i feel sad

Bridget, dear, I've been there and came out the other side. That you are able to share with us this darker side is good and fine. Let us make you feel better now.

Bridget, sharing with friends makes all the difference.

Sadness come from looking back at what was and at what might have been. The circuit breaker is to count your blessings - especially so when the darkness comes and lies heavy - and then to give thanks for those blessings. This allows in the Light - and the present, which is the only time that we actually have, and the only time that we can have a new beginning.

This instant and each instant is the time for a new beginning. And sharing with friends is always a positive and blessed thing to do - it teaches you in your own experience that you are not alone, and are loved. By living thus in the present, the sadness can be left in the past, and the future can take care of itself.

Love and light to you, dear friend.

"its a stare into space sad
no thought at all sad"

I know this kind of sad...I'm sorry that you are having a bad time, and you are correct you will get through it, but sadness tends to linger a bit. There are those out here in cyberspace that care. hang in there.

Hello Bridget dear.Your poem expesses your feelings beautifully.
After living a long time I discovered the beauty of sadness.To feel it fully and respect the legitamacy of it's place in my life.That it would be totally unreasonable not to feel sad at times and so not to fight it but treat it like a friend who is passing through...Of course friends can outstay their welcome and I have to make the choice to ask my friend to leave,(in the nicest possible way of course)and if it takes making fun of myself,or singing all day,whatever...then that's what I do.I fake it till I make it. I'm happy to say I have not had a lengthy sad for quite some time now. This process works for me Bridget,I'm hoping it can work for you.Much love Bluey.

Bridget, forgetting for a moment that this represents a time of emotional turmoil for you, allow me to say i just loved this! The rhythm, the pace, particularly in the lines following 'but" where i found myself nodding, and thinking.. yes.. that's right!.. yes! exactly! I think you've articulated something very important here in a truly effective way. well done.

hellos to all you dear people I don't feel sad now Yay!! Hooray!!
your words of comfort, advice and wisdom really touch my heart and i count each of you as a blessing in my life
Faith believe me you have made me feel better and it does help knowing I'm not the only one x
Amelie thank you x
and yes I agree writing can be cathartic in fact i wanted to write that very thing but the spelling escaped me at the time !!!
Robin how kind you sound and thank you i feel up and in now x
Magi you are so gifted with words and I am humbled every time you share some of that gift with me there is truth and inspiration on every line and I feel your understanding and warmth radiating from them. I am working on living in the present my son does it naturally it is his wisdom. thank you for the love and light you send this way and for calling me friend x
Sue thank you for just letting me know you care it really does make a difference the sadness didnt linger too long this time x
Bluey hello I'm glad you came and I feel you gave me a hug 'the beauty of sadness' now you have opened my eyes to this it's a possibility I can consider and I think I may well come to agree with you - I love the idea you have shared and yes i think it could work for me 'a friend passing through' yes l like it thank you x
Carolyn thank you so much for that - trying to make it work as a piece of writing allowed me to detatch (is that how you spell it?) a little from the feeling and helped - i'm glad you think it workd x

Bridget, take heed of Carolyn - believe me, it works! I gave you 10 stars but forgot to mention it.

thank you Magi x

you go girl, you go bridget

hey blue souper Terr ! thanks my dear i will !

this is a powerful poem, Bridget, shot straight from the heart, and speaks to a soul-wrenching angst that kind find explication, perhaps the most difficult of all the sadnesses.

Very explicit. I felt I was there with you. Like you, I somehow inherited the idea that it was not ok to express 'negative' feelings -but these days I feel richer and more whole because I can. Hope you are feeling better now. Love Di xxx

welcome Ed and thank you for your thoughts and empathy x

hello my very dear friend and i am feeling much better now thank you x
in truth you often have been there with me and i too am coming to terms with all of my feelings ---- gradually !!

I feel sad often too, but don't show it because. there is so much to also be thankful for too. But saddness is always with me of late and seems the reasons for it will continue for some time to come. All is not well in my family and extended family and I guess sometimes I have made it worse even when it was not my intention to do so. People take things wrong or read them wrong or maybe they do so deliberately. But communication is a big problem but not on my part on theirs. So yes I relate to feeling sad but I have much to be glad about too. I mostly leave it in God's hands.

Bridget, I have felt this way so much lately. You express it perfectly. The above comments were very helpful to me also.

I always have trouble "living in the moment". Need to work harder to do that.

You are the first person from Ireland I have encountered on gather. I love Ireland, have visited there twice and wish I could come back soon.

Jennine like you l don't often let my sadness show but l have discovered here on gather is a safe and accepting place to do so - it was with much encouragement from wiser heads than mine that l felt able to write and then publish this. most families have times when 'all is not well' and you are right communication is a big problem all we can do is try and like you say leave it in God's hands. thank you for stopping by x

hello jadan - thank you for your kind comments and I agree the comments l received are very useful.
I have been working on 'living in the moment' with some success and then l go into a wobble about - whats gonna happen to my son when l'm too old to care for him; what if we don't get a nice place of our own to live; what if my daughter goes to live and work in China; what if no man ever thinks l'm nice; what if, what if, what if; and then of course the 'if only's and the 'why didn't I's and the 'why me's kick in and oh my goodness my head is spinning and my heart is down but l have been able (mostly) to catch it before its too out of control
my friend diane gave me a little tip just say "I love this" and see what happens
if that fails l bounce madly while my little dog trys to join in

Just wanted to stop by again and see how things were on THIS page :o) still praying, lighting candles and incense for you and hoping for the better days to come along. peace and blessing to you.

thank you julian x
all the prayers, candles and incense must be working because l feel better days are very close
today as we travelled home there was an incredible downpour - we were awaiting our train at Limerick station - the noise of the rain on the roof was so loud it completed drowned out all other sound and everybody stopped still and looked up - it seemed to last for an eternity - in fact it was about 10 mins - but it was amazing - through the doors and windows we could see nothing but sheets of rain and all we could hear was rain - powerful so powerful

Brigid, I know that you are now through that particular sadness but I thought I'd add my voice to those who sent support - and will. Moya

thank you Moya your beautiful voice is very welcome I am sorry l didn't acknowledge it before now x