What does your wedding ring mean to you?

Is it possible to compromise? Keep the same setting and get a larger stone?

I am not married, therefore, I do not have a wedding ring but it sounds like it's a personal preference to me. I don't think there's anything wrong with upgrading it and trading in the original one but it's up to the two of you really.

My thoughts are the same as yours! My husband wouldn't care either way. So, it would be an easy choice for us! But it seems as though your hubby feels strongly about the ring and what it means.

Heck, marriage is what you make of it! I don't think ANY ring or certificate means nearly as much as the LOVE!

I think I could take both sides here. I see where you are coming from but I also see your husbands side.

I wouldn't want to get rid of my ring for an upgrade though because of the reasons your husband gave but the reasons you gave also make since. You are right about the ring just being a symbol.

I don't know for sure how I feel about this but if my husband wanted to upgrade I would probably let him do it just because the ring I have gets stuck on everything.

Let your husband do what he thinks is best. It's going to make him happy to do something special for you. If you have the money. Blessings will come to you and your family if you honor your husband in what he wants to do.

I've been learning a lot lately about how important it is to respect your man and it goes a long way when you do.

I hope that I helped just a little and I pray that whatever happens you both are happy with the outcome.

We were going to trade in but my husband gained weight and his is too tight to put back on and mine engagement ring is still in tact but one diamond fell out of the wedding band and it strangely gives it more meaning now because the diamonds have fell outta our marriage a couple of times too so it's really turning out to be symbolic in many ways.
We're cool now. Last nite's meeting got everything running back according to plans.

Jill, keep the old one and take the new with grace. Be happy, my ex never gave me one, even after 36 years of marriage! That's part of the reason he's my ex.

Jill, your husband still loves you isn't that enough. The first set of rings represents for him, your love and comitment to each other.

When we got married, he told me that he felt bad about buying me the ring he did. He said he wanted to get me a much nicer one, but that he couldn't afford it. That was fine with me. I love my ring. He made me a promise back then that on our 5th anniversary he would buy me an upgraded ring.

Instead of getting a new ring - you should go on a vacation!

I use to hate my ring - but now I'm used to it. I don't think I will upgrade - I use to think I would but now it doesn't seem so important anymore. It is what it is ~ and yes if I had any extra money ever - I would find something more fun to do with it than a new ring; like go back to Jamaica where we got married. We said we were going back at 5 yr - then 10 now we just had our 12th and 15 isn't looking good either - hving a kid has changed our life - both good & bad - left my big paying job to be a SAHM and now we struggle alot financially - so anyway - guess I totally got off the question. Hee-hee Follow your heart and do what's best for you - only you know what's right!!!!!!!

It's hard to say Jill. My mother's diamond was so small you needed a magnifying glass to see it. But she would never allow my dad to replace it. I personally don't wear my ring, got out of the habbit as an electronics technician. It's something maybe the two of you can compromise on.

I never wear mine! it disappeared off my finger 5 years ago

My husband promised me new wedding band for our 5th anniversary too! We've now been married 9 years and I'm still waiting! We bought a really cheap set when we first got married because we planned to "upgrade" in 5 years and were a little low on funds at the time. When 5 years hit, he conveniently forgot about it and then time kept passing. A couple years ago my ring broke and since then I haven't had it to wear at all. I figure if he doesn't mind if I go ringless, I don't mind. haha.
But I would love to have a new symbol of our love, but I won't hold my breath on getting it.

Hubby had an anniversary ring made for me as a surprise on our 6th anniversary. We are talking about upgrading our rings for our 20th anniversary in 2 years. Our rings were really cheap and was all we could afford at the time. I'll keep our old rings as a reminder of growth (resizing) and the leaner times (the dings).

I can see both sides of this. Maybe your husband had a surprise picked out for you. . .

I love my ring and I do not think i will ever trade it in! I would not mind having another ring for a different finger but I really like my ring. I Think its really sweet that your husband feels that way. 3,500 had to be a darn nice ring!

Mine was 300 and I love it and will not trade it for anything more!

My hubby told me when he gave me mine that we could upgrade if I wanted in a few years. Personally, I would never want to upgrade or change it at all. Both my rings are exactly what I wanted then and what I still want now. And they hold a ton of sentimental value...especially the engagement ring. But every couple is different...I suggest coming to some kind of compromise.


