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My brother Paul is a helicopter pilot in the Navy, already back from Iraq
My brother Mark is a Navy reserve engineer and range instructor/sharp shooter
B.J. is army demolitions
Cousins in the Air Force stationed in Germany
Friend serving in the medical corp as a doctor stationed in Iraq
Lots of other friends in the military stationed all over the world...
Father who is dead now, three uncles,about a dozen friends all who are died now.
Thanks for the article
Texas. My hubby was in the army and served in the Gulf war. My dad was in the Navy during WWII. One of my brothers served in the army and another nephew in the air force.
My husband's family have several members who are either in the military now or were in the service during the Korean Conflict and Vietnam War. They are my hereos.
The thing I missed most about having him there was watching him grow into a man on a daily basis. He joined at 17 and was deployed soon after basic training, within a few months, barely 18. He joined shortly after 9/11 and had a very patriotic response and wanted to help defend our country.
He became a more thoughtful, confident, wiser person; something evident even with the miles and worlds apart. I wish he could have transitioned into the adult world in a non-war environment. I missed not being able to hang out together and talk over the dinner table, going to movies (we are both big movie buffs), and going somewhere for our annual family trips with him.
The second tour was even harder, knowing he didn't want to go back to Iraq. And yet, he kept that incredibly mature, selfless, non-complaining, strong attitude and came through alive and well. How could he not complain? The Army was falling short in providing so many thing. Training for one. They sent him before he was through with advanced training. Or without bullet proof jackets for another. I even had to send basic toiletries to him.
Fortunately, he got through both tours and advance in rank. He wasn't injured physically, but he certainly has signs of PTSD. In fact, six different military doctors diagnosed him with PTSD after the first tour. The Captain who was supposed to sign off for him not to return, refused to do so, and they sent him back.
My son is amazingly not bitter, although he served his four years and took the first plane back home when his time was up. Even so, sounds and images do startle him. There are things he doesn't want to talk about. He gets frustrated at surprisingly minor things, and is more reactive than situations seem to warrant.
I don't get to protect him any more. Perhaps that is what I miss the most. And yet, the trade off is I get to watch him take charge of his life and become his own man. He is not one to bury his head in the sand and is tackling the challenges of reintegrating into civilian life with aplomb and grace. It is taking the military a very long time to provide him with his school funds, and the medical attention he needs for PTSD, but he doesn't give up and he has fallen in love and is creating a full life for himself. I couldn't be prouder.
miss my son mooching in the kitchen and calling to bug me at 2 in the morning...