I do, right now. I really am at my wit's end especially after my night last night.Some of you have been following my account of our first time home buying experience so you'll know about our situation with the carpet in 2 of the bedrooms in our new house. The previous tenants had lots of cats who used the bedrooms as their litter box and the rooms were damaged by cat urine. The sellers paid almost $900 to have the carpets cleaned for us, but it didn't work and we ended up having to rip out the carpet in both rooms and replace the underfloor. Seems like we've been nickel & dimed with everything we've had to do for the past few months and it's really wearing on me.
My 2 older kids went to my mom's house for the weekend so my husband and I were really excited about finally being able to get some things done around the house. Yeah we still have our toddler with us but having 1 child to deal with instead of 3 sure makes a big difference! After dinner last night we went to Home Depot to look at their carpet deals because our in-laws were going to help us out by loaning us some money, after lots of persuading from them, ha. Neither one of us like to borrow money but this time it was a neccessity since our kids have been sleeping on mattresses on the bare wood floor ever since we moved in.
So we're at Home Depot shopping around and we covered pretty much the entire store because we wanted to look at locks & handles, carpet, fireplace things, the clearance stuff and even laminate flooring. Rylan was being his usual 2 year old self and climbing out of the cart and running around and we were all frustrated because it ended up not being a very fun shopping trip. After we figured out how much it would cost to buy carpet and realized that it would take close to a MONTH for Home Depot to come over and do the actual install, we decided to leave (after inticing Rylan out by talking about Coldstone ice cream) and as I grabbed for my purse, it wasn't in the cart!!!
I thought "Oh man... I must have set it down somewhere when Rylan was running off" so we started tracing our trip through the store and asked a few employees if they had seen it. A call was made up to the service desk with no luck and then over the loudspeaker they started saying that the store was closed and everyone needed to leave. By this time, everyone who worked there was walking up and down the aisles of their departments looking for the purse and still, no luck! I tried not to cry but then as I started thinking about everything that was in the purse, I ended up letting out a few tears. It was so hot in the store and Rylan was ready to leave a long time before that and my feet hurt from walking so much on the concrete floor.
The part that really upsets me the most is that I never carry money with me, but... my birthday was September 28th and I had $150 in cash in my purse that I was going to use to finally buy a new coffee table. I also had a $100 uncashed check & a $100 Home Depot card from my mom for my husband & I to share for our birthdays. I even had $30 that I got from selling our old entertainment center just a few days ago and $40 from my mom for gas money because I drove our cousin up to the airport. So yeah, I had over $400 in my purse that night and of course that's the night it's gone!
There were these 2 guys who seemed to pop up in every aisle we were in and as soon as I noticed it was missing, those guys popped into my head. I hate to think that way at all, but I'm one of those people who get 'a feeling' about others and unfortunately that's the feeling I got about them.
After being at the store for about 3 hours, searching everywhere including the garbage cans... we gave up and called my friend Cindy who not only came to pick us up to take us home but just happened to have an extra carseat that Rylan could sit in. Thank goodness for friends like her! Her 3 year old daughter Ella was dressed in pink pajamas, pink slippers with her pink blankie and was just happy that we called because she didn't want to go to bed yet anyway. :o)
I sat in tears all last night thinking about all the things that I'll have to replace and all the time & money I'll have to spend to get things taken care of. I already feel entirely overwhelmed with too many things to do, so I am beyond depressed now. My father in law came over this morning to help my husband move the rest of the things from our old house and I sat here for hours with no way to even hear if they had any luck finding my purse. They finally came home over 5 hours later and my husband just handed me a new truck key and said they didn't have any luck finding the purse. They looked in all the carts hoping that it had been transferred from one to another and pushed into the back and even though we were told that they'd look at the security tapes this morning, they actually can't look at them until Monday.
Why couldn't this have happened any other time when I actually don't have any money in there? Why couldn't someone HONEST pick up the purse and return it to someone who works there instead of some lowlife who probably just dug through it to get anything valuable and then threw away all the pictures of my kids & other personal things in the trash?
So we already had to spend $250 today just to get new keys made to get our truck home and now I have to start the process of trying to replace things. We already reported our phone as stolen last night and put a freeze on my debit card, but now I'll need to replace my social security card & the social security cards for all 3 kids, my driver's licence, my credit cards, my debit card & all my shopping cards. I even had gift cards in my purse that we never had a chance to use, like one from my sister 2 years ago so we could go out to a movie as a family, a Pier One card and one for Harbor Freight that my husband earned from one of his credit cards. Countless other things were in there too like all my coupons, pictures of my kids & friend's kids, business cards that I need, contact numbers, receipts... you name it, it was in there.