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I guess I would trade it if dimonds were coming out and it looked bad from YEARS of wearing it.. lol ttyl

To me, it is a symbol that I would like to preserve, but I just asked my better half and he said that he doesn't care. So who knows!

My husband got me a different ring on our 5th anniversary, which I wore on a different finger.

Mine means a lot to me. I wouldn't replace it. That's not to say I wouldn't welcome a new ring for another finger...after all, I AM a woman!

Wow. I would never spend that much on rings. My engagement ring was $200 AT Friedman's Jewelers and my wedding band cost around $20 at Wal-Mart. Tracy's band cost us about $50 at Wal-Mart and they are all in 10K gold. I don't wear my engagement right now because I somehow managed to bend a prong and don't have the extra money to get it fixed right now. I didn't want real expensive rings because I am hard on rings and have had to have so many fixed in my lifetime!

My hubby and I bought the $40 wedding bands from Walmart when we got married. He then lost his 3 months later... :-)

Now we have a tradition of visiting the same artist at our local renaissance faire every year and buying another ring. So, four years of marriage and I have my original band, a thin pounded gold band, a silver woven band, and a textured silver band. None of the rings were more than $20 and I get to pick which one I want with my other jewelry choices for the day and my hubby doesn't feel bad when he loses another ring.

It's all about what's between you and your hubby- not what's on your finger.

just found out my gold plated fading ring...

Did you ever wonder why jewelers offer such a deal to upgrade?The amount of gold in jewelry continually is less and less so what you trade in is worth more than what you are upgrading to.The price of gold is skyrocketing;making older gold more valuable.It used to be 24,18,14 12 karat.You cant find that anymore.

Hubby and I are both rough on rings,so we only wear them when we go out on "dates"or social gatherings.We both have jobs where one could lose a finger because a ring got caught in equipment.Setting are not what they used to be,so prongs are not as subtle;can catch on everything.

Our set is special;I wouldnt trade it for anything.It stands as a symbol in trying times when there is so much divorce.

I can see where both of you are coming from.I am no longer with my husband, but I still have my wedding ring.I don't wear it anymore, although it is beautiful.To me it is a symbol,of love, of your marriage,of your wedding day,etc...I think your husband is upset, because he picked out the ring for you(did he?)and it has meaning to him.It's something he chose, just for you.That's probably why he does not want to trade it in.Is there anyway you two can talk and maybe he can buy you another ring, one to go along with the one you have, or just a ring for another finger?Let him know that you still like your wedding ring, but he promised a new one, after 5 years, and you don't really have to have a new wedding ring, maybe just a new ring period, for your 5th anniversary.Ask him if this time you can choose it, so if you decided to upgrade in the future, he won't feel hurt. That's what I would try to do. But who am I ?I'm still trying to get a divorce and get my current man to put a ring on my finger....any suggestions for that one?

A lot of you mentioned that your rings were broken, prongs were bent, stones missing, etc. Doesn't anyone have insurance through their jewelry store anymore? Our jewelry store offers an insurance plan on all diamond jewelry. I think we paid $70 for 5 years of coverage. It covers EVERYTHING!! If it needs to be sized, it's free. If the prongs are bent and need to be fixed, it's free. If the stones are loose, they'll tighten it for free. Even if the stones fall out, FREE to get new ones. And, if your ring is stolen, you get another one for free. (as long as you have a police report to back it up). We have bought the insurance plan on all of the jewelry from that store. It's just too good of a deal to pass up. I've had my wedding rings re-sized after my pregnancy, the bands soldered together, the prongs re-done, the stones tightened, etc and it was all FREE because it was covered under the warranty.

As far as my hubby saying he wants to buy me a whole separate ring. I just think it's ridiculous because it's more expensive that way and also because I don't need to wear that much jewelry. I'm not Zsa Zsa Gabore or anything! LOL

We still have about 8 months until our anniversary, so we have plenty of time to decide what, if anything, we're going to do.

Thanks for all the ideas and suggestions

Upgrading seems a waste to me. Do something with the money that gives you guys timie and memories together. A ring is just a symbol, who cares what it costs? Why do you need to upgrade except to keep up with the Jones'?

Jill, when you guys decided what you are going to do, let us know...I'm interested in seeing how this turns out!

