Congress endorsed October as the Domestic Violence Awareness month starting in 1989.
Since October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month I thought I would share some of my articles on the subject. Throughout this month I will post articles I have previously written as well as new ones that I plan to write. We need to get the word out about domestic violence.
In today’s society it is unfortunate, but more than likely you know a victim or abuser or are one of the two yourself, possibly both. We need to educate ourselves as well as others in order to attempt to stop the violence. Education is just the first step, but it is also the most important.
This subject matter is close to my heart as one of my dearest friends lived with this secret for years until her husband moved her and their girls far away from any support system. This is where the abuse was really allowed to flourish and evolve. It culminated in her fleeing for her life with her daughters. I have witnessed domestic violence all to often in my relatively young life.
Domestic violence is way to prevalent in our world today. I encourage all of you to learn, educate, and stand up against the violence. Together we can make a difference!
Below are some of the articles I plan to publish among others:
Domestic Violence: Creating a Safety Plan
Domestic Violence: What to do if you Suspect Someone you know is a Victim
Domestic Violence: Warning Signs
Domestic Violence: Symptoms that you are in an Abusive Relationship
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Once it's working again, would you mind if I included it in an article that I plan to write in which I spotlight all the articles on Domestic Violence?
Have a safety plan -- can she call you and let it ring 3 times then hang up if she needs you to call 911? Can she leave the porch light on in the daytime if something is wrong and she needs help? If you don't live close by, she could make arrangements with a closer neighbor for this.
Mary, you are absolutely right! No one should submit to abuse.
That was not part of God's plan for marriage. Marriage on earth was created by God to represent the kind of intimate relationship He wants to have with us. It should be a picture or icon of a perfect relationship. Abusive is not it!
And shame on "churchianity" for misrepresenting what the true meaning of submissive is! When the relationship is beautiful (as ours is with God) then submission is beautiful, because it is a 2-way street.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I am glad to know that you too, are a survivor!
Funny thing is, while she was gone, I posted my articles on a couple of online publications I write for that she subscribes to. So, she was reading my articles while he was at work. She didn't put them into place, but she was still able to leave without him finding her.
My article of a few days ago has some good links for additional information too. I'm glad you're sharing this!
The links are in the comments. There's even one for men who are abused.
http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474977141281
I am so happy to hear that you are a survivor as well. It seems that more often than not the abuse starts out with the first three then turns into the physical. Then the physical progresses. I know my friend dealt with the first two when they were just dating. The financial part started when he moved her away and she no longer had a job, she saved as much money as she could but it ran out quick.
I was shocked to read this morning that in India ...51 % of woemn think thats its ok to have DV ..is there is a reason ..no doubt there was a larger percentage of men to justify it as right move ...
This will probably sound ironic. However, as a marital arts instructor, and teacher of original awareness concepts. I was a victim of domestic violence for 5 years I finally fled with my two sons after receiving death threats. I am sharing this with the gather world perhaps someone out their can be encouraged by my testimony. Much of what I write about has been derived from this time. Staying in an abusive relationship for so long and maintaining who I am as a man of God, a leader, husband, friend, and father. Even when it was not reciprocated, or appreciated. Has made me such a strong person I can see the good that was brought out of such a painful, and humiliating, time in my life. After nearly exhausting myself in trying to understand, rationalize, and be patient, with someone who was not willing to change, take responsiblility, or admitt wrongs. I feel as though my tolerances, and willingness to go that extra mile for anyone who shows a little effort are virtually limitless, whether friend, family, wife, or student. So although I hurt for my children in regards to that time. I thank the lord for the new power he has instilled in me to raise them come what may.
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I have been around abuse all my life and was even sexually abused as a child, but didn't recognize the beginning stages of abuse in my own previous marriage until my Dr. privately told me to keep a small bag packed at all times. When things began to get worse I spoke to our pastor and he yelled at me and told me to just accept what my husband was doing as a good wife should. I felt betrayed. Very soon thereafter I came to the relazation that God would NOT want me in a hurtful marriage like that. God is Love. The Bible said my husband was to love me as Christ so loved the church. So I left.
I was disabled so I made a pretty good captive, but my parents lived within driving distance and they knew something was very,very wrong. It took my Dad hardly no time to come and get me. A month later when my Dr. saw me again he was raving about how great I looked. I guess oppression wasn't becoming on me.