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Randee "The Court Jester of LaLa Land ! ! !" always and forever, I just want to celebrate Dec 4, 2007, 3:11pm EST

thanks ceena, I know your boys know what respect means...alright momma ceena!!!

Donna Besso Dec 4, 2007, 3:15pm EST

I don't think that at all, although a swat on the butt and tying and gagging them in a closet are two different things. I've had to swat mine a time or two.

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Elaine B. Dec 4, 2007, 3:15pm EST

Some kids doesn't listen to the word "no."

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Chuck M. Dec 4, 2007, 3:18pm EST

There's nothing wrong with a little tough love. Everyone I know that I grew up with got swats when they stepped out of line and they turned out ok. The people I knew that didn't get tough love turned out to be bad eggs.

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I am A BigMistake J. Dec 4, 2007, 3:21pm EST

Interesting question Randee. I believe a "good swat" on the butt helps get the message across. For instance, when my little one was outside I was always with her but she was faster than me (aren't they always?) and would run out into the street. I told her "no" several times but that didn't seem to do the trick so the last time I told her "no" and emphasized it with a good swat on the butt. She didn't run out into the street anymore.

I don't think a good swat on the butt hurts anyone and does not leave permanent damage. In fact I think if children felt the pain perhaps they would realize what the different is between fantasy and reality. But there are enough "nut" cases out there that take everything too far.

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Deeanna M. Dec 4, 2007, 3:22pm EST

a few swats when deserved are good for a kid, however, constant spanking for every little thing is borderline abuse in my opinion.

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Tina Coruth Dec 4, 2007, 4:12pm EST

A swat now and then doesn't hurt and may well be needed. It's when parents swat at every little thing or use belts or anything other than an open hand that it becomes abusive. If the parent treats the child with respect and is loving, then a swat can be helpful. I think some of the upswing in violence comes from kids whose parents fall into either extreme - neglect, setting no rules or abuse - beatings, verbal, emotional. Of course, that is a generalization - not all neglected or abused kids become violent.

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Susan Kelley Dec 4, 2007, 4:28pm EST

A swat on the butt is warranted for really important lessons. For instance, the first time my four year old started to run out on the road, he got swatted. He never did it again. Swatting for every little thing would be ineffective the same as constant yelling or giving of timeouts.

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Brenda (square peg in a round hole) H. Dec 4, 2007, 10:06pm EST

Good question Randee. I see nothing wrong with a swat once in awhile if it is needed. I think a major cause of the kids so being so out of control today is because you can't even look at them wrong anymore without someone turning you in to child protective services. And the kids know that.

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Austin Cushing Dec 4, 2007, 10:12pm EST

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Denise B. Dec 5, 2007, 8:09am EST

I will swat only for SERIOUS offences, outright disobedience or endangerment to self or others.

but as to your actual question YES. some parents are so afraid to spank their kids that they just run amok. And it has led to violence among kids.

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Sarah (I want points) Dec 5, 2007, 11:31am EST

I think that you have to teach kids that there is a consequence to their actions. If you tell them 50 times "Do that again and I'm going to spank you." and never do it, then they learn that they can get away with anything.

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