Another hero died in Afghanistan yesterday.

It angers me too, Tina. They, and their families, are in my prayers.

... Till the day I die.

Julie, hon.. it's something, and that's what matters.

Every day, ceena, I live in fear that the message we get will be my nephew's name... that it will be our turn.

Have you ever seen the movie We Were Soldiers? There's a point, after the battle starts, that the taxi cab pulls up and the driver is given the most horrible task of being the one to deliver the bad news.....

I know that feeling of fear. I lived through it when my husband was a soldier... it grips at you like nothing you will ever know.

And none of us. NONE of us, should be living through that fear today.

That was someone's son, someone's love, someone's life.

Such of a waste of our very best.

My husband served overseas not long after we met - he went to Somalia - and I lived with that fear everyday. But I know that it's what he wanted - why he signed - and I would not tarnish his convictions and willingness to serve with tears of anger or sorrow. Luckily, mine was not killed and he did come home. Though I can't say with any degree of certainty of what I would have done were he killed in action, I think that if he hadn't made it back, I still would have held my head high and said, "Look what he did for YOU ... what are YOU going to do in return for your country?" I knew that I would have to be as hard and as strong as my Marine was - it comes with the territory, I guess. But that's what I did and I would do it again if he was called up. He knew the dangers, embraced them, and signed on the dotted line anyway. I thank God for him and all the others because if they weren't out there doing the "hard stuff" we wouldn't have all that we have now. Be angry if you must, but I don't think that's what any of these soldiers would have wanted.

So sad, as a military parent..this would be one of my nightmares

Donna, my heart goes out to you.



Erin, I asked my Soldier (retired) how he felt about my anger, how he thought others would feel about my anger.

This is what he said:

It's OK to be angry. Angry is part of the process. Even the soldiers get angry and if they don't, they are lying and denying. Be angry. Just don't let your anger rule you.

I know damn well the dangers and the fact that they sign up knowing what they may have to face and I thank God there are men like my Soldier, like your Soldier, and like the men and women who are over there in both countries serving today. So, please don't take my anger as something from someone who doesn't understand what it's like to be a Soldier or a military wife. I've served in my own right, and have earned, in my opinion, the right to be angry and express my anger.

Peace to you.

Thanks for posting.