Hmmm, this could be a rant. We have a Bible study group that meets at our house every week. One particular person in this group drives me bananas. I do not like her. I do not wish to be friends, I do not wish to have her in my home, I do not even wish to know her. I know that's not a great attitude, but there it is. Now, I have never been rude to her. I am very careful to be polite and curteous, even when I don't feel like it. This particular rant begins last Tuesday.
We are meeting again for the first time in a month. We always take December off for holidays. It has been decided by the group that to kick off the new year we'll have a potluck. Since it's at my house I provide a main dish, a salad and all the drinks. This woman, let's call her Betsy, arrives with her husband 45 minutes late. They bring nothing to the potluck. Whatever, fine, we have plenty of food anyway. She sits down and asks me, in such a snotty voice, "Do you have anything to drink besides water?"
I bite my cheek, smile and respond, "Yes, Betsy, we have a little iced tea left and there's a pot of coffee."
She then proceeds to stick out her tongue, make a wretching sound and say, "Ewww!"
Please pick me up off the floor here. Is she trying to immitate her two year old? She does decide to drink some iced tea. She takes her first sip and immediately asks, "I assume you put sugar in this tea."
"Yes, Betsy, I did."
"Well, I must have gotten the bottom of barrel. It's too sweet. I can't drink this."
I was sorely tempted to inform this woman that if the drinks weren't to her liking, she could have brought some, it was, after all, a potluck. Or maybe had she had bothered to show up on time she wouldn't have gotten said bottom of the barrel tea. At any rate, when she scathingly inquired as to whether or not my ice maker actually worked (it does) I was ready to stop serving her entirely.
I cannot fathom being invited into someone's home, served a meal and beverage and complaining. Social skills aside, I expect people to at least be curteous.
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Sorry about your situation. Good luck! And rant anytime!
There's usually one in every crowd, huh?
She sounds like a very unhappy person, huh?
Let me thinketh about this one and get back to you. My first instinct would be to tell her to getteth out, but that is flesh talking and I know I would never do it. I'll be back when I have completed another task and ruminated. . .
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U wishing you laughter
I told you I would come back, now didn't I? I did not forget. Some things came up, which caught me off guard and delayed my return, but here I am, and I do have an answer, and it is Biblical. . .
I direct you to Matthew 5:23 where Jesus is directing us on how to live
Have you noticed the importance of "seed" throughout the entirety of the Bible?
God starts out giving Adam herb bearing seed and the theme of "seed" just continues throughout the Word. SEED is key. . .
Something is going on with her? Something queer. The best thing to do is to cut the head of the serpent off before it even gets started (although this serpent has already started, hasn't she?). Well it is time for this SERPENT to STOP!!!!!!!!)
First though, I would ask HER forgiveness, because she may feel that I may have in some way offended HER (you never know) and this may be HER way of exacting her revenge.
Bottom line, let's get in all out there in the open. Bible study/the Church is no place for this type of confusion or dissension.
If the matter gets cleared, okay and all is well. If she doesn't spill it, then the onus is on her and she now realizes that her rude behaviour is unacceptable and shall not be tolerated in your home.
She has not been made a public spectacle of, or embarrassed publicly, but taken aside privately, and tastefully. This is what people are supposed to do.
She would know by this time that she is out of line and -- in her spirit, if she really is of the fold -- she has been convicted. Either way, this kind of activity is a hindrance to the entire spirit of the study and I have seen it many times,
like a seed that grows and grows, may be so disruptive may be the very weed to overtake the choke the good seeds that are being planted in your group.
My two cents. Prayer, as well. But God also gives up the manual to guide us in situations . . .
My mom would have privately read her the proverbial riot act long ago. All contributed in her church and no one got away with foolishness like this. Of course other church members would have never known and my mom was the pastor; I guess that was the difference.
My two cents. Prayer, as well. But God also gives us the manual to guide us in situations . . .
My mom would have privately read her the proverbial riot act long ago. All contributed in her church and no one got away with foolishness like this. Of course other church members would have never known and my mom was the pastor; I guess that was the difference
I noticed a few other typos, but I hope it is still readable. My blessings and shalom to you and yours, Lacey -- always!!!