Ahhhhhh! Where to begin. Apparently it's not enough that I get insomnia and have now had problems staying asleep when I finally get there. We once again are having neighbor issues.No matter what anyone says apartment life sucks. I guess unless you or the neighbors or never home then it might be ok. Otherwise there are to many different personalities in one building. It's like living with an annoying family and friends who wanted to stay for a day or two and decided to never leave.
We've had problems with the idiots above us since the day they moved in. They've been loud, rude, inconsiderate and juat plain untolerable.They allow there dog to pee and crap right outside our kitchen windows and don't even bother to clean it up.They wake us up at all hours when normal people are sleeping from them having jungle sex. We think they do drugs too because of the lifestyle and hours they keep. There's so many other problems too.
Last night they kept me up intil almost 2 am. I don't know if they were reorginizing the bathroom or what but when you have an 8 year to 10 year old comming in the bathroom where everything echos and yelling thats just craziness. Then around 3am I was up again doing my usually one time lap around the apartment and checking to make sure there are no snakes, the baby and my hubby are sleeping fine and theres no knew dents and issues that I can see on the car from the kitchen window. Then back to bed I go.
Then a little bit before 6 am the neighbors alarm clock goes off. Yeah, I'm awake again and it's not even in our apartment! I tried to doze again and just laid in bed. By the time I start drifting off again our smoke alarm was going off. I didn't realize it was the alarm at first. The battery was dying and all I heard is this annoying beep beep beep. I was going insane. For almost 20 minutes I searched for a malfunctioning cricket, another bug, an alarm or anything else that might beep.
I had to wake up my husbnd and he eventually just yanked the thing out of the wall. By then our daughter who was sleeping soundly intil that dumb fire alarm started beeping was up. There goes my sleep. All I really want is to get some sleep....for my nerves and stress level to not be so bad so I can sleep. It's to much to ask I guess. That was just the beginning of my bad day. As I sit here typing this it sounds like someone let a elephant run lose in their apartment. It's 11:30 pm and my daughter is asleep and I wish I was heading there myself. Instead I'm typing this and waiting for just 5-10 minutes alone with my husband to talk about the day. It may not happen since he has work to do and he's on the phone with his boss still. *Sigh*
I'm exhausted beyond belief and when your exhausted everything can seem much worse then it is. However today just completly sucked after this afternoon. I called my brother to ask if I recieved any mail at their house.Nothing good their either. Him and I get into an arquement because apparently making $300.00 for working 5 days not even a full 8 hours on your first job ever at the soon to be age of 19 isn't good enough for him. Someone who has car insurance under my mom's name and gets off with a cheaper rate since he's listed under her and only has car insurance to pay and gas money. Everything else except his ciggerettes my mom pays for. Occasionally she even pays for them too. He has the nerve to complain about his money is going to be gone and it's not enough and mom should pay my car insurance. I guess if you've always had everything handed to you and haven't been basically living on your own since you were 16 and first got a job then you would expect someone to give you everything hand and foot. I wanted to smack him after he arqued with me about I would've had to pay 300.00 a month for car insurance. It was all crap.
Then I talk to my grams a few minutes later and low and behold them same thing happens we have an arquement. Why and about what you wonder? My mom and my brother and how I'm tired of only hearing about Skyler (my brother) this and that. All the time. My brother was in learning support classes and made destinguised honors and thats all I still here. Me I took college courses junior year of highschool and I don't even get a well done I'm so proud. Tell me how well I do to. I'm sick of always hearing about Skyler every single time we talk. I try to change the subject and end up feeling like crap and worthless because I don't have that with my dad or my mom but Skyler oh Skyler..he's a wonderful kid. He lies to both of you and plays you against each other and yet I'm the child that no one cares about when she tries to be there for both her parents.Theres more but I wont get into that.
