Do you have a Good Relationship with your Parents?

my paretns are gone now but I feel I could have done more with them

well, I sometimes get along with my mother. we argue a lot, but we do a lot together still and we enjoy each other's company. My father and I are a little different. We love each other dearly, but we're pretty joined in the decision that seeing/talking to each other only about once a week is ok. We still do a lot of really great things together, but I guess our lack of contact makes those other times seem all that more special. We've both got really hectic lives, though, so sometimes it's just hard to keep in touch.

Me and my parents have a great relationship and could not be better. I visit them once a week, sometimes more. Sometimes we will travel together. I am fortunate to have such wonderful parents. Glad that you get along great with most of your family but sad that you and your dad are not close.

I hope I do

I'm really close to my mom and mom-in-law. I don't see my dad much because he's 4 hours away and I do get along with him now. I didn't even see him for a long stretch because of family issues, but now I talk to him more and we get along.

I love my parents dearly. We have a positive relationship.

Both of my parents have passed on, I don't think I appreciated them enough while they were here though, that is one of my regrets.

I loved my mother dearly, but lost her to cancer way too early in life. My father was horrid, and died alone.

My folks live over 700 miles away, so of coarse we get along great...I've really never had problems with my parents or my siblings...(just the inlaws)

Both of my parents have died and I had a unique relationship with each of them. Early on, I was deemed Daddy's little girl, as he seemed to understand my curious nature.
But,he did die suddenly when I was 24 then I was left to acknowledge my mother's love, too.
Mom and I didn't always see eye to eye as she was way too conventional for me but we were able to bridge the gap before she died.
I am proud to say today that I did have a great relationship with each of them. I sure still miss them some days but grateful that I have had the opportunity not only to be their daughter but to have the communication still continue past the veil.

I get along very well with my parents..they are the worlds greatest! (I may be a bit biased..lol) But they make it very easy to do so! C):-)

Yes, I get along great with my parents great. Always have except for maybe at the age of 14!

My parents are both gone now, and while we had issues, I think we pretty much came to terms with them before they passed.

My paretns are deceased too. My Dad and I were best friends. He was my friend,teacher, confident, and never gave me money. But he gave me the confidence in myself. Taught me how to learn and earn. Let me know I could do anything I wanted to if I tried hard enough. My Mom ,we didnt really argue, we just werent close. I really never understood why. She would buy me to moon, give me anything I wanted. I did everything she ever requested, something just wasnt there.

If you don't have good relationships with your parents have them now. My father became senile in his eighties and just recently passed away at 90 years old. He had a strong personality and that caused frequent tension between us. However, I am more my father's son then I care to admit. I never really got the chance to tell him I loved him, because in his world (he was an immigrant that lived through the depression and World War II and came home to raise and support a family, as a mechanic, for 20+ years) real men didn't do that.

My mom is barely alive at 86. She can no longer communicate and I am afraid that she too will pass shortly. Have your relationships now! Before it's too late!

Unfortunately, by their choice, no. They have never unconditionally loved me in my entire life. I miss that so much!! I would LOVE to be close to them!

My mom has never been an overly-affectionate, warm and fuzzy parent. I find myself struggling to break from that and be more affectionate and loving towards my own kids just because the programming of my youth was so powerful. At this point we get along, but we live on opposite coasts so we're not as close just because we don't interact in person very often. I typically only get to go home every other year (expensive with 4 in the family vs. just going alone!). I love her, but has chosen to be a difficult and negative person every day, to the point that it's hurting her children, their spouses, and her grandchildren, so I choose not to be close to her. It may be more out of protection for myself and my children than anything else, but it is what it is.

Wonder relationship with them!

No, I have nothing to do with any part of my family. My mother died when I was very young, my father is still alive, but I'm much happier without him or my family. They have no idea where I am and I like keeping it that way.

My mother hated me from birth till the day she died when was holding her hand. My step father hated me too. Don't know if the man that adopted me after I was born, Never got to know my real father did find out who he was till after my mother died, she would never tell me who he was, only got to see him 2 times once when a friend on his took me to the nursing home where he was, then at his furneral home when he died.

I've had a very rocky relationship with both parents. I left home at an early age, for several years we had no contact. Now they are both old and and sick and I visit them occasionally and call every week out of a sense of duty, but there is not much love involved.

I have an excellent relationship with my parents. We are all very VERY close. I can sit and talk with my Mom on the phone for 2 hours and we both will be shocked that it wasn't 15 minutes that has gone by.. My Dad calls every morning just to say hi and see how we're doing. Dad is 83 and walks 5 miles a day. He's healthier than I am. Mom is 76 and very healthy as well. With any luck at all they will be around for many years to come.. though I don't take any single day for granted. I never let an opportunity to tell them that I love them go by without saying the words. They deserve to hear them as often as possible. They are absolutely fantastic people.

