Yesterday My brother-in-law got hit by a car!
Hubby and I didn't sleep well at all last night, we were getting phone calls until 11 pm last night. I think we finally fell asleep around 3:30 am this morning. The phone woke us up at 8:30 am this morning, it was hubby's mom.
When hubby and sister in law got to the hospital yesterday afternoon, they were told that our brother in law wasn't there. WHAT? They won't even give his wife any info. We know for a fact that he's there because hubby talked to the officer at the hospital in the parking lot!
When he was checked into the hospital, he said that he wanted EVERYTHING to be CONFIDENTIAL! I know it's his right but I just don't understand how they can let a person in his condition make that kind of a decision. He shouldn't be able to make ANY decisions on his own after getting hit by a car and trying to commit suicide.
So, basically we know NOTHING! This just isn't right! UGH! Nobody can call and talk to him, get any information on how he's doing or even go in to visit him. My hubby is taking this really hard, he's always been close with his brother and is always the one his brother calls when he's in trouble or needs help.
Hubby and BIL's mom talked on the phone with one of the ladies at the scene of the accident. So we know that the car that hit him was going 40 mph, he flew over the top of it and landed in the highway. He got up and walked into the other lane of traffic and got clipped by another car.
I'll keep you posted, please continue to keep them in your thoughts. As tragic as this situation is, we are hoping that now he will get the help that he needs! We are just hoping they can help him and bring him back to us, because he's not the same person right now!
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Wow, that's awful. You're all in our prayers.
The way we understand this law, and in your BIL's case, I don't think it applies--if you're in your right mind (which is really DOUBTFUL after being hit by two cars, or even one), then it's your decision -- if not, the hospital is liable for what they're doing to you and your family.
Get an attorneys' opinion, seriously. Your BIL might not even have known what he was saying, which might be closer to the truth.
Hugs,
Marilyn (keep us updated?)
I just read your other post -- I'm sure, or at least reasonably sure that his wife should be the one making the decisions, NOT him. Seriously.
My heart goes out to you, your family and especially to the wife and the two boys.
I hope you will be able to consult a lawyer, when it comes to your rights.
He had a nervous breakdown almost exactly 10 years ago, a very short one. Then 3 weeks ago he started hearing voices, pics were talking to him, he was paranoid, etc. Convinced that the world was out to get him.
We tried to help and did all that we could. His wife was convinced that all he needed was sleep and that she could make things better. About 2 weeks ago, we told her (and him) that he needed to get professional help but it never happened.
Paranoid Schizo is what hubby and I have said for the past 2 weeks, but we aren't doctors so what do we know, right? :(
I'm glad to hear that the kids do know part of what is going on. Growing up in a family, where the mental problems of my grandmother and aunt were not spoken about, I can say from a child's perspective that they more than likely know more than you think about what is going on.
You know although it sounds like this just started recently, your BIL might have kept a lot of the symptoms hidden from all of you. Do your husband's side of the family have any history of mental illness, depression etc.?
I know his boys are super smart and they know what's going on, it's just sad that they have to go through this.
He most definately needs professional help, no matter how hard we try - it's not something that any of his family members can help him with.
I really do hope that you are able to get through to the hospital somehow. It seems completely irresponsible of them to let a suicidal patient refuse communication with relatives, as he is obviously not in the right mind to make any sort of decisions at the moment.
Our #1 concern is those boys and have offered to help in ANY way that we can, we even had them here for several days so that they could just be kids and get away from everything.
I hope that we can get some answers soon too, not knowing his condition is so stressful. Hubby hasn't been sleeping much even though he knows it's out of our hands.
I'm going to speak from a personal level, and I have to say from experience of being admitted to hospitals, and signing for myself that I don't think I was all there, and that I should not have been able to make decisions for myself. I don't think I thought that at the time, but I do think that now.
As far as everyone out to get him, I think I can relate to that, but what you need to do is consult with a lawyer and explain to him what happened. Because when it comes time to release him from the hospital, you have to know that he may not be well enough to come home. He may lie to get out and try to disappear.
I hope and pray he realizes that you love and care about him and his welfare but its going to have to be realized by him....and all you can do is be there for him.
Mooch
Either way, he definitely should not be making these decisions for himself. I know some states have laws in place to deal with this kind of stuff.
I am also thinking about the two people who hit him. Many years ago, when I was first learning to drive, a friend of mine had something like this happen, where a man jumped into the road to try and end his life. A truck hit him first, but it didn't work so he got up and ran in front of my friend who had an SUV. It scarred him like you would not believe and he had a hard time driving after that too.
I feel terrible for the lady that he jumped out in front of, she is going to have to live with that for the rest of her life. Even though she knows it's not her fault, she's still going to have to "see" that forever.
Anyway, I hope you guys are able to get in there and get him the help he needs, for him and his family.
in my thoughts and prayers
His wife must be a wreck now
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-HUGS- and sending out prayers for your family.
Your sister-in-law needs to know right now that she has to be aggressive in getting help for her husband. The hospitals can be complete morons.
My mother-in-law lost her husband to suicide. He attempted suicide, was hospitalized, then 3 weeks later he simply told them that he was having a depression problem but he was all better, so they sent him home! My mother-in-law was hospitalized at that time for some medical problems of her own, so he went home alone.
While home alone, he attempted suicide again and accomplished his task that time.
Not trying to scare you or your sister-in-law... but... just please let her know she needs to put the super b!tch hat on and get mean with these people.
I'm so sorry that all of this is happening. My heart is going out to all of your family.
I hope this all works out quickly.
seen i twork so many times. We all need to pray for him and
his wife and children. I do pray that it will soon be taken care
of, he will be healed and back to his old self.
Hugs, Barbie