Then I was so mad that my husband and I got into an arquement which once again led me to telling him how pissed off I still am because he didn't do a damn thing not even a card for our first wedding anniversary.Then came my first Mother's day and how crappy he made that too and we sat around all day and he barely even talked to me. Then came my birthday and how once again no card and he said he was going to order my birthday gift since he knew what I wanted but couldn't find the booklet I had to order from. So, now it's not ordered and once again forgotton. I know its not about the gift but its the principal behind it. Then I get told I shouldn't let it upset me well it does when everyone else continually lets you down you should still be able to count on your best friend, your confidant or husband. I barely get to talk to him anymore. How can I when he has an over controlling boss who doesn't realize family time is just as important as work time. If my wife made as much money as his does I guess I wouldn't care about someone else's family either since I just buy my daughters love. Yea, they have a lovely family dynamic.
I'm sorry I like having dinner approximatly around the same time. I'm sorry I don't want my husband working till 11 pm when his daughter wants her daddy and doesn't get to see him. When I just want a few minutes to shower when I don't have a chance too while he can spend some quality time with her. Then 5 minutes after he's in bed he's snoring. We are losing our communication. I miss my husband I miss not being so stressed and not arquing over apartment issues and all the problems that come with family stress and living in this hell hole apartment.
Here's the kicker of this evening we were eating dinner and the jerk neighbors above us were running the washer and it sounded like it switched to spin cycle. I heard water comming up the pipes and looked over to the washer and dryer hookup and even though it's been capped for months water came squirting out in 3 big gushes. Along with...yep...if you read my other articles you know its the sulfer again!
It was even worse this time. Luckily we were headed out to go get groceries anyways. If we weren't we would've been going somewhere just to get away from the smell.Add that to the loud horrible one beat rap music that was now vibrating the floor above our heads. Of course I got extremely dizzy while quickly in the kitchen getting the dishes in the dishwasher and the diaper bag ready to go. My husband a headache. Which makes me wonder why my daughter started crying when it happened. I hope she wasn't in pain too. How would I know. When we left she was fine so maybe it was just the smell.
To make things better while we were at the store half the items I needed werent in stock including my daughter's formula and her nursery water. Luckily the nice manager was there again tonight and my husband and him worked some things. *Unfortunatly for him he heard my complaints last week about how horrible there store is becomming and how nothing is in stock and we might take our bussiness else where because this is rediculous and so on....he agreed and apologized and said he just started a month ago but he wants to help anyway he can.* He's a nice guy. While we were there we feed Destiny and were about half way done shopping. You don't know how much you love your baby intil your walking through the grocery store after just feeding them and they sneeze at the same time they spit up and it flies all in your hair. It's even worse when you laugh because thats the best thing thats happened to you all day. I love my daughter!
Yep, that was the best thing that happened to me today. I got baby spit up in my hair. When things are so horrible she makes everything so bright even when things plain out suck. I'm sorry this got lengthy and I may lose some connections after this vent and a look into my personal life and my current stresses and that's fine. I needed to get it out. I feel slightly better now. I just need to unwind and head to bed.
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I think you need that. It does sound like an awful day!
Can't the apt management do something about the noisy neighbors?
When I was still in apts we never ever got to make that much noise and it didn't matter.
sorry about the fam stuff too. That is hard.
I was blessed to hear you say how much you love your daughter!
We have complained to management numerous time and I mean numerous times. There is no noise ordiance in the are we live. (We only found that out after calling the cops). They are suppose to abide by the apartment rules though from 10pm to 8 am they are suppose to be quiet. At least not stereos blasting and cleaning at those hours. I finally had it a few months ago and copied a note I wrote them for me and the office and I stuck one on their door. I'm sorry but at 4 am you don't need to have sex like wild animals. It was so noisey that they woke me from a dead sleep. I was ticked. So, I told them how rude it was. My husband asked them multiple times to please be quiet. The woman came down here smoking in the hallway, cussing about me *I get migraines and at that time we just had the baby home from the hospital she was maybe 2-3 weeks old* and she went off. The finally time my husband and the guy almost got in a fist fight after they kept slamming doors at midnight and they woke our daughter up.
Maintaince says oh we'll call and send a letter up. Never happens. Then they say call the cops. That's great they wont do anything if its in certain hours and it ends up being worse because then they do crap more. Like they'll turn music up louder and yell and scream at the top of there lungs. Most recently they threw cigar butts at our door and we didn't even talk to them in awhile. They do this crap all the time. We were told we need to just keep calling the cops and after around 10 times then they can get evicted. A lot of good that does after they already done so much crap. During the day I'm home and now that there kids are too. I'm even more aggravated. My daughter is napping and the kids jumping on and off his bed. The mom isn't home and he's left with his teen sister who blast rap music and doesn't actually watch the kid.He's always outside riding his skateboard and bike in front of cars. Its a mess.
