Marvin told me he'd wanted to go to Mexico since his divorce 10 years ago and was always waiting for someone beautiful to go with. I wasn't sure if he was saying that I was the "beautiful" person or that he was just tired of waiting but the bottom line was that he was very interested in joining me on my February Adventure. But first, he wanted to understand the rooming arrangements.
He tried to convince me that I wouldn't regret a decision to share a room. He said he thought it might be fun to tease me by dancing around the room in his leopard-skin g-string. Not sure if he was kidding, I told him I was really more of a boxers-kind-of-gal. I tried to ignore the visions that invaded my imagination: Marvin strutting around in his g-string, practicing body-builder poses in front of the mirror.
Though I was quite excited at the thought of getting to know him better, I wasn't ready to share a room. Now I'm not saying I was listening to my inner angel... It was the year of taking risks, doing things differently, "just doing it!" (whatever "it" was) and I certainly was entertaining possibilities. But rooming with a guy I barely knew was definitely more risk than I wanted to take. I'm just in Month 2 of my year of "bold" behavior...a mere beginner. Inviting a guy that sent me a picture of his butt to go with me to Mexico was enough to earn me "bold" points.
I convinced Marvin that it would be better for both of us to have our own room---the mystery and anticipation of what might happen much more enticing than the expectations and pressures that would come from rooming together. I still was not even quite certain myself what kind of relationship I wanted with Marvin. Flirt buddy, fling, or even potential boyfriend? I really didn't know, but I was happy to at least be adding a handsome man to my February adventure. Though I was getting a little nervous about the "I'm-really-into-my-body" vibes, Marvin's emails were a sweet mixture of sensitive male, protector, romancer, and seducer. He was a charmer...perhaps too practiced...but a combo Tarzan/Prince Charming character would make a great hero for my February Adventure.
Would you be bold enough to room with an attractive member of the opposite sex that you barely knew on a romantic vacation?
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David, yes...well said. In those early stages of a relationship, there's always a bit of "stress"....trying to say the right things, feeling like everything you say and do is being judged. Of course, if it's the right person, it's natural and easy, but.... I wasn't there quite yet with Marvin.
Leslie....did you WANT something to happen? I think I have gone through the past few years of being too "scared" to let something happen... Hence, my resolution to be more "bold" in 2008.
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Doyle I <~~~~~
Also, however, you don't have options. Be bold, by all means, but don't burn bridges. Being "trapped" in the same room when you don't know how things will go (sex may not even be part of it) is considerably more stress and pressure than having separate rooms that you decide not to take full advantage of.
Actually, there's something to be said for separate rooms even if you're of the same gender (regardless of sexual preference). Sometimes, you need some time alone.
Maybe -- is this an all expenses paid trip?
Evil Monkey....yes, I have always "thought it through". Though that has kept me safe, it has not provided much fodder for my "book" or wild excitement in my life. I was on the fence with this one in a year when I was trying to do things differently...
Melinda....I had thought about sharing a room and not a bed, but there had been enough innuendos to know the expectation was we'd be sharing a bed if we were sharing a room.
Doyle....Way to set ground rules. I guess we'll not be rooming together in Mexico since I don't think I want to mess with your knife wielding, ninja-like wife.
Stephanie...Yes, that was my thinking. I didn't even want to room with someone of the same gender. Though, when I am in a romantic relationship, I certainly prefer to share a luxury room with that person than alone. Unfortunately, Marvin and I had not yet reached a stage where we were in a "romantic relationship" and I didn't want to risk sharing the room with someone I might end up wanting to get away from.
Joseph, you're funny. Yeah, I pretty much don't want anyone in my room on vacation except some fantasy man. Other than the leopard-skinned-g-string, Marvin was a definite possibility.
St. Joy - Even though it wasn't all expenses paid, we'd both have saved money by sharing the room.
Tune in tomorrow to the Laptop Dancer Diaries (LTDD) to find out what happens with Marvin....
Marianne: So....you don't want to play the "Samantha" character in my "No Sex in the Suburbs" novel? (I'm debating changing the name from "The Laptop Dancer Diaries"... ) I may have to make some characters up just to provide a little more racy material. I DO have some racy material coming up, but I'm a little wary about writing about it.... my kids may read this stuff some day!
And there's no rule that even if you book separate rooms you can't end up in the same one anyway.