My Christmas Wish List
Here it is getting closer to closer and closer to Christmas and I have not completed this Christmas Wish List. Stupid, isn’t it? But that is the nature of having fibromyalgia, fibro fog, and depression. Things – important things, even – get put off.
Most of my wishes have to do with others. I have listed them briefly. If you’re intrigued or think you might be able to fulfill a wish, I can email you the details.
1) My son needs someone to help him get a web site up and running. (Son’s project #1)
2) My son also needs some rather in-depth consultation about starting a business, getting patents, how to protect an invention idea before patenting while still being able to share it with possible investors or consultants. (Son’s project #2)
3) It would be fantastic if a few people signed up for the networking/business opportunity that my son found. There is no cost, only benefits in savings and rebates. (Son’s project #3)
4) My husband needs someone to help him figure out finances. When I was a single mom, I worked with far less than he(we) has(have) and was always able to keep a roof over our (son and my) heads, have a nice Christmas, tithe and even save some money. One year, I only had less than $10,000 income and still did that and kept a phone and Internet access. My son never had any idea that we were poor. If hubby would let me handle the finances, we would be doing okay. Instead, we’re always behind and paying late fees and interest we shouldn’t be paying, getting cut-off notices and not paying medical bills. Grrr. Maybe if some MAN would step forward and teach him… (Obviously he thinks that women know nothing.)
5) We have hubby’s adopted daughter every other weekend, plus at some point every holiday. I need prayers for strength to make the house look like Christmas. I don’t have much to decorate, but I have enough. I just need the “want to” to get some decorations up before Christmas.
6) I would also love some way to buy a few presents for hubby’s daughter. She’s 11 (going on...20? typical) and I don’t even know what to get for her. A gift card might be nice.
7) My needs are not anywhere near as many and our family is not as bad off as Susan L. If you have not read her list yet, it’s here. Help her before you help me. http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474977196250
8) Chocolate helps me survive, sometimes. A bag of hugs and some dark chocolate kisses would be perfect to help get through the holidays.
9) Prayers would be appreciated for my disability claim. I have been denied twice and had a hearing before a judge back in July. That judge has quit, and I don’t know yet if he cleared his desk before he left, or if my file will be given to a new judge. I haven’t had a steady income for 5 years now, and prayers for a positive decision would be great. (Or prayers for God’s will, would be even better.)
10) I could do so much more commenting (and maybe getting to the cash option) if I had a computer that was not so old and slow. As it is now, sometimes I click on a story or photo and have to wait almost 10 mintues for the page to load if there are already lots of comments. I don’t need a new computer, just a newer one. If you know someone who is getting a new computer, I would love a hand-me-down with Windows XP (or even Windows 2000, except that it’s not being supported anymore either) and more memory than this old Gateway I got in 1999. It’s running Windows 98. I have only 64MB RAM and my 2 hard drives have only a total of 14GB. It’s a Pentium III processor. Anything newer would be better. :-) I have seen rebuilt computers at the flea market for only $150, but cannot afford to buy one.
If you can help at all, please email me here at Gather or at marilynruthmackenzie@yahoo.com.
Thanks, and Merry Christmas.
P.S. One more prayer request. Help me to humble myself enough to ask for help from my church or women's small group to help clean and organize our house. It really is a mess for three reasons 1) My hubby has lived her for over 20 years and he's a pack rat 2) We have antique player pianos everywhere (including in the living room, basement, garage and in storage!) that need to be sold or given away (Plus we have pieces and parts all over too...even though he has not worked on a piano in over 15 years!!!) 3) I'm just not physically able to keep up anymore.


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the one about your husb is funny, and so typical.
*believe me I know!*
I'm still chuckling about your husband being a pack rat and not wanting help from you with the finances. Having grown up with five brothers, then raising three sons, I sympathize completely.
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I'm so sorry that it has taken you so long to get disability. It helps to have doctors who strongly support your claim.
You are so thoughtful to send people to someone else's list!
You're right about the doc support. My regular M.D. really messed me up - after treating me for 2 years - she refused to fill out the forms for SSD about how much I can or can't stand, lift, walk, etc. My chiropractor jumped in and did that for me, but the SS folks really would prefer an M.D. for that. What really bugs me is that before I ever set foot in this doc's office, I specifically asked if she agreed that fibromyalgia is a real syndrome, and if she would cooperate with SS and fill out whatever forms would be needed later on. After treating me for 2 years, she refused. Grrr.
I'll be praying earnestly about all your needs. We're in the same boat you are in. Fortunately I've been able to get a little something for each of my immediate family through taking surveys online. I'm so grateful for that!
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Lisa, thanks for the prayers. Yes, it would make life lots easier to get the disability - finally.
the right home. Bought it for a granddaughter and her Mom says she has too many.
You are always on my prayer list.
In the end, my husband was amazed at how much extra money we had once he stopped having to pay high interest, late fees, etc. It was tense when I started calling his credit card companies and renegotiating terms, and went to visit his bank (They lost so much income off his banking fees that they probably had to let someone go), -- I really tried not to humiliate him, just to help. But it was so worth it. Less than a year later, his credit card debt was zero, and all his back taxes paid, and any old debts cancelled or paid off. If I hadn't stood up and taken the bull by the horns, we would still be drowning in debt.
If you stand up to a person in a loving way, I really believe you will earn their respect. It's just about using the gifts God gave you to help you both, because you love him. My husband has many wonderful gifts of his own that he uses to help me. That's what being a good team is all about.
I think I'm oversimplifying again, but that said, God bless you and help you! You'll be in my prayers.
Have you found a doctor who is more supportive and truly understands your condition. One of the hardest things for me was to admit to all the ways my disability affected me. By the time I filled out the forms I was in tears.
I've come to learn how to managed my conditions and my life has been so much happier. Gather has been such a blessing. When I'm not able to leave the house I can at least go to Gather and connect, share my writings, learn, play games, look at images, basically do what ever I am able to manage for the day.
I wish you the best.