Sexy Question of the Day

Death must enter life in order to define it. Death does not expose our vulnerablity, rather, it exposes our fear of nothingness or sufferings of the grave. We can't imagine ourselves without the comforting familiar and, as far as we know, there is nothing familiar about nothingness.

Don't fret about death; embrace life just the way you want to and when that doesn't work anymore, find another toehold and get back in the flow.

Keep it straight, no chaser and don't worry -- death collects and cancels all debts. 

Wow - yes, I can see the truth in your words, but of course there's always more to the story.

Honestly Esther, I try really hard not to. But then again I am such a youn'un, lol!

don t think about it at all

I think of that line in the movie Gladiator: "What we do in life, echoes in eternity."

I think about it every so often, wondering the what ifs.

I've heard that some people are afraid of dying and some are afraid of being dead. The thought of the world going on without me is not that troubling. I would be afraid of dying a long, painful death. Thinking of my own death, I know it's the end of many good things, but it's also the end of many bad things.

I think of it often

I think about death and dying more the older I get.  I almost went into a panic attack when I thought about it yesterday, realizing I may not even have another 20 years left with some of the young ages some of my relatives have passed away at.  With my 'problems', I'll probably end up going that route rather than have the lonegvity some of my other relatives have had living into their late 90's and early 100's.

I've been having anxiety attacks about death since I was a kid. From a young age, I never believed in heaven or any afterlife, so thinking about dying has always depressed me. Really bad.

All jokes aside, I wonder where we got this from.  I am the same way.

I try to avoid thinking about it.  I know everyone dies but once I start thinking about it I get so upset.  I start thinking about my parents and inlaws and the fact that they are not always going to be around.

I don't usually think about it, but yesterday I did...especially with the untimely death of Michael Jackson.  We never really know when it will happen....

not very often.

I used to think about it with a certain amount of fear. Not of death itself but of the process. That all ended when I was in my 30's and went through what is called an out of body death experience. Since that day, death holds no fear for me. I know what is on the other side because I have been there. I know there is life there because I have been there and I also know there is a wonderful peace there. I now look forward to the day I cross that divide with a warm sense of anticipation and longing.

It usually only crosses my mind when I am depressed, whcih thankfully isn't often.

I've looked at way too much death in recent months, Esther. First my sister-in-law and brother-in-law in Florida died within 5 days of each other shortly after my arrival this past winter; then we lost a couple of family friends, our dear friend's suicide (a month ago tomorrow) an elderly friend last weekend....I'm starting to feel like I hang out in funeral homes.

I have to ditto Clifford's every word, as I have gone thru the same type of awakening, Es. But, given what docs said years ago, every day that I wake up is a day that I feel like death and I had a dance contest and I won the trophy....:)

Hi, Esther.

Yes, I think about it, but I mostly think about how to better appreciate loved ones before they're gone. YOu might want to check out my post in the WE group today based on this premise.

http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474977722090

I've scared myself into insomnia, for fear of dying in my sleep. 

We are dying from the moment we are born.  Dying is just the other side of the coin of life.  I've taken care of everything I can so my family won't be burdened.  I'm not afraid of death but I'm matriarch of my family and I can't imagine leaving while I'm still needed.

A woman after my own heart Nancy.  That's my take on it and why I don't pass things up if I can help it.

I have panic disorder so unfortunately I think about it quite often, like each time someone I know dies or becomes ill. 

My only cocern in dying is it happens before my son is adult, other than that I don't worry about it, hell I ain't ever done that before, might be the ultimate BUZZ! Who knows, I do notice once people go the don't come back so they must enjoy being there.

ROFL - I do notice once people go they don't come back so they must enjoy being there:)

my main worry is how my children will cope.  i also worry about being in a lot of pain just before i die.

I pretty much already know how I'm going to die. I hope a mac truck hits me first.

I like that death card you used. Although it looks ominous, it doesn't mean DEATH... it means change, rebirth.

More and more I am thinking about death, more so now with the death of two of my childhood's stars, Farraha and and MJ. I don't really think about myself but more about those I will leave behind and what I can do now to insure they have everything they will did in order to live a happy life if and when I meet the Big Guy face to face.

As my sister said above, I also have had anxiety attacks about dying since I was about 5 years old.  The first one happened in the middle of the night, when I woke up screaming for my mother, I got out of bed and sat in my rocking chair rocking away.  She came in there to see what all the commotion was about and all I could say was, "I DON'T WANT TO DIE!!!!!"

I haven't done the screaming and crying thing in awhile, but I do worry about it.  A lot more than one should, I imagine.

I don't believe that we go anywhere after we die, so my perspective on things is that what we do while we are here is how we are judged - and that judgment comes from those whose lives we are part of.

Living your life in fear of dying is, it seems to me, largely a result of worrying about what you're doing in it. If you take each day as an opportunity- or a series of them- to do the next right thing (whether that be to pick up the phone and talk to someone you're mad at, repay a debt you don't want to, or do something you're afraid of but know you need to), then you're less likely to have that fear build up.

I don't think about it any more. I've "died" and been revived 4 times, 3 that I'm aware of, one time was in the OR. The only one that scared me was the 4th time, I went into full arrest after being injected for a CT scan...I couldn't breath. After a HUGE bolus of Epinephrine, I came out of it. First 2 times, it was pretty cool actually, I was above looking down on the situation, didn't see 'the light' though.

I have died 4 times as well, but every time it was my choice to come back except the one time when i was drowning...Two girls on sparkly innertubes saved me. A drug overdose can be attributed to God as my savior once long ago, and a car wreck was pure luck that I came to. I had a sign fall on me and i went to the pearly gates(a cream rinse river with angels on each side) but i chose to come back then as well. I was never revived though, I came to without medical attention, but what I saw on the other side leads me to believe that i died and came back each time.

Not when she is looking sexy, lol. I have put my faith in God. Since I have seen many UFO's, and 1 inparticular that altered and strengthened my faith in God, i am not worried about it. He will take care of me. I always pray at night. I have even thanked God for giving me a wife that loves sex. But dying...well...she will probably be on top of that. I sense I will go like Private Benjamins hubby did.

some days i do some days i don't. it's a balance

i'm bi-polar so i never know what kind of day it's gonna be

Since I don't believe in god, jesus, religion, afterlife, reincarnation or anything else, nope, I don't think about it very often. But, you better enjoy yourself now because it isn't likely you'll get another chance and it's even more unlikely that heaven exists. That's why it's so important to be understanding, compassionate, tolerant and accepting of others. Once you die you're done.

I think about it on occasion and really it's time for me to have my affairs in order, so that I can go in peace.

When you die and go up to Rock & Roll Heaven, you can still enjoy some good music (see my latest post - a shameless plug, I know).

I don't think about it, it just is.  We're all dying, we're born that way.  Death is no more than the end stage of our individual growth.  Nobody got more than this one moment, here, now.  Is suggested we live it, no reason to fear and miss it