QUESTION OF THE DAY(guest Douglas Eden)

A good communicator is most important. Two have to be able to talk to one another about anything and everything if a relationship is to last; take care of any problems, express any desires, let the other know they're doing fine. Honesty, monogamy and other things fall into place when there's a direct line open between one another. (Maybe that's why I can't find anyone and am still single. There must not be much of that left in the world any more.)

honesty is really important. communication is a must if you can't speak and tell whatever is on your mind then there is no reason.

communication, honesty and patience......she has to have the last one....

My wife and I will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary on 15 July 2008.

What has kept us together is the belief, by both of us, that there is something greater than each one of us, and that is "us." We have been through a lot together, more than I could share in this post, or a separate post dedicated to this topic. Suffice to say that when a couple puts their togetherness ahead of their individual desires, a special bond takes place.

I think honesty and kindness. It's no fun being with a lying meanie! Oh, did I mention my ex? LOL

Trust, honesty, communication,respect

We stay together as my husband would say, because we love to hate each other and we find humor in everything...

My husband and I stay together because we have trust honesty and open communication.

My husband is wonderful to me. He just bought me a new bike that I don't even know how to ride.
We both love the pets and we spend a fortune in vet bills.
We are both history buffs but he has a Ph.D in it.

Our wedding vows....God....Our commitment....we believe that marriage is forever....so even though we've had some tough years we are in it for the long haul....My hubby is a wonderful man, a good provider and a great daddy.

I can deal with just about anything, but if the guy doesn't have a dry wit or even slightly goofy sense of humor, I am gone. And it goes without saying that he has to be quick in the mind department. I just don't have the patience to wait for someone to catch up with me.

What keeps us together? Laughter and acceptance.

Trust

What keeps my hubby and I together is our friendship/communication/humor. We make a point to talk to each other every day and listen to what the other has to say. We also have fun together and laugh together every day.

Make me laugh and you have got some of my attention.

honesty and friendship and good humor (ice cream) hahaha


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A soul mate must share certain values, it depends on the two soul mates what those values are.

I'm still thinking...

Married and I think it is kindness or maybe acceptance of each other. Really.

Sorry, I'm neither.

Good question Douglas Eden to which I have not a clue
maybe if I did I wouldn't have gotten divorced 3x's. Not
one of those guys were very nice to me after the ring
was placed on my finger it felt like it was in my nose!!

Honesty is most important. If the man I'm with can't be open and honest about EVERYTHING then I'm not interested.

Love

Er-r-r-r-r. Nope. Happy to be single, happy that the kids are grown. I play cello at 3 am if I want to, or take a 2 am walk with the Danes. Just loving being me, and at 50, curious to see what I (re) fill my house with, or if I'll be glad to have the empty space. Never went back for "seconds" so I can't play this particular game. Sorry, maybe I can play 'next time..."

However, after reading the posts above and watching my folks? It has to be integrity and respect. Based on what I have witnessed over the decades.

I don't think I could be with someone I don't respect; the ability to laugh is good, and liking similar sports is good; but respect, and honor ~~ have to be the #1 thing between two people. I think it's what makes everything else (fun, concerts, 3 stooges, kayaking, waffles at midnight, music, clubbing, crazy monkey sex, fun, etc...) do-able. Without those two elements, nothing else works.

Sorry, it's way more complex than just simple "love." 13 year olds fall in "love."
I love my dogs. I love my sisters. I really, really love my kids. But, "Love" ain't marriage. Love is not what can build a relationship. Either of the two are more than simple 'love.'

BTW: Rocco, dude! Congratulations. You've both earned it. Be happy.
Blessed be,

Wilka

Kathy/Wilka

You with out a doubt understand marriage. I have been married for 15 long years. Every one of them hard. You have to force yourself to "love" your spouse some days, months, years.

One thing though...I walk the dog at midnight, watch TV til 2 am, write at 1am etc...why? because after all these years I realize I can and will whether I am married or not.

You must not have any close neighbors to be playing cello at 3 am! LOL!

thank you everyone!!!
and congrats Rocco!

Still thinking...

Good question. I have been divorced since 2001 and separated since 1999. Shit if I know.

CONGRATULATIONS ROCCO!!!!!

Our shared faith in Jesus Christ and our love and respect for each other. Plus, we are best friends!

love, faith, affection, devotion, alot of patience and understanding and movies

We fight like cats and dogs so I guess the only reason we are still together is our children.

I believe wholeheartedly that it takes two people to make a relationship work and for both of them to see eachother as equals, to never give up on a spare-of-the-moment fun, to always have a childish spontaneous spirit and to devote themselves to love each and every day. :)

I'm lucky to have that <3

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I am married 10 years and TRUST my husband. He is my very best friend which is very comforting and reassuring.

Love me for ME~completely and totally.



A good sense of humor helps! *wink*





Ron~anything yet?????? hehehe

I'm married & what keeps us together is: love, passion, friendship, communication & laughter.

Honesty, respect, being a good listener, a friend when needed, a lover when wanted.

Been there and done that and single again. I think all of the above comments say pretty much all of it. I was not prepared to be a widow, funny how life works out.

I am married and the only thing keeping me together is my one child.

IF you are single what characteristic most matters to you in finding a soulmate?

honesty

IF you are married or have a significant other what keeps you together?

similar goals and similar interests plus a lot of love

intelligence

Committment is important in any relationship. The committment to each other and making it work.

comunication and he has to be good with kids.

I don't have a clue!!

Acceptance

I am married happily now going on 40 years. Trust, honesty, laughter, communication, faith and praying and most of all we are best friends as well as being lovers.

This August will mark my 10th anniversary. I would say that communication, honesty, and laughter is what have kept us going. Without those three things, we'd be lost.

I'm married almost four years now & I think what keeps us together is respect--we respect each other's space, opinions, and abilities. We also laugh a lot--I never get tired of spending time with my hubby. We are best friends first, which makes for life-long love :)

Married...my wife has a heart of gold and we both seem to be able to talk or just be together for hours...

Well I am married and believe in death do you part ...
Love, fight fair, be honest , stick it out thats what you said in your wedding vows. Some people do not listen to the vows other wise some of them wouldn't gotten married. It is death do us part in sickness or in health. Its too easy to get married and too easy to get divorced.
If people had to go through classes before marriage it would help , and if they want a divorce ..if of all get rid of the no fault divorce. The judge should make them go through therapy and find out what went wrong . Then remind them of their vows....if you do not believe in the vows you speak DO NOT Get Married.

Larry is the love of my life and has been for 40 years. We have been married 38 of those 40. It is trust, a safe feeling he gives me, laughter, communication and we just get one another.