We live in Lawrence, KS, home of the University of Kansas. Since my son was old enough to recognize a Jayhawk, he has wanted to go to KU. He's now nine years old and in third grade. He's still torn between whether he wants to become a firefighter, a photographer, a scientist or a policeman. He doesn't care which yet, as long as he goes to KU to get there! He's a sharp little guy and he's disappointed that they don't get ABC formatted grades yet, because he needs A's to go to KU. The Satisfactories or Exceeds Expectations aren't going to do him any good.
I have started a home business. My husband and I are studying money management so we can make the most of what we are making and invest as much as possible in a well educated manner. Keeping that in mind, knowing that the costs may very well inflate faster than an investment account, it's still very nerve racking.
I start out by reminding myself that Payton will probably be able to earn some scholarships, whether for academics, or sports, or Boy Scouts or any other groups he is in by that time. I also remind myself that we will pay in-state tuition and he won't have to pay to live on campus. That is such a HUGE expense, and I know that I will not lose too much contact with him while he's still living either at home or at least in town.
His dad and I are divorced, so while my husband and I will do as much as we can, his dad will do all that he can to help out too. I cannot say what a blessing it has been to have a supportive husband AND a great relationship with my ex also.
When I need to relieve my stress over college, I remind myself of how blessed I am and how blessed my son is. I think of all the things that we, as parents, are already doing to prepare him, not only financially, but emotionally, socially and academically as well. I always do best when I have a plan. :) We are striving to do our best, and I pray that God will assist us in doing even better.
Then I find a relaxing position and close my eyes. I shut out the worry by listening to the sounds around me. It may be the hum of the electronics and appliances in the house, or the blades of the ceiling fan, it even includes the flow of traffic on the busy street outside. I just listen. As I focus on the sounds I hear around me, comforting, everyday sounds, I physically relax and my mind can uncoil. Once the tension has faded, I can then look at college for my son in a more positive light and if I need to do any planning for it, I can do so with a clear mind.
I hope this helps!
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