So, unfortunatly I think we are stuck. We'll no more when we hear back from the newscrew. Depending how it goes we plan to sue them because of health risk, property damage and so on.
Faith- Thanks also for your comment. I guess it all depends on management. We've been here about a year in a half and they went through 3 managemet switches during that time and nothing is still being fixed right or taken care of.Yet our rent was once late and they sent papers to take us to court right away. Yet, we still have sulfer issues and other issues. I'm still stuck on how come no one is getting care of the sulfer issue, how the one maintaince man just walked in our door right when I was getting out of the shower, and I'm still trying to figure out how a snake got in our apartment.Yes Faith- I love my daughter so much even more so after having 2 miscarriages before having her. She's truely a blessing.
Wouls suggest something calming at night/daYTIME (decaf tea-calming tea-it works--mild meds to calm create drozziness w/o lasting affects.
Or else have someone go kick their butts/kick them out. LOL
Look up-it will chamge. You may even have to move. Your life/health is more important than noisy annoying rude neighbs.
Good Luck!!!!
I wont take any pills to help me sleep or "relax" because I get knocked out from things like that and I need to hear my daughter in case she would wake. My hubby sleeps through anything. Yea, tea never helps my nerves.Thanks for the suggestions though.
Stephanie- I'm not sure actually. I believe there is but it hasn't happened. We think they may be a section 8 family. Meaning that since the state pays there rent there isn't anything we can really do. I'm just hoping we find a house soon. You have no idea how much we complained. Not just about there noise but the dog peeing and crapping outside our window and it not being cleaned up. Monday we need to complain again because there kids throw trash all over the grass and no one picks it up. We are waiting for a call back from the office manager again because of the new issues arising with basketballs thrown against our windows and parents allowing there kids to hit cars with the balls and allowing 8 yr olds outside by their selves till after 1030 pm.
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Does your municipality have ordinances about noise after certain hours? Find out and get the rules enforced.
I don't hate my husband not once so ever. What I hate is his boss not realizing we
have a family and a baby.Maybe it's not so much the not realizing but not caring about it.When my husband has been gone since 730 that morning and he's still not home at that time. Yea, I'm annoyed. I'm not married to a doctor or a lawyer. I'm married to a computer guy who is so burnt our he can't even talk to his wife for 5 minutes and didn't get to spend time with his daughter. He didn't get to eat almost all day. Then comes home and is still talking to his boss on the phone. A marriage is a partnership and communication is one of the most important things. I didn't sign on to become a single mom or to not have anyone to talk to either. Plans don't need to continaually be cancelled and I'm sorry that I'm trapped in this apartment and can't even go outside with our daughter alone for fear of something happening in what was a nice neighborhood and now is being over ran by hoodlums. His boss is a work a holic then ends up wondering why my husband can't always focus on his job. I'd like my husband to live beyond the age of 25.At this point he'll be dead at that age. I thank him for his effort but I don't thank him for allowing his boss to take advantage of him. A person can only work for 16-18 hour days so long before they break. His boss sometimes take advantage of that. There's other things as well...so no I don't appreciate haivng him work intil 11 pm when he's suppose to be home at 6.
Our municipality doesn't have noise ordiances. We've already looked that up. Only down town has ordiances and it's only with car stereos and exhaust systems in cars.Since we don't live in the "ghetto" (though it feels like we do with all these issues and hoodlums) it doesn't apply. They can only try to inforce the apartment rules which so far hasn't done any good since the end up being quiet when we call then the cops don't hear it. Only once did we have something done and that was another neighbor that was making noise while I was still pregnant. He was drunk and blasted his stereo so loud from the 3rd floor it was shaking our ceiling and can be heard outside the building. He got smart with the cop and got fined after he was nicely warned. We haven't had a problem with him since. That was the only time we had a problem with him. The 2nd floor though for some reason they wont evict those idiots!