Do you think its right to spy or snoop through your kids privacy? I know I didnt like it when growing up I dont keep diarys anymore because of my snoopy ass mother,shed go through my purse,my letters my DIARY,,, WTF and she wonders why I never gave the time of day to talk to her as a child..
Now dont get me wrong I love my mother to pieces but she betrayed my trust as a child/teen and so I ended up moving out of the house at 16, among other reasons too ,not just the snooping part,but yes your welcome to ask questions,,but what do you get off on snooping through your childs diary and things, I wasnt into drugs,I didnt do coke or needles or anything,I had lots of friends was very active,I didnt have the best As through school but damnit i did a good job I was a good kid,
And like any normal child yes I lied and got grounded for things,but even having a boyfriend was difficult,my mother always blamed my boyfriends for stuff I did instead of relizing that I have my own thoughts and actions,or blame my friends for things I did? um ok,,,, so needless to say me and my mother did not get along one bit until I was 18 years old.
I understand she wanted to help me grow and get by in life,however to go to the bounds that she did was uncalled for ,for any mother or father,my father always stayed on the sidelines,because im his princess and thats his wife..so he never really got into any of the arguments,but when he did he was an adult about it, and would ask me ,,( do you know what you did wrong ) Id say yes and hed reply back .. It was easy talk and I understood what I did wrong etc.. but my mother it was like she was jealous or hated me at times,my brother was SUCH THE ANGEL...HA/// unlike him I never tattled on him for things as he would with me..
Why? I dont know again mad because I would get away with them?? cause I was sneaky haha or just plain smart... besides I never ever disrespected my parents until the day I finally was sooo fed up and said screw you Im out of here and moved out and in with a boyfriend at the time.I to this day dont regret it because if I hadnt I think it would have only gotten worse because I was rebelling so bad,I couldnt make my own mistakes and so I wanted to and wanted to learn from them but me being the girl everyone was so darn right harsh with me and wayyyy to strict,... so I left and glad because it actually helped put my mother and I back together a little bit.For 6 months I did not speak to my mother , I would call my dad at his work and talk with him only. long story short I seen a news breif video on this today and wanted everyone to check it out and possibly state your opinions..I just think some of the things I had in my diary should have been for me only,my first kiss,my first boyfriend,im mean I felt violated!!!!!
I know Im not saying I had it bad growing up but , I wish somethings were left unsaid and un-done I know I will never do that to a child of mine ever/!!! I would never want them to feel betrayed by their own parents.I understand to a point its because parents worry however there are better ways to go about talking to your child....WAY BETTER
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The nuclear family is rather new on the scene in history. All this new privacy is actually a bit of an unprecedented way of raising kids. Private abuses - especially of the wife and kids are probably the big bad side effects of that. That, and people just feeling lonely and unconnected to anything also happens.
If you have super parents it isn't a problem. A lot of parents need help, though, and really don't get it.
Yeah, they should have privacy in the bathroom - and bed !!! Otherwise the adults are being (on a scale of) icky to criminal.
I hope to have the same thing with my children. They are only 4 & 6 right now, so we have along way to go, but we are already doing good at the talking thing. Trust is an important key when it comes to parenting. Letting them know that you are going to be there for them is abother.
As a parent you have to teach your child that they can trust you, in every way. They will remember every lie, even the little ones. I have never lied to my children about anything. If I say im doing something I do it period. The only time I didnt was when there was a family emergancy, then I had a talk with them, made sure they understood, and let them know as soon as this was over with and things were taken care of I would do as I promised.
I told the children I would never look in their purses/billfold or go through their drawers (other than to put clothes away). I would treat them with respect as long as they gave me no reason to mistrust them. If they did ... there would be no holds barred.
I looked one time. Tore apart the youngest's room when she was 17. And she paid the price! :)
As a parent, I feel that we have this right. I actually feel it is wrong not to.
I don't know that there is a magical age, at which point, the parent should stop snooping, but by the time that time comes, the kid probably won't care anymore if the parent is snooping!
That is one thing I will always respect of my kids, they need their own space!
If she thought you may be on drugs, or something like that, she could have searched your drawers..
Or god forbid, she could have asked you if something was wrong.
Kids do need supervision, but, not to the point that they are suffocated.
Your mother made you leave with her unjust behavior. You could not trust her after that and I don't blame you.