I spent too much time thinking today and ended up breaking down while curled up on the couch in the fetal position and once Rylan was ready for a nap, I took one too. We woke up a few hours later but I didn't feel any better at all. There have been times in my life when I just wanted to crawl under a rock and this is one of those times. I know that losing your purse really doesn't seem like that big of a deal and I know some people will read this and tell me to just get over it. It's just that I was already depressed, stressed & overwhelmed already so this feels really big to me right now.
I know I'll get through this and that everything works out in the end, I promise I do! I've had tough times before and I've always made it - I just need to vent, so thank you for letting me do that.
:o)
Faith
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It's hard buying a new house...seems the first year is a financial strain with everything you have to do. We bought a new fridge tonight. Found Lowe's had it for a couple hundred less than Sears...hmmmmmmm...
I hope good karma comes to you!
I always keep my arm wrapped around the strap of my purse even if I'm standing right there. My s-i-l got her purse ripped out of a cart right in front of her. The guy took it and ran, passed it to another person who ran out the door with it. Since then I've been pretty careful with mine. I use to leave mine wide open and walk away from the cart. But not anymore.
Be careful and enjoy that new home. Things will settle down, I promise. This is just a setback. ((((HUGS))))
I would have figured that for the amount that the seller paid to deep clean the carpets, you could have just re carpeted those rooms and now to hear that their way didn't work. Then you have to go deeper into your pockets that are already too dry. I am so sorry. What about remnants for a while so that their mattresses aren't on the bare floor? We were able to pick up a really large one for under $100 and they bounded it for us just like a rug.
About your purse, I bet that makes you feel so violated beyond the stress of having to replace everything. Was your phone insured? What service do you have? I am about to upgrade my Verizon phone, so if you can use the Chocolate that I will be getting rid of, it is yours if you want. (It works great, I just want one with a QWERTY keyboard)
I am so sorry.
What cybergwen said about the remnants, I went to a local carpet shop with the intention of just looking for carpet and I saw their remnant section. They had three that fit perfectly and I was able to do the three rooms for $300, quite a deal.
Back to the purse, really sorry it happened to you. Hopefully they will be able to get a good enough picture of them on camera and the cops can come up with something.
I have had quite a day today, Saturday, and have shared it with everyone on gather. Faith, we have had bad days and things look bad, but there is better to come. I am sending you all the positive energy that I can. I hope they people who took it at least leave your personal things intact and they come back to you.
blessings honey.
so yeah, i can relate,gurL....and you have every right to vent as well as to feel down...if you are like me, you kick yourself for leaving your purse in the cart even if for as little as 10 secs.....
gurL, if i had the scrilla it would be headed your way.....wishing you 10 fold good medicine from here on out....sorry to hear about the carpet situation......large room rugs can be an alternative
hang in there....hugz,gayle
Time for the 'could have / should have's, but dwelling on that isn't likely to make your situation any better. It's likely that your having cash in your purse was the reason you were targeted for that; you must have inadvertently moved the cash while going for something else and somebody noticed.
Incidentally, this type of scenario is undoubtedly why the Social Security Administration recommends that you never take your social security card with you unless you know that you'll need to show it for something.
I'm sorry that I don't know how to cheer you up. I've been robbed three times and it isn't fun at all. It all gets better over time, once we get over it and move on.
I know when I accidently left my purse in a Walamrt grocery cart - I was just sick with thinking about all that I was going to loose.
I hope they will be able to find the person that took it & that you will get it back - maybe even with some of your items in it~
Yes, I have had moments when I feel like things coudn't possibly get worse. I have felt like crawling in a hole and telling everyone to F off. But then comes those little smiling faces that count on us day after day and we don't go into the hole.
Just remember this...................when you get to the end of you robe baby................tie a big big know and hold on.
Plus, crying will do a world of good to. It releases all that built up negative energy and gets you ready to enjoy some good things that are going to come to you soon.
Now I need to go and get some typing lessons.
Sending good thoughts your way...........
Life sucks the rigid member doesn't it?
I wish this hadn't happened to you, but it seems that things like this have a way of finding good and decent people. Maybe you could become a mastermind criminal, infiltrate the "underground" and catch the purse snatching SOB's.
It's a plan anyway. Not to mention a way to take your mind off the carpet situation!
But seriously, I'm sorry this happened to you.
I hope you don't have to much trouble getting all of your documentation replaced.
I send good thoughts your way!