No, unfortunatly not as well as I'd like. I don't want to get into all the details but I'll say breifly about things. My parents got divorced when I was 4 and my little brother and I were drug in and out of a court system over custody battles and lies on both my parents behalf. We were tossed around so many times between the two and to make matters worth they been divorced all these years and still can't hold down a civil convo. I particually blame my stepmom for that. I was forced to grow up to fast. My stepmom could be abusive and my father believed her lies over me. The last time she ever hit me was when I was 16 and told her if she hit my again I'd hit her back. She tried having me arrested and even though she hit me. I finally left/got kicked out because of her. Which is funny because I was 14 taking care of my 11 year old brother and an infant. *my half bro*, as well as going to school and cleaning a house because she was to damn lazy to do it herself. I even cooked meals and did dishes. My dad didn't stop her and our relationship got bad. I had no where to live and had to move in with my mom temporarily. She lived with my gram and steppap.Well that was a mess to. Her and I even had to share a room. It was horrible. She would even try barrowing my clothes. :/
We never really got along well. Mom seems to date loser alcoholics and I just want to have a mom instead of having to be the parent my self as well as a consulor to her or anyone else for that matter.

I am however close to my grandfather (dad's dad) and he even did the father daughter dance at my wedding with me. My dad never showed because my stepmom forbid him since my mom was going to be there. They couldn't even be civil for that. Things have since taken a worse turn and my dad and I haven't spoken in a few months. They are also preventing my half sibs from seeing and talking to us agian. I feel even worse because they are missing out on watching their grand daughter grow up. They think there church friends are more important than family...at least us.My dad even wanted me to basically kidnap my younger brother and force him to visit them. When I said no and that give him time I was called names by him and my stepmom. I ended up moving out and in with my now hubby by the time I was 17. Since then mom and I talk a few times a week but I have to ignore most what she says because all she does is complain about work, the alcoholic boyfriend she lives with and money trouble. So, I'm not close with anyone in my family but my grandfather. He's a wonderful guy thats for sure. We talk at least twice a week for about 30 minutes each time. We always are catching up and talking about things. So, if anything ever happened to him I think I'd lose it.

yes I did but never seem to be enough time

I didn't have a great relationship with my dad until I was in my twenties. To be frank, he was an abusive alcoholic and I couldn't stand him. He mellowed out a lot and we got to be friends. The past few years he has become lost again and I spend my time wondering how I ended up being the parent in this relationship. He moved from Ca to Iowa, has no friends and a girlfriend that he does nothing but complain about. He has been out of the workforce for years but expects to be able to get a job making more than what he did ten years ago. (and I think he was overpaid then)

It is a shame that I had to get away from him to really get a good perspective on life in general and my life and mistakes. I only talk to him once in a while and when I get off the phone I am always a wreck. If I say anything to him about his drinking or looking for a lower paying job, he lashes out and puts me down. I talked to his sister a few months ago and learned that while he was living on her couch he aired a lot of my skeletons that I would have preferred were kept in the closet. I just don't need someone in my life that is going to be a constant drain, but at the end of the day he is my dad.

I even set him up with a job and a place to live with my XBF in Washington and he hated that and just disappeared on him one day. He had little rent, $250, 20 acres to play with, and a job that while blue-color paid really well and had benefits. He said that he was bored, there were no women and that the job was beneath him. It was embarrassing and was really hard to set up in the first place emotionally since it was with an X. (I am sure that it was really hard for my X too, because he was hoping that it would bring me back) I won't go out on a limb for him anymore.

My mom and I are close, too close. We have spent the last year trying to create healthy boundaries. I am in my thirties and up until I moved in with my BF a year ago, if she didn't talk to me everyday she would get in a panic about my welfare. We are now down to lunch once a week, so she can make sure that I am eating and phone calls or emails every few days.

Whew, who knew that raising parents was so hard!

I have a great relationship with all 3 of my parents.

What a common thread that runs thru this article!!!As an "only",I also grew up without a connection with both parents.There was resentment that I was alive and my sister had died.My father was a psychotic alchoholic,my mom the enabler.She never opened her mouth and I unconditionally had to follow suit.When the father passed in 04,I was,for the first time,a person without that little voice in my head,saying" you'll never amount to anything".At 56,I have to try and piece together self worth and respect,self esteem.At 56,i have to deal with post traumatic stress disorder,fibromyalgia.Somewhere there is a rainbow,Dorothy,I have to believe,I have to believe.