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n I found out I was pregnant I was afraid I was to old, to have another child. Being in my 40’s and already being a single mom with 6 children. I had mixed emotions, I was excited to have a new little one to take care of, but on the other hand, I wasn’t sure if I had the energy to keep up with her.
I had just recently ended a relationship of two years, when I found out I was expecting. So I was on my own with raising her. That wasn’t that scary since I have been raising my other 6 children alone and my two oldest were now young adults.
Trinity was born on her due date March 17th, with no complications. My oldest son drove me to the doctors, and the older kids took care of the younger ones while I was in the hospi
tal for two days.
Little Trinity just turned 5 months old. She is sitting up, rolling over and beginning to crawl. Everyday she does something new, like today she stood for a few second holding on to her toy box. When I was a younger mother, I was so much in a rush, that I think I missed those little things. So being an older mother has its benefits. I know not to freak out when she cries, I understand what each cry means. So I guess I can say I know more then I did when I was a younger mom. And the change in baby accessories is confusing. I liked the full size swings. Now everything sits close to the floor.
My x was outraged that I wouldn’t me to get an abortion. He didn’t want to be a father for his own reasons. My answer to his b s is being a sperm donor doesn’t make you a father. When I was 6 months along he came over for Christmas dinner. As I was cooking he came into the kitchen, with an offer he said that I would like. He went on to say, he would raise the baby. He wanted me to sign over my parental rights, so he could go into a homeless shelter, to get housing. And wanted me to pay him child support, because he wasn’t going to work. He was going to quite his job and go on welfare. I held myself back from throwing the Christmas roast at his head. That whole thing pissed me off, first off I have 6 kids and I work 2 or more jobs to help make ends meet. And I have this worthless smuck, talking to me like I was stupid. Needless to say I tossed the bum out.
When I was handed her birth certificate to fill out. I pondered on what to put in the line for dad. Figuring he is nothing but a worthless bum, I wasn’t going to put his name on anything. As far as im concerned this is my child. Like I said, sperm dosn't make him a father. So I left the line blank.
wouldn’t you know the worthless smuck came around after she was born looking for her social security number. He also was asking for visitations. Well I told him, he gets nothing. Of course he went on about he will prove he is the father by paternity. I loved laughing at him. As I told him, that since I wasn’t asking for child support, the state will not pay for a paternity test. And I highly doubt he can afford one. And he would need me to approve it, and since I don’t even remember meeting him, its a mute point. This might seem harsh, but any man that wants to use his own child as a porn to get free housing and handouts.. isn’t a man.
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She is a sweetheart and needs a mommy.
And you already have SIX kids...not one or two, but six. How many of them have fathers?
I understand I'm going to get a lot of angry responses here, but I just don't understand how you figure you did something good. If you were 17 and had one kid with one loser, I could understand that more, but you're not. You're 40 something and you should know better.
As a woman I have a choice wither to carry the child or have an abortion. My choice was made due to my moral and spiritual beliefs. I gave him a choice to be in his child’s life or walk away no string attached. He choice not to be a father. Then after afterwards felt he could use his own child as a pon to living off of others. Through my own personal experiences and working with woman in crisis. I have seen a lot of red flag warning that a man will be a dead beat and use the child’s social security to benefit himself and later the child will have no credit.. Due to the loser parent, who didn’t even pay child support but used the child’s social security number to turn on utilities and get government assistants. Therefore messing things up for the child when they get older. I could give a tone of other examples but will need to write a post to answer it all.
As far as your wise immature comment on how many children I have. Yes I have 7 children, your tax dollars don’t support them!!!
I support my children, so wither I have 1 child or 100, I take full responsibility for my children.
For your other question, on do they have fathers? I was married for over 14 years, and my other children’s dad is a father!!!
And when Trinity is a young adult, I will tell her about her father and It will be up to her, if she wishes to contact him or not.
Because your so ignorant and chalis you missed the whole point of the post.
So let me point it out to you..
The law has always made a woman add the father to the birth certificate, even it was a pregnancy resulting from rape. Now like I said I work with woman in crisis, I have seen so much abuse to woman and children from men who care nothing about anyone but themselves.
My choice not to add his name and go under the gun. Was to save my child from abuse from a man who has a lot of red flags of being an abuser. So if I go on the record saying I had a one night stand with someone I don’t know and a pregnancy was the result. Then I would do that to protect my child!!
Now that I put it in plain English maybe you can understand. But I highly doubt it!!!
If you work with women and know the signs why did you choose to sleep with him?
Again, it's not you personally. I just don't understand how people can do so many things that can be prevented and society accepts it like it's nothing.
At Christmas, I would have found myself holding back the knife that would be in my hand at the time he was talking! Lol! Love that song, nuts roasting on an open flame!
I think I have actually looked at this post before w/o commenting. :)
That's the sad part.
But you're so right in making her with him anyway....