Someone already mentioned never carrying your Social Security cards with you. That is really an easy way for those jerks to do some identity theft. Hopefully, they are too stupid for that. There are 3 major credit reporting networks across the country and you should be checking with them to monitor for identity theft in your name in the future. You can get copies of your credit record locally and you need to check to see if any new credit cards have been opened in your name.
You are very Internet savvy and I'm sure there is some site that gives you lots of things to monitor to make sure you are protected.
I'm hoping and praying that this week brings you some bright moments, that you get those floors to a point you can live with them for the time being and that MAYBE you could get some of your purse contents back.
Sending you {{{hugs}}}.
Identity Theft
The same thing was going on up hee in the grocery stores..a couple guys working independently casing the shoppers and targeting women with their purses left in shopping carts and absorbed in the shopping experience..
they both got busted when one woman turned in time to see one of the creeps grab her purse..she snatched the handle and screamed bloody murder and would not let go..
he fled,cops called and they caught him and his friend..
I am so very sorry for your loss..thank God it was not health or life..
I wish you a smooth path as you set things right with replacing the lost cards etv..
you might want to change the locks on your house if he now has your house keys..you know he will have your address ..unless the cards have the old home address..
I'd be very vigilant the following months..
Oh I will keep you and family in my prayers..
I hope everything turns out well with your family and with your new home.
Love you lots!!
My only advice- once you get the social security cards replaced, don't carry them in your purse. Lock them up somewhere at home. Also, you will want to report this to your bank, to your credit card companies, etc. That way, if any charges come up, or withdrawls at the bank, you can contest them.
Also, ask Home Depot to check surveillance tapes for the parking lot as well, they may be able to see a license plate on the vehicle that the people got into.
Just do not say that, not even in your head.
The feeling of losing your purse period, is awful.
For me, its like being sick. (right in my stomach)
I wish someone HONEST picked up your purse.
I can only imagine how sick I would feel if I had those things inside my purse,
and then lost it.
We are renting and having a hard time affording it, with three children.
My husband has been laid off for the last two months. My health situation is much like your own. I am telling you this because it can get worse. Don't even think about it.
I know, firsthand it is very hard to look up when everything seems to fall apart.
Look up anyway, and on days like this let it out & look up tomorrow.
It makes more difference than you know.
I am sorry this happened to you & wish you better times & tons of good luck for the rest of the year. (and beyond)
BIG BIG HUGS
You may also want to try Shaw industries (they have a website too) and see about carpet.Most bussiness's order from there.We're planning on ordering our carpet there after we refinish the living room and bedroom floors.The living room, hall and stairs are getting carpeted.But, that was about the best for prices if you can't find reminice.We also found a way to save a little money if your hubby or someone you know can install it.We are renting knee kickers, and all the items needed and it's still cheaper then having someone else install it.Ace hardware if you have one near you rents the equipment and it's not expensive.
Things will get better. Things will get easier. Try to look at it as a learning experience. I don't even take my purse into stores anymore -- I carry my bank card in my pocket. When I do take it in, I loop the strap through the cart handle -- they'd have to take the whole cart :)
Another suggestion is to xerox everything in your wallet/purse. Just lay all the cards down on the glass. It's SO much easier to report everything if you have the numbers AND the emergency #s on the back of the card. (Been there, didn't have that!)
It's hard right after you get a house -- don't feel so bad about your kids' room ... the children don't care. To them it's just different, not something bad.
And I agree with the lady who said never say it can't get worse. The Universe has a way of showing us just how much worse things can get. Think positive and positive things will come your way.
You might look into meditation. It's been a big help to me both mentally AND physically. I feel SO much better and so much more in control after I've meditated. It's a challenge to find the time/quiet, but even 15 minutes helps. We have a lot more power in our minds than we think we do. When you're tense and upset, everything is harder and hurts worse. If you can get into a meditative state and fully relax, you'll find some of the pain goes away, at least for a while. Being tense certainly drains your energy and makes things hurt -- I clench my jaw and shoulders when I'm tense, and boy does that hurt after a while!
Every day, several times a day, list all the things you're thankful for. List at least 20 things. If you can't find enough things, just express how thankful you are that you can breath and walk. Be thankful for the bright day or that you can see flowers or that your children are healthy. It sounds stupid, but it really does work, and when you are focussed on the good things happening, more good things seem to follow!
Things will and do get better, if you let them. The purse is only a temporary setback. It's a material thing and while it's inconvenient as hell, it's just a purse. Often, when you truly "let go" of something, it finds it's way back to you (or something better comes along). I should post my experience with thinking I'd lost my GPS device. LOL! We all get caught up in the material things of life, when those are the things that are most fleeting.