This post is my way of venting, I suppose.
I know the traditional way of celebrating the fourth of July is with fireworks. When Dustin was here, we celebrated right along with everyone else.
Dustin is not here any more. Every time I hear one go off, I hear the gunshot that took Dustin from me. My PTSD shows its painful self in a big way this time of the year.
Don't get me wrong, some of the fireworks are spectacular with all the colors, if only the sound could be muted. That's not going to happen. Maybe if I had an island to fly to every fourth of July. That's not going to happen either. So, I will continue playing the television and music as loud as I can, to try and block out as much as I can. I have no other choice.
My neighborhood started last weekend celebrating, and each day brings more fireworks, from morning and into the night.
I do understand kids love fireworks, and the fourth of July is indeed a celebration. But it makes it so hard when you hear a gunshot instead of fireworks. This is yet another hurdle I will fight through, and I will make it through, this I know. Every now and then I need to vent, like everyone else.
I hope everyone has a safe and happy holiday.
Now, I will get back to my bluebirding.
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May try all encompassing ear phones with some music? The kind that are big and squishy, and cover the entire ear?
Thank you, I will try that.
I'm sorry for your pain. I hope venting helps some.
It does help to talk and my friends help as well, thanks Kim.
Carol you have many friends here for you. I will pray extra hard for your pain your feeling now.
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Janet, Melp my friends are what help me so much of the time.
{{{HUGS}}}} I'm so sorry sweetie.
Thanks for the hugs... need them!
I am so sorry for your feelings of hurt. Hang in there Carol, it will be over shortly..
Good to see you Randall. Thanks for your support my dear friend.
**hugs** yes, try ear plugs
Thanks for the hugs Dawn.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine.
I do appreciate you Renita... and no you can't imagine nor do I wish it on anyone.
sorry for it all, we work so hard to survive the pain then something else aflict it, just know that dustin in there in your heart and be bless
You are so sweet Steph. I believe he is helping by sending me bluebirds and butterflies. I have to believe.
You're right, it's hard to escape the bangs, some places harder than others. Hugs, Carol.
Yep, some things cannot be avoided. I will be OK, only a few more days. Thank you John... I needed to see your icon.
I can feel for you Carol.. You have been through alot...
Thank you for your support Vickey. It is never ending.
So sorry. I hope someday it won't bother you so much.
You would hate it here. Every night someone is lighting off fireworks at the beach and Saturday it will be sheer lunacy. My dog used to be scared of them, but even she's become somewhat immune in the short time we've lived here.
It is finally over, thanks Marianne.
Sending you virtual hugs, Carol. We live in a quite neighborhood and have had no one with fireworks yet...I'm sure they won't do any until tomorrow, maybe later tonight. If you could, you could come here and stay through the fourth. That way you could get up with me and Allen in the morning, have some coffee and go kayaking for the better part of the day. Amazing how FAR away you can get from people and the "noises" they create when you kayak.
Crank the music up...and enjoy a dance or two.
Thanks Renda.
Carol, I understand. This must be very painful to cope with. Since the neighbors started last weekend, there must be plenty of animals in your neighborhood whose nerves are just about fried now too. Fireworks are outlawed here, but people shoot them off anyway and we do our best to comfort our dogs. The cats don't seem to be as upset. The suggestion about earphones may be the best solution, and I hope you try it and it works for you. Of course, this is also on your mind, but maybe if you can stop the sound, you can be able to think about other things. Good luck. Hugs.
Very painful, thanks Lynn.
I can imagine that has got to be one of the worse times. It's always hard trying to go on as if everything is the same and nothing has changed when everything has changed and nothing is the same, that I do know. Around here there never is any noise of that sort, way too dangerous with the heat and as dry as it is. It used to really depress me at first and now I'm quite glad of it, one holiday thats a bit easier to hide from. I'm glad you can come here and talk about it, that is a great help and I'm grateful for it!
Thanks Ruth, it's almost over, I hope.
I hope you found some good earphones, Carol. I'm truly sorry, that it is effecting you this way.
Our neighborhood was really noisy this year, the kitties chose to stay in, but they've learned that they are safe at home.
I turned up the tv and watched movies. It is over now.