Saying Those Three Little Words

I think if you want to say it....say it!

I'm with Priscilla - say it if you want to.

I don't know.... I think that I am inclined to agree with the author of the article. Men do seem to take longer to fall in love than do women.

Um.... Gather seems to be eating comments....

I haven't removed anything, but the other comments I've gotten notifications on have disappeared by the time I've gotten here. Somehow, I don't think everyone is deleting their comments right after making them....

i say it if it's how i feel....

Nevermind.... I figured out one part of the problem....

My apologies about the duplicate article. The Editor was eating things when I tried posting.

I think I do not agree. But since I"m not a psychologist just a woman in love, what do I know hehe. When my husband and I first started dating, we agreed that we wouldn't say it unless we meant it. I said it first about three or four months into our relationship. And I did, I loved the way he made me feel.. It took him a bit longer, but when he said it, I knew he meant it. And Yeah maybe it does take a man longer to get there, and then again maybe it don't... who knows .. who cares as long as it's real.
Nancy P., Dec 27, 2008, 11:50am EST

That was from the other thread....

*Sigh* I think it's going to be one of those days....

I think many times the man shows that he is in love by the things he does and that this happens before he is ready to say "I love you". I also think that many times women jump the gun and say "I love you" before I man may realize or even admit to himself that he is in love.

Nancy, you are lucky to have found a good guy, and it is great that it worked out for you.

Kat, perhaps that is true.

I think perhaps if people are comfortable saying it why not say it first, man or woman. I think real love comes with action and not just words, so perhaps it might be wiser to wait to see the love before saying it.

Good article.

I don't necessarily agree but under why the author would go that route. Many men tend to not express their emotions as easily as most women yet I know women who have the same problem. They have either been hurt a number of times or went over board too quickly with a date. I know a woman who meets someone and if she is pleased with him starts planning their lives within a couple weeks and frightens the man off. When she talks to me about it she never seems to realize she really doesn't know the man nor he her. It never seems to fail that she will overwhelm a new person and he runs away.

It takes time and experience with another person before you can realize you are in love with them and when I reach that point I have no trouble explaining it.

Good topic to discuss.

Hmm... If you love someone then you should say it.
WHy not?

Who makes up these silly rules? I think we have to live authentically each and every moment of our lives, why stand on ceremony? If a guy runs scared because you tell him that you love him, do you really need him in your life?

Spencer, it is good to get the male perspective. :-)

Claudia, I guess the fear is putting too much pressure on the relationship early on before the guy has a chance to figure out what it is that he is feeling.

Oh hockey pucks! If you feel it say it!

I dunno. I've always thought those three words are tossed about much too freely, often when it isn't really true. Like the old saying "talk is cheap". You can often decipher how a person feels more by their actions than any words they may speak.

Debby, while life may be short, I'm not certain if it is worth plunging forward with those words. People tend to take people's words and use them as weapons, and being the first one to say those words is dangerous.

Patricia, that is true. Those words are often tossed about too freely, and women are usually the ones who blurt out those words first-- setting ourselves up for heartache.

If I feel that I need to say it then I say it.