I would never trade in my rings. Both are very sentimental to me. I still wear the 1/8 carat diamond earrings he gave me on our 2 month anniversary of just dating!!!! I was like, wow, diamonds after two months??? He's a keeper!

Ken always knew I liked Princess cut diamonds so when he bought an engagement ring (after 5 years dating) he looked at Princess ones and then saw one he liked even better. It is square, but it's called an Ascher cut so when you look in the diamond it stair steps down like an upside down pyramid. It is soooo beautiful and sparkly. And I love that he wanted something a little more special and unique than the Princess you can get anywhere. He also chose to go with Platinum even though I had said gold was fine but he liked the way the diamonds sparkled more with the platinum. So when we were deciding on wedding bands he said I could get a diamond band so we had a ring custom made with 5 more Ascher cut diamonds in a bar setting. Both rings are a little over a carat each and the stones are all F's so the quality is excellent and it is all I would ever want. I am very sentimental with my firsts of things so I could never trade them in. He has mentioned trading in my diamond earrings for bigger ones, but I said I couldn't get rid of them so we talked about saving them for my daughter when she is older and gets her ears pierced. I can do that because then it would be special for her too.

Personally, I would never want to spend that much money again when now I have a daughter and another on the way. I can think of a ton of things to buy for them, or putting it away for college. Or I would want to do something fun like take a trip so everyone can enjoy. I can understand what you say about the $3500 you can get for your ring so the new one won't cost as much, but I still couldn't do it since my husband picked out the rings for me and put them on my finger when he proposed and then during the ceremony. Good luck to you and Congrats on the 5 yrs coming up!!!!!! We just celebrated our 2nd anniversary this summer but it was actually 9 years total from dating.

I don't know Jill. I can see where you're coming from, but I'd just leave it alone.

My hubby did the same thing when presenting me with a ring (offered to buy another one later). However, I don't think mine cost more than $300, so a $3,500 set is amazing! He wanted me to have a real diamond, so it's this TINY, TINY little diamond chip.

He always said that he'll replace it someday. He gets really embarrassed when he sees rings that my friends are wearing. Sure I'd like a nicer ring, but this is the ring he proposed to me with. How could I give it up? If nothing else, I'd take the diamond chip and make it into some piece of jewelry for Madeline.

Our tenth anniversary is in December and that would be the PERFECT time to get a new ring, but I doubt we could afford it. Anyway, I think I'd rather use any extra money to either pay off some debt (reducing the day to day stress more than a ring ever could) or maybe take a vacation.

I don't think I would be of any help. I love my ring and it does hold a sentimental value to me. I don't think I could part with it. If your husband is willing to get you an upgrade without trading your current ring in...why wouldn't you keep it?

I can see it both ways....you have a tough decision here.

What my wedding ring means to me is that it is a circle of unending love. It has a stone but that is just decoration. The diamond is just a little more love added to the circle.

My wedding ring is very simple, and very inexpensive as well. I don't think I will ever want to get rid of it, as this is a symbol of our wedding day. When my mother died she passed on all of her jewelry to me, her only daughter, and I could not carry much with me when I moved so my sister in law is watching out for it. One thing I did take was my mother's wedding ring, and it was a ring that was created out of her original ring and my dad's ring as he is a farmer and therefore did not wear his.

It is the wedding, the vows that are the important thing in a marriage. I wouldn't even have the option that you have, so I would have to keep my first ring, although we are hoping to upgrade for our 10th anniversary, which is in 2 years.
To me, the ring is a symbol, just as the marriage license is just a symbol - a piece of paper to show others that I made a lifetime vow to love my husband.
I take my diamond ring off and always wear my band, but whether it is on or off doesn't determine whether I am married or not. Neither does it matter if it is the first ring ever given or an upgrade.

I was supposed to get a new ring on my 10th anniversary. Well, my son came along that year and at the time we were living in California and we just couldn't swing it. The second ring doesn't really matter to me right now. I wouldn't have given up my ring for another though.


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I'm with your HUSBAND on this one.

Walker's and my rings belonged to Mormor and Morfar (my grandparents) who were married for 63 years!!! My engagement ring was something that Walker and I picked out together.

I can imagine dying with my hands in a FIST and someone having to pry these rings off of my fingers with the freaking jaws of life! LOL