When you are having an argument with a loved one, it is very easy to let your emotions take over and do or say things you will most likely regret. One of the best things you can do if an argument starts to get heated is to take a break. Calmly walk away and take a moment to sort through your thoughts. Once you've composed yourself, you can go back and finish the argument, but try to turn it into a discussion rather than an argument.
Don't name call or curse while arguing. Name calling and cursing only belittles the other person, and it makes you look immature and unintelligent. Not to mention, once you say something hurtful, it is very difficult (if not impossible) to take that back. Don't do or say something you may regret later.
Under no circumstances should you throw things or hit or shove each other. Violence in any form is never the answer and will only help the argument get out of control. If you feel so angry or stressed out that you feel the need to do something like that, then you should stop what you are doing and count to ten. This is a good way to calm yourself down without resorting to violence.
Don't walk away angry. This advice has been given by countless relationship experts over the years, but it still holds true. If you walk away from the argument angry, nothing has been resolved. When you do this, there is no sense of closure to the argument, and no resolution or compromise has occurred. Walking away angry will just give you more time to sit and fester and become even more angry until you see that person again.
If you are fighting with your spouse, never fight in the bedroom. The bedroom is supposed to be a sacred place in a couple's home. It is supposed to be a place where you go to express your love for each other and to wind down and relax at the end of the day. It should never be turned into the battle ground for your arguments. Doing so will change the atmosphere in the room and make it much more difficult to think of that room in a positive manner.
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I am the hot head......so I am thankful that he is not.
A good friend of mine once told me that when you and your husband are in an argument, just take off your clothes and hold hands in the bedroom and stare into each others eyes........and it will make any argument seem really silly. I haven't tried it yet.....but might someday.
We've learned our lessons though, that's how we've managed to stay married so long!