just until about a week ago she cried everyday -- because she said she missed chelle.

Thanks, Monica. Independent. Awwww. I think I'm just being selfish.

Aww, Nana, thanks so much for that. You actually brought tears to my eyes. Being a mother has been such a rollercoaster of emotions for me, and I guess for all mothers too. You love your children to pieces and want to do all you can for them and with them. They grow and you're happy and excited to see what they'll become and yet sad that they can't stay little and need you forever. You feel selfish and guilty for wanting time to yourself. It's all just sort of funny. Thanks so much for your comment though. You're so right. I hope I can remember all of that.

Thank you Sue. I hope it does continue to deepen. I've tried to keep a very close bond and relationship between me and my children. I think that is so very important in today's society.

Thanks so much, Amy, for commenting, especially about the volunteering and field trips. I had seen on Haley's school's website where they encouraged parents to come in and visit the classroom and volunteer and I was wanting to do all of that. I want to be as involved in my children's educaton as possible.

Oh, Melanie, I hope it's that way with my kids and me. I was a terrible teenager. Ask my mom! She talks about the terrible teen years to this day. It must have been horrible for her. I realize looking back how terrible I was and I think I live in fear that I'll have to go through all of that myself as a parent for payback or something. LOL

Thanks, Austin. Yay!

I had to LOL @ your last comment, Phyllis. Who knows what the future will bring! ; ) Want to go to McD's and eat with me and Parker that day? That's what I was planning. Figured it would be a special treat for two depressed and sad people. LOL Thanks for the comment on my poem too. I know it's nothing spectacular but it was exactly how I felt.

We can be sad and cry together, Karolyn! ; )

Joni, awww, poor Rylee. I can't decide if I want Haley to miss me or just be perfectly okay with everything. It will probably be best if she's just good to go right from the start, but man, there'll be a piece of me that will be sad that she's not devastated by leaving my side. LOL I know, I know, how selfish of me.

You'll always be her Mom and here's how I KNOW this: my mother is growing old and I can't bear the thought of her not being around...someday. I now help care for my mother but she is still my Mom and I am still her "little girl" (a part of me, inside, while another part is mothering her).

I know that may sound complicated but at a certain point in life your daughter may be helping to parent you and yet she will still be your daughter, too. My mother hemmed a pair of pants for me the other day just before we went off to her doctor who is trying to get her to use a wheelchair :(

I know how you feel, though, because I cried every single time one of my kids started kindergarten, especially the youngest, who didn't even join our family till he was five years old and seemed to be home full-time so much less than the others - because I only had one year with him before he had to start school. I had him in half-day kindergarten. I couldn't handle full-day. I had to have time to adjust to being away from him, lol!

I'm just smiling. Being a kindergarten teacher for the last billion years I have seen these feelings before. You silly goose, you'll always be her Mommy!

awww, sweet poem!

I don't want to even think about Maddie going to kindergarden. We still have over 3 years for that thankfully, but it will be here before I know it.

My son is starting on Monday, and I am feeling very overwhelmed. Did she start yet?