As my birthday approaches on May 21st, I started thinking about my age. I'm not getting old being that I will be only 22, but I was thinking I don't even know what it is like being 22. I say this because I was fresh out of high school and went right into an amazing relationship with my husband and had my wonderful daughter at 19 and then my son at 21. I have been living on my own away from family since I was 18. I am not complaining or anything, I love having a family and living on my own, but did I grow up too fast? I remember as a child not ever having a birthday party or ever doing anything special. As a child I had to grow up rather quickly due to family problems inside the home. It never bothered me until now. I am going to be 22 BUT I can't act like I am 22.
I mean isn't 22 suposed to be the partying stage of your life. Ya know the collage parties and hanging out with friends, going to the movies and dating? I mean I see my friends doing this so I am guessing that is what 22 is like. I one time tried to act my age and I annoyed myself. I couldn't believe I actually hang out with "Kids" like this all the time. I was so pleased with myself for being mature because I never have to deal with the "HE said, She said" and the mubble jumble of, "Can you believe I went to the bar last night and drank that much."
My husband has no problem with me going out with my friends occasionally but the problem is I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I am married so I am not out looking to see how many guys could hit on me, So I never have fun. I go out with my husband and our friends that are older but they are all in their late thirties so I feel ackward being "the Young One."
So I guess what I am asking is there more to being 22 or is this it. Drinking, smoking, looking for guys, I mean I have one friend that is 21 and has a child my daughter's age so we have play dates all the time but she is the most immature one of them all. No offense to anyone who parties, but it is just not my cup of tea.
Am I being to judgemental or is there actually other 22year olds out there that act more mature then their age. My husband is willing to go out with me and my friends but he can never go because he is a recovering addict and they always want to go to bars.
Do you remember being 22? What did you do at the age? How did you act? How should you act?
Did you have a family of your own or did you live With your parents? What did you do for fun? Was you in a social slump at this age ?
Help Me Gather friends what can I do to celebrate my big 22?
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To celebrate, do something fun with your husband, something you both enjoy. Get a babysitter and enjoy some adult time. It can be something simple and quiet or fun and exhilarating. Just do it and enjoy. Happy Birthday and I hope you have many more.
Just enjoy yourself!
I do understand your situation, somewhat...I am now 28, my husband is 48. He, too is a recovering addict, so going out to bars is not something we can do. My friends were all still into partying and that is not where we were at, or are at now. It feels strange to me sometimes, to see people who are younger than me with great careers, goofing off, having 'fun' ....it makes me feel like maybe I am missing something. But, you know what? I'm not! I have a wonderful husband who knows that a drink could hurt more than just him and is willing to stay away from a drink to protect his family, and we have a great child together and we have things...we have a pretty good life. I have often felt like the young one, but too mature for the younger crowd. My husband did 'allow' me to have a party stage - I think around 22, but I didn't find it all that fun and it didn't last long.
Just enjoy the time you have with your family, and don't worry about what others are doing.
Happy Birthday!!!!
Do you remember being 22?
I was pregnant on my 21st birthday so I never got to go to a bar for my big 21. At the age of 22, I was having a horrible time with my boyfriend and eventually broke up with him.
Since I never went to the bars before since I was pregnant, and then had a new baby - I figured that since I was single again, it would be a good time to do that. So, I went out, drank too much, slacked off at work, and got into way too much trouble for my own good. I'm just glad I grew out of that, because going out all the time was really hard on my body.
You know... I can't even really answer that question, because everyone's different and everyone views things differently. Since you're a mom and a wife at the age of 22, then for you... how you act "should" be different than how others may act.
THANK YOU ALL! You are all wonderful.
I don't know what I was so worried about this has turned out to be a great day.
I do think you should plan something to celebrate!
hope you have a wonderful day!
LOL You were quite young when you started your family! LOL
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GEMINI, May 21 June 20. Mental, Flexible
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Today the sun moves into your sign, and given the couple of minor, but unhelpful aspects you will need to watch for overspending and for miscalculating your budget. Avoid the mall if possible and take some time today to go through your finances: a boring, but necessary task!
There will be two sides to the day today: the diligent and creative part of you will find your work or school day positive and rewarding, while the romantic part of you will tend to feel a little stifled. Keep a piece of blue agate to offset the distancing effects of Pluto and Jupiter!
((I don't know if I believe in much of this stuff, but I just like to check to see if anything matched up, ya know?))
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday Dear Alicia
Happy Birthday to you
And what a cutie you have in your picture!~
in many countries, you would have been a 'grownup' at 15, married and having children; even earlier in u.s. history, that would have been true.
don't worry about what a 22 yr. old 'should' feel like, or what a 22 yr. old 'should' be doing. be just exactly who you are and celebrate Your unique life.
you are doing GREAT, alicia, and i applaud you for it.
I was 17 when I married and moved out. Lived a married at home life until I was 19 and got pregnant. Found out ex was on ALOT of drugs and would not stop, left him. I became a single mom and HAD to be responsible. I did not have a close family to lean on for support. They did babysit once in a while, but that was about it.
On the other hand, I did already have all the partying out of my system because I did it all when I was a young teen. My sister was 5 years older than me and I partied with her friends. LOL
I felt left out and alone most of the time.
My friends also annoyed me with their immaturity. This got worse when I became a mom.
I can tell you one thing. It all evens out after 25 or so... Up until than, I felt like the baby of the group or like I "should" be doing things people my age were doing.
I commend you on being ahead of the game, and being a responsible wife and parent. It is hard, but it is well worth it when you get to snuggle in with your family to spend time together.
I have truly "been there and done that" in this situation.
Only difference is I did it single, and you seem to have a caring husband to help you through it.
Kind of funny since when I was 21 to 25 I looked like I was 14 or so...
Shawnee's birthday is today!
I know I'm behind... but I'll catch up. This was your Gemini horoscope for May 23, 2007:
You lose a couple of negative planetary influences today, but the sun/moon aspect indicates the need to resolve an underlying source of tension with someone close. It's possible that someone hasn't been entirely selfless, but today's the day to put that right again!
A couple of obstructive planetary aspects suggest that someone, a boss, a teacher, or even a family member, will try your patience a little today. Demanding or expecting too much too soon will be the likely source of stress, but there'll also be someone waiting to give your ego a little boost!
Geminis sometimes relish being the center of attention, but today you might want to take a back seat. The unhelpful aspect from Pluto is likely to bring all kinds of drama into the day. Avoid gossip and speculation and focus your overactive imagination on a creative or artistic project or venture instead!
A fleeting aspect from the moon suggests that, as with Taurus, you could find that your plans for the day are somewhat disrupted; unlike Taurus this has the potential to be a good thing! The only thing stopping you from extracting loads of fun from the day is a tendency to be a little bossy!
The negative influence from the moon will disappear today, making you feel much happier than you did yesterday. Money still needs a careful eye, but the opportunity to seize the day is there, as long as you stop fretting about something that really isn't such a big deal!
You might feel that you need to resort to secrecy and strategy over a work or school matter today, but the positive aspect from the moon suggests that being forthright and open is the way to go. Getting your own way won't be nearly as difficult as you first imagined!
Looking back, does anything match up? This is all for fun... I don't really believe in any of this stuff, but I just think it's fun, especially when you look back on the day and THEN read your horoscope. You know?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY WEEK, Alicia. Thanks for being a